I used to be a pet forum junkie, belonging to many. However it was things like this, as you stated above, and the constant "my cat is pregnant what should I do" threads, that finally has caused me to drop out of almost all of them. I just can't take the worry over unknown animals any more. People want quick magical fixes, they want to be told "everything will be all right" even though it is clear that it won't be.

 

As soon as you mention the Vet word it scares them away I have come across so many in the past here who just don't want to pay out for a vet. Mostly seem to be first time posters who then just disappear!

 

Happens in Dog Chat too. People come in asking for advice then storm off in a strop because it isn't what they wanted to hear and it would mean they would have to care for the dog properly instead of sitting around moaning.

 

I know how you feel, not animal related but at our Agility club one of the younger women was buying a house with her boyfriend and asked one of the other members who lived local to where they'd seen a house they liked, what the area was like, the answer was 'don't buy there, it's a rough area' she replied 'no it's not, we have the field out the back' the local replied 'yes, all the ne'er do wells congregate there, please don't think about buying it' again the reply was 'your wrong' they bought the house and 18 months later they're moving because it's such a bad area.

Why ask advice if you're not going to take it or like the answers.

 

I only post to try to help cats in need or to provide requested information (plus the occasional pic!) Sometimes what I say is welcomed and sometimes it is ignored. If I can help some cats that is the most I can ask but I do worry about the others. Having said that, let's face it, we could be anybody and some of the advice given on some topics can be pretty awful. (This is often how threads deteriorate into arguments long after the OP has disappeared. We always feel we need to correct inaccuracies and so it goes on.....and on.) A forum is not much different from communication with our fellow human beings generally, fraught with difficulty and misunderstanding!

 

I couldn't agree more, if I can be bothered to offer advice, often with links, it would be nice to get a response. It's so annoying when the advice is ignored or thrown back at you, I sometimes don't even bother.

 

I know how you feel. My two are insured. I am not! I can chose to be in pain or put off stuff.
Cats are so good at hiding pain. Iv never complained or cried. I have to stop myself looking at certain fb pages as I could easily get so so angry and upset.

 

Daily occurrence for me - lots of people ignore advice. Especially regarding dental treatment.

 

Daily occurrence for me - lots of people ignore advice. Especially regarding dental treatment.

I was going to like this but changed my mind. I find this heartbreaking. At least two people who have had my cats have tortured them by refusing to have dental work that they or a vet (or both) said was necessary. I thought one of my owners was simply callous and the other insane but to think that is multiplied many times is unforgiveable especially when you think what a difference a dental makes to a cat who was in pain. Two Oriental cats came in to rescue before Christmas with concerns over their temperaments. All they needed was lots of love and a dental each and now they are happy in their new homes.

 

All of the above. Its the main reason I took a long break from here. I can forgive true ignorance but my patience was wearing too thin for those that choose to ignore advice

 

Completely agree
I find it particularly hard on the health forum. I try to be diplomatic but most of the time people just need to be told it's a vet they need and not a forum. Usually that is not what they want to hear so they then disappear. I then worry about the cat for a while afterwards.
Prime example.
http://www.petforums.co.uk/threads/any-advice-greatly-appreciated.421609/
:Arghh

 

Ohh welcome back @Polski - nice to see you again! xx :Happy

 

I think some people who ask for advice are really only looking for assurance that they have made the right decision. It the answers aren't in accord with what they want to hear then it's okay to ignore them. That's life I'm afraid, on the forum or otherwise

 

Its human nature, if the answer you get isn't what you wanted to hear then "pfft! ignore it" seems to be order of the day. I've seen it many times in all sorts of situations.

 

I think i will have to restrict the groups and forums i go to, it's started to get to me so much, i have sleepless nights worrying about other peoples cats, people who never bother to update so my mind goes into overdrive...
and the stupidity of some people amazes me, there was a lady on facebook who said its her cats human right to be able to have babies, when i pointed out her cat didnt actually have any human rights that it was her job to do the right thing and spay her cat i was litterally called a monster for wanting to take her cats future family away...so i'm giving up...at least for tonight!

I've decided that there are just a lot of idiots and trolls out there...none on PF though