We picked our 18mo MC girl up on Sunday and she seemed to settle right in, she was massively affectionate, found her toy box right away, curled up and snoozed with my partner and was an all round cuddle bug. I know we’ve had her less than a week but she seems to be getting more timid rather than better.
As time goes on, she seems to get more and more unsettled. She stayed in one room for the first couple of days and now we let her up the stairs and onto a landing with all the upstairs rooms shut. When she’s downstairs, she growls up the stairs, when she’s brave enough to go up she won’t come back down and growls from the landing. Its like she forgets it’s all still her territory.
She only likes spending time with me and hides from my partner now despite being his number one fan on day one, but she still isn’t overly affectionate with me anymore. I’m not bothered about having a lap cat but she was so cuddly and purr-y when we met her, and when she first came home, I can’t help but wonder if something is wrong? I can’t tell if this is her personality coming out and she’s a bit highly strung, or if the cat we brought home is the cat she wants to be and she’s just figuring things out.
She’ll only eat if I watch her, which I take as her being safe with me so that’s something good! She jumps at every noise, growls and hides if she hears footsteps above her if someone is upstairs. She just seems so scared of the world and it makes me sad. I don’t want her to BE anything, I’m not wishing for a lap cat, she can do what she likes, but I just want her to be confident and it’d be nice if she didn’t hate my SO so much.
Sorry for the rambling post. She’s my first pet as an adult and I want her to be really happy with us. I cried the other night because I was worried she’d decided she didn’t like us and wouldn’t bond with us :Sorry
We do play several times a day, and she eats and uses her tray. I’m just hoping this is some sort of settling in phase and she’ll be content with us eventually. I am happy with the cat we have, it’s not like I don’t want a skittish cat because I want to play with it like a stuffed animal. I just don’t want the kitty to be living in constant fear with us.
As time goes on, she seems to get more and more unsettled. She stayed in one room for the first couple of days and now we let her up the stairs and onto a landing with all the upstairs rooms shut. When she’s downstairs, she growls up the stairs, when she’s brave enough to go up she won’t come back down and growls from the landing. Its like she forgets it’s all still her territory.
She only likes spending time with me and hides from my partner now despite being his number one fan on day one, but she still isn’t overly affectionate with me anymore. I’m not bothered about having a lap cat but she was so cuddly and purr-y when we met her, and when she first came home, I can’t help but wonder if something is wrong? I can’t tell if this is her personality coming out and she’s a bit highly strung, or if the cat we brought home is the cat she wants to be and she’s just figuring things out.
She’ll only eat if I watch her, which I take as her being safe with me so that’s something good! She jumps at every noise, growls and hides if she hears footsteps above her if someone is upstairs. She just seems so scared of the world and it makes me sad. I don’t want her to BE anything, I’m not wishing for a lap cat, she can do what she likes, but I just want her to be confident and it’d be nice if she didn’t hate my SO so much.
Sorry for the rambling post. She’s my first pet as an adult and I want her to be really happy with us. I cried the other night because I was worried she’d decided she didn’t like us and wouldn’t bond with us :Sorry
We do play several times a day, and she eats and uses her tray. I’m just hoping this is some sort of settling in phase and she’ll be content with us eventually. I am happy with the cat we have, it’s not like I don’t want a skittish cat because I want to play with it like a stuffed animal. I just don’t want the kitty to be living in constant fear with us.
