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I don't have children (that I am aware of...
) but if I did, I would within reason.
This would be based more on location of roads though etc. But I would not leave them for extremely long periods without checking on them etc.
Given that most children are snatched/abused by people they know. The only way you can ensure they are always safe, is to be everywhere with them.
But that's just stupid.
) but if I did, I would within reason.This would be based more on location of roads though etc. But I would not leave them for extremely long periods without checking on them etc.
Given that most children are snatched/abused by people they know. The only way you can ensure they are always safe, is to be everywhere with them.
- Sit next to them in school all day. Teachers and caretakers are a huge risk according to the stats.
- Don't leave them alone in the living room with the family friend/their stepdad/uncle etc. They all fall under the header of "risky".
- Don't allow them out of your sight for even a second. You can't trust those people they know according to stats, let alone those they don't know. In fact stats say the people who are strangers are safer.
- Don't allow them on any school trips unless you can attend and be with them 24hrs a day. Again those teachers are really risky.
But that's just stupid.
I keep hearing this being said over and over again, not everyone is a pedophile, not everyone is a child abductor, which is correct. But there are pedophiles out there and there are people that will snatch kiddies, so i for one would not risk it. Its every parents right to decide what is best for their children and no one should be penalized and told they are doing it wrong.
My 12 year old daughter plays out with friends, she is not and has never been allowed to play out by herself, she is either dropped off at or collected by friends. I wouldnt let a child play out who wasnt able to stay safe, and didnt understand the dangers that roads or other people pose. My son still isnt allowed to play out unsupervised at all, although he does go to his friends houses (escorted) if there is an adult present, my son is nearly 14 and has aspergers.
My children play out but not unsupervised. If I am in the front garden doing some gardening or sitting in the sun with a cuppa then I let them play out the front (I live in a cul-de-sac) if they want to play out and I am busy in the house then they play in the front or back gardens depending on what they want to do.
I'd never let them play out unsupervised in this area, it's dodgy round here! Just to add, my children at the moment are 4, 5 and nearly 8 (He hates it when I say he's 7 because its nearly his birthday and he is a big boy :laugh
I'd never let them play out unsupervised in this area, it's dodgy round here! Just to add, my children at the moment are 4, 5 and nearly 8 (He hates it when I say he's 7 because its nearly his birthday and he is a big boy :laugh
My son was allowed out to play from around 9 years and that was with out neighbours son who was 11. He was allowed to the park less than 2 mins away but had to check in regularly and had to be in way before dusk.
People who say i'm from a small town etc as if that makes a difference, bad people can live anywhere
People who say i'm from a small town etc as if that makes a difference, bad people can live anywhere
I wouldnt risk letting my kids out to play without supervision. When they are old enough to realize the dangers of being out and they are out together or in a group (walking to high school etc) then they can go out.
I refuse to be one of those parents who has to say 'if only i was watching them..if only they hadnt have gone out alone.'
I feel sorry for the kids that are out walking the streets until god knows what time at night, i despise the parents who get the kids from school and as soon as they are off the school run the kids are out walking the streets until after dark without a thought from their parents I hear parents walking the streets shouting their kids because they have no idea where they have gone and its after dark..some people should not have kids.
Its a complete different ball game if your stood watching your kid from a window and they are playing on a green outside because they are still being watched and not left unsupervised.
I refuse to be one of those parents who has to say 'if only i was watching them..if only they hadnt have gone out alone.'
I feel sorry for the kids that are out walking the streets until god knows what time at night, i despise the parents who get the kids from school and as soon as they are off the school run the kids are out walking the streets until after dark without a thought from their parents
I hear parents walking the streets shouting their kids because they have no idea where they have gone and its after dark..some people should not have kids. Its a complete different ball game if your stood watching your kid from a window and they are playing on a green outside because they are still being watched and not left unsupervised.
I am but you seem to be making judgments such as I am paranoid...but thats okay...you have a right to make harsh judgments...even if they are wrong.Are we not discussing???
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You missed the middle ground...not all kids that play out are kicked out until late at night by halfwit parents...I wouldnt risk letting my kids out to play without supervision. When they are old enough to realize the dangers of being out and they are out together or in a group (walking to high school etc) then they can go out.
