Stef had been so welcoming to me. Obviously I hadn't even a cat but my friends sister had and was worried. Well actually she had two, and instead of asking a question I messaged Steph and she was nothing but lovely. Although she had been lovely.

What most people don't know about me is I am also grieving. We are waiting on the coroners report for my friends son who passed away suddenly. He had underlying health problems and Down Syndrome but he was 'our community'

My brain is fried at the moment, with medication, lack of a certain one, emotions etc sadness grief etc. When I brought Ivy home the first thing I did when I had a moment was share in my joy of cats, and ask for tips and help from Steph. I knew she would be brilliant. Then because my head is all over the place I called her by the wrong name, and had to apologise a few hours later. I think it's because I need to make a phone call to someone with a name beginning with S about how my friend was and funeral arrangements.

I woke up about half an hour ago thinking Steph hasn't replied. I hope everything is OK. I will start a thread. Yes another one.

@SusieRainbow I think it's a good idea to have a collection. I believe Steph volunteered at a rescue so would they accept a donation from us.

RIP Steph, you will be missed but never forgotten

 

I didn't know Chillminx much but it's clear from the tributes how valued she was, how kind, thoughtful and knowledgeable she was. A true credit to the forum.

RIP Stef. The night sky has gained another star.

Deepest Sympathy to your family, friends (RL and virtual), and your beloved cats.

X

 

Such sad news

 

This is such sad news, her posts in the cat section were always so informative, knowledgeable & helpful to so many people. She obviously took so much time to help people out & offer advice

I think donations to her rescue or a cat related charity would be a good idea & I would definitely donate.

 

Oh no this is so sad I don’t post much in cat chat but do read quite a bit and she was so knowledgeable and caring and helped everyone she could. What a loss to the world

My condolences to her family and friends. R.I.P Stef

 

I came on here so shocked to hear about chillminx one of the most selfless wonderful knowledge people on here. She always gave such great advice and long written replies to help people with there cats. She will be sadly missed and if I can help on the memorial let me know.

 

Such shocking news, I'm truly very sad to read this. She was the kindest, most knowlegeable person on this forum. She gave so much time to helping people with their questions and problems and she gave so much of herself to her love of cats.

My thoughts and prayers go to her family and friends.

Stef we will all miss you, lovely lady and remember you with much affection. God bless

Please include me in a tribute

 

I’m lost for words. This is such incredibly sad news. She really was the heart and soul of the forums, always there with the best advice, never judgmental and always helpful with the interest of cats at the forefront.

She will be missed by so many, and I feel privileged to have been one of the countless she helped with her kindness and wisdom.

Sleep peacefully Stef xx

I would be happy to donate towards a tribute for her x

 

I am so shocked to read this news. Stef was one of the forums constants, always there and ready to help particularly in regard to her knowledge about diets and food trials.

We often messaged one another, most recently she supported me through diagnosis and treatment for an allergy related skin issue with one of my cats as she'd gone through the same with one of her own. I did wonder why she'd stopped posting just recently but had no idea just how poorly she was.

Rest in peace Stef xx

 

I'm lost for words. RIP Chillminx, you will be missed.

 

Very sad news, I also benefited from Stef's support and knowledge. As everyone else has said she was always there to help people, in such a kind way. I'd also like to make a contribution.

RIP Stef xxx

 

I was thinking it might be nice to send a donation from the forum to the charity Stef helped at. If there's sufficient collected, and I'm sure there will be, how about a pen in her name?
What do members think? Mods?

 

I think this is exactly what Stef would love

 

I haven’t got words. How incredibly sad. Stef helped me & Jasper more than anyone could ever understand and I feel angry that such a wonderful lady has been taken from the world.
When I can collect my thoughts I will write something more.

I would like to help with any memorial. Words nor, money would never be enough to show my gratitude to her, but I would like to help x

I hope she rests in complete peace xx

 

Oh, no no no.

This is devastating news.

She was one of the most helpful nice people on this forum.

Utterly terrible.

 

I am so deeply saddened by this news! Stef, which has repeatedly been said, is such a warm, kind, honest, lovely lady and my friend.

I will miss our chats of our favourite period of history and our shared love of classic music.

