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Maine coon not accepting resident cat, help!

2.1K views 12 replies 5 participants last post by  TIGGS1  
#1 ·
Hi all. I was hoping someone could give me a bit of advise. We adopted at 5 year old maine coon 6 weeks ago. She came from a lovely breeder who was adopting her out as her last litter didn’t survive due to a pregnancy complication.
We have already a small male cat whom we’ve had from a kitten, he’s 3 years old now. He’s an adorable cat, very mild mannered and quiet, likes to be outside a lot.
The maine coon settled into the house immediately and loves us but hasn’t accepted the resident cat. We’ve kept them separated and swapped over bedding to get them used to each others smells. We gradually tried to introduce them to each other. The resident cat seemed a bit nervous but not too bothered until the maine coon started to run at him and attack him. The resident cat took off terrified and didn’t come back to the house for a day or so. Since then every time we try to get them together it’s the same story, the resident cat just sits and the MC tries to go for him. We hold her back and try to distract with toys and treats which works very temporarily but she soon goes back to stalking him and trying everything she can to get at him, then he runs again, she runs after him, sometimes gets hold of him and the outcome is never very nice.
Really hoping someone can advise on what we can do next as it’s becoming very stressful, the MC is constantly locked into a room as we work all day and can’t risk her attacking him while we’re out. It’s not fair on either cat and we feel that if it goes on any longer we will have to rehome the MC.
Any advise from a behaviourist or anyone with similar experience would be very much appreciated.
 
#6 ·
I was hoping to find a way of keeping her as we've grown attached but may have to give her back.
Oh I understand you feelings, but sometimes what's best for the cats is a hard decision to make. I wouldn't view this as giving up, I would view this as what will be best for both cats. I can't see how either one of them would ever be happy, as this doesn't sound like just an adjustment thing. This sounds like a cat who has had enough of being the underdog, and isn't going to be anymore, ever. And meanwhile your boy is being driven from his home. It doesn't seem fair to prolong it.

This is my opinion anyway. Easy for me to say, not being the one who has already gotten attached. But what about your boy?

It's different, when it's the resident cat objecting. I almost always recommend people give it time. The resident cat usually adjusts and things become peaceful. But this is the one coming in, and trying to drive the other away.

From my viewpoint, she just doesn't want to share territory or resources after having to do it under what sounds like a stressful situation, all her life. She deserves a stress free life as much as your boy does. (and you as well)
 
#8 ·
You may try reintroducing them, ie separating for a few weeks until everyone calms down and starting from scratch. If it got to a point where the MC attacked the resident cat, you probably rushed things a bit. It can take months to introduce a kitten to a household, with adults it’s bound to take longer. Look up Pam Johnson Bennett, she has a great article on cat introductions on her website and also a book called Cat vs Cat.
 
#9 ·
You may try reintroducing them, ie separating for a few weeks until everyone calms down and starting from scratch. If it got to a point where the MC attacked the resident cat, you probably rushed things a bit. It can take months to introduce a kitten to a household, with adults it's bound to take longer. Look up Pam Johnson Bennett, she has a great article on cat introductions on her website and also a book called Cat vs Cat.
Yes I think you could be right that we maybe rushed it although it didn't really feel like it but didn't realise how long it could take. Thank you for the advise and recommendation. I will look into it.
 
#10 ·
I don’t rehome retirees to homes with existing adults for this reason, it’s enough stress to be in a new home without trying to settle into another cats territory. The girls deserve a peaceful life as queen of the house after all they’ve given us.

While 6 weeks isn’t very long, I wouldn’t want things to continue in this way much longer.

Some breeding cats can also be funny about the colours of cats they like or dislike.
 
#11 ·
Cats are naturally more territorial than dogs, and some are happy in their solitude. Territorial behavior in cats can present itself in a number of ways and usually involves spraying urine, hissing, stalking, or attacking another cat.

Existing household cats often view a new cat as an invader or intruder. If you bring a strange cat home and try an immediate introduction you will very likely trigger a panic switch in your exsisting cat

Cats can also be picky about different cats and may tolerate one but not another. .

Maine Coons develop strong bonds with their owners and It is possible for a Maine Coon to be jealous of any other cat that is introduced into its territory to compete for its owner’s attention
so it would be good to look Pam Johnson Bennett, s article on cat introductions as mentioned
 
#12 ·
Maine Coons develop strong bonds with their owners and It is possible for a Maine Coon to be jealous of any other cat that is introduced into its territory to compete for its owner's attention
Of course in this case it's the new cat who is presenting the problem, the resident cat appears happy to welcome the newcomer.