I refuse to be one of those parents who has to say 'if only i was watching them..if only they hadnt have gone out alone.'
I feel sorry for the kids that are out walking the streets until god knows what time at night, i despise the parents who get the kids from school and as soon as they are off the school run the kids are out walking the streets until after dark without a thought from their parents
Its a complete different ball game if your stood watching your kid from a window and they are playing on a green outside because they are still being watched and not left unsupervised.
Slightly true, i know when i was older i was never home when my mum said and i reveled in going home past midnight
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Harsh judgements? And i'm wrong?, thought this was a discussion where it is inevitable there will be differing opinions, otherwise it would not be a discussion...
Im sorry but a child younger than say 11 shouldnt really be walking the streets anyway..there is no reason why a child under that age should not have a parent or an older sibling etc for supervision..and its not about there being a perv on every street..its about them being safe and a young child has no real idea of safety and wouldnt spot danger.
I only have step kids, but no they don't play outside, but only because it's boring round here and they're not city savvy. I always played outside as a kid, in a nicer area I would have no problem with the step kids going out.
Your attitude might be different if you actually had kids....say you dont know how you would feel until you have this tiny person looking to you for protection....for sure as hell...if you mess up and that child were to get hurt....lost....worse....you would have let that child down...something that must be very difficult to live with.I don't have children (that I am aware of...
This would be based more on location of roads though etc. But I would not leave them for extremely long periods without checking on them etc.
Given that most children are snatched/abused by people they know. The only way you can ensure they are always safe, is to be everywhere with them.
- Sit next to them in school all day. Teachers and caretakers are a huge risk according to the stats.
- Don't leave them alone in the living room with the family friend/their stepdad/uncle etc. They all fall under the header of "risky".
- Don't allow them out of your sight for even a second. You can't trust those people they know according to stats, let alone those they don't know. In fact stats say the people who are strangers are safer.
- Don't allow them on any school trips unless you can attend and be with them 24hrs a day. Again those teachers are really risky.
But that's just stupid.
I dont want to sound all gushy but you cannot imagine the love a parent has for a child until you experience it.....some may say Im paranoid but Id say very careful.....thats not to say I look down on parents that do let their kids out...thats their choice but not for me.
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Is the term i'm looking for 'smother mother' because that can cause a hell of a lot of damage...
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Its okay...i don't think anyone noticed...(Will pretend I hadn't noticed that you singled out my post. A few others who don't have their own children had posted before me.
my daughter is ten , and she plays with another girl the same age, and I believe them to be safe .. they will walk to the bob shop for sweets , walk back and forward from each others houses .. but, she had always been responsible and I trust her to carry on bring so .
Stop being a drama queen (king) dont flatter yourself that I single your posts out....you are just like any other poster on here. Dont keep dragging crap from one thread to another.I have looked after children and been responsible for them (legally). Just that none of them have been lucky enough to carry any of my genes.
(Will pretend I hadn't noticed that you singled out my post. A few others who don't have their own children had posted before me.
Just have to add a little bit more. I know that the amount of 'bad people' hasnt changed. Whats changed is the fact that we are more aware of them now. My nana (r.i.p) was always very different to her generation. She was 85 when she died not long ago and she was from the generation that would just let their children go out all day. She however was nearly snatched as a child, this experience was how she raised her children, grand children and great grand children. She would only let us get in taxis with female drivers. She wouldnt let us walk home alone. She would not let us meet her town (when we were older, teens). Because i am aware of all the bad that can happen, i am going to help my babies (when i have them) keep their innocence and enjoy their childhood, without the threat of danger by people or vehicles on the street.
I think you should appreciate how others prefer to parent..you may decide your parenting methods by reading reports and statistics..others choose to parent how it feels right for them.
Shove the statistics and the reports imo i would rather i knew my kids were safe and supervised. If that makes me a 'smother mother' than im bloody proud to be one.
Okay getting the feeling that there is something going on here that does not relate to this thread. Come on people, stop with the nasties. Butterfly's, rainbows and bunnies
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