In my prayers x

I will play a piece from her beloved JS Bach in remembrance for a in incredibly kind lady who will be very much missed by so many.

 

I am so deeply saddened by this news! Stef as has repeatedly been said, is such a warm, kind, honest, lovely lady and my friend.

I will miss our chats of our favourite period of history and our shared love of classic music.

In my prayers x

I will play a piece from her beloved JS Bach in remembrance for a in incredibly kind lady who will be very much missed by so many.

Thank you so much for those kind words and the Bach piece. Hauser is very talented isn't he... I was listening to it whilst reading the comments. Stef would be so humbled by all the lovely tributes. Words can't express how sad I feel right now.

 

I'm shocked and upset by this terribly sad news. I didn't know she was so ill. Stef was one of the first people I "met" on the forum and helped with my lovely cat, Betty and the issues she had when we first rescued her. She was so friendly, so knowledgeable and so kind. She was such an important member of the forum, a true "VIP", she will be greatly missed. My condolences to her family, friends and loved ones.

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Thank you for posting the Bach piece, I actually read the rest of the messages whilst it played, which was beautiful and fitting.

If able, it would be nice for the family if they were able to read all these kind messages that Stef has received and how she has helped so many people whom she never met.

I would also like to contribute to the pen, I know the Golden Oldies was a charity she supported, or wherever is appropriate. I have paypal.

RIP Stef.
Your legacy will last.

 

If able, it would be nice for the family if they were able to read all these kind messages that Stef has received and how she has helped so many people whom she never met.

This is kind of what I was thinking with a thread of remembrance or a book of remembrance - something that can be shared with Stef's family to show what an impact she had on lots of people here.

 

Please include me for both floral tribute and other

 

I don’t post in the cat part of the forum but often read threads particularly if a title catches my interest. Chilliminx posts were always thoughtful, kind and always helpful. She will be sadly missed

 

Oh my gosh. I'd noticed her absence. Thank you so much for letting us know @Annealise. My deepest condolences to her family, friends and pets. I hope she didn't suffer.

 

Devastating news. Chilliminx was such a fount of wisdom and knowledge from which so many benefited.
I always read her posts with great interest and learnt such a lot from her. The forum will be a sadder place for her passing.
My thoughts are with her family and friends.
I'd be more than happy to contribute.

 

Devastating news she was a shining light of reason and reasonableness. A lovely lady .deeply missed

 

As I'm sitting reading everyone's beautiful messages, Stormzy is on the radio (Blinded by Your Grace) and I'm struck as to how the world will definitely be a much worse place without Stef in it.

I think the pen name at the rescue Stef volunteered at is a great idea @SbanR - I'm happy to contribute to flowers and anything else that people think fitting.

 

Oh my gosh I am so shocked and sad to read this. Rest in peace Chillminx, a truly beautiful kind soul.
I would also like to contribute to any collections or flowers.

 

Tears streaming down my face at this news, I actually can’t find the words right now

 

I am utterly heartbroken to read this; there are not enough words to describe what an amazingly kind and giving person she was and such an enormous asset to this forum who will be terribly missed. I even contacted her when a friend had concerns about her cat and she too was amazed at the wonderful help she so readily and happily gave. It would be marvellous to have a lasting memorial to such a wonderful lady and I would like to contribute. RIP dear Stef.

 

I haven’t been on for ever such a long time but a PF friend alerted me to this sad news and I had to come and add my tribute and condolences.

If ever the “VIP” status on PF really meant anything then it was meant for someone like Stef. A forum heavyweight and legend in the truest sense who contributed quietly and consistently and rose above the politics, drama, and comings and goings of other members. There can scarcely be a member of the cat forums who hasn’t at one point or another benefited from her invaluable knowledge and wisdom of cat behaviour. Probably just about the most tagged member of all time as whenever someone popped up with a question or a worry then invariably the rest of us would say “Where’s Chillminx, she’ll know what to do”.

I didn’t know her well on a personal level but I didn’t need to to know that she was a truly lovely lady and she will be sorely missed by all of her friends on the forum and no doubt by all those who knew her “in the real world”.

A huge loss, rest in peace Stef.

I would like to contribute to a memorial please and think a pen in her honour of something along those lines would be a lovely idea and highly fitting.