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would you respond to this advert?

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by tiatortilla, Nov 13, 2012.


  1. tiatortilla

    tiatortilla PetForums VIP

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    helloo, just wondered if you saw this advert in a shop would you be willing to help out? anything you think i should add/change?

    WANTED:
    Somebody with a large, calm dog - primarily for on lead walks but potentially moving on to play, to help build my nervous dogs confidence back up around bigger dogs. She can occasionally be growly and sometimes bark as she's scared but excited, so your dog will need to be of sound temperament, but she is a nice dog and would love a big friend!
    Preferably dogs labrador size or larger as these are the ones she needs to feel more comfortable around.
    Please cal 07********* if you can help!


    how does that sound to you?
     
  2. Phoolf

    Phoolf PetForums VIP

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    I might do if I had a dog fitting that description. You might also want to ring round trainers or behaviourists and see if they have any 'stooge' dogs themselves they would be happy to use to help tia. :)
     
  3. Phoolf

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    As an aside I would be wary to put out an ad like this to joe public as a lot of people do have lovely dogs with lovely temperaments but they don't know enough about dog behaviour and language to see any problems that could occur, so it could not work out as you would hope.
     
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  4. rona

    rona Still missing my boys

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    Is this you?

    Are you offering them anything?


    I would answer something like that if the dog was small as I think it's why Alfie was put on this earth :)
     
  5. Wiz201

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    I do have a dog that could benefit her, but I'd be wary that he or she might try to get training advice off me and then pin the blame back on me when the dog reacts aggressively to another dog. So, no is the short answer.
     
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    Considering how many people think that they have 'friendly' dogs I'd also try a trainer that you could go on dog walks with.
     
  7. Bagrat

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    I know you don't want to put people off but I think I would add something along the lines of " I have taken advice and would want to stick with the suggestions made for initial steps so hope I won't come across as bossy if I explain what I want to do". I'm sure there's a better way of saying that but I think any volunteers need to know that you will call the shots and it's not just a pleasant companiable walk (to start with anyway), situation will need managing. Also you don't want to be on receiving end of well meaning advice.

    I probably would had I had my last dog who was very forgiving of crass behaviour from other dogs.
     
  8. Sarah1983

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    You may be shocked at what some people consider to be calm and friendly. And at how resistant people are to actually doing what you ask them to do.
     
  9. BananaBassett

    BananaBassett PetForums Senior

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    I would reply to this if I had the right dog. However I would be careful of naive owners who know nothing of handling a dog in a potentially bad situation; just because they own the dog doesn't mean they would know what to do themselves if necessary. It's a tough one
     
  10. PoisonGirl

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    Yeah I would.

    You should probably meet the dog before introducing it to your dog though, and explain what it is you want them to do.


    I not long ago put an add similar to that on the local pet FB site, to help a friends dog, and a genuine helpful person responded and we were able to carry out a few training exercises so I could show my friend (who doesn't really live near me) how to do it with dog owners who lived near her.
     
  11. tiatortilla

    tiatortilla PetForums VIP

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    thanks for the replies everyone.
    to all those who've suggested training classes we are going but not til the end of the month and i wanted something a bit more immediate, as i've only managed to get her on a one-off course as that's all that's available and i don't drive.
    i will want to meet the dog and owner first as i get what you all mean about what other people consider calm. and as for what i want them to do i did state on lead walks so idk what they can get wrong as i don't want advice, just a walk.
     
  12. tiatortilla

    tiatortilla PetForums VIP

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    yes it is me. i would like to offer something in return but couldn't think what, but all i really want is a companion for walks, i don't want to do training or get advice from a random member of the public.
    and she's a staffie so it kind of depends who you ask. i think she's a small dog but some think they're big!
     
  13. 912142

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    I think you should just place something along the lines of - you would like to introduce your dog to walking (on lead) with a large dog to help with confidence issues.

    If your dog is on lead you will have control whilst at the same time able to keep an eye on the body language. If the walk doesn't go well then you can walk away without any issues developing, then try again another day. Short, sweet and consistent.
     
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    I would ask at the vets, they may well know of the perfect play mate, or at least let you put an ad up.
     
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    tiatortilla PetForums VIP

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    do you think it comes across as if there may be an issue then?
    because she really isn't aggressive at all.. i only put the part about growling/barking just in case, but that's usually only when she wants to play but is unsure of the dog.
     
  16. tiatortilla

    tiatortilla PetForums VIP

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    i've just realised i put 'in a shop'.. i meant in the vets and the pet shop :)
     
  17. JustmeGemmy

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    I would only consider it if the meets were taking place under the supervision of a trained professional. Things can quickly get out of hand if you aren't knowledgeable and I think it would be too big a risk :(
     
  18. tiatortilla

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    sorry if i seem stupid but i don't really understand this POV. we walk our dogs around untrained owners every day, so what could happen for it to go out of control that isn't a risk we all take every day? maybe that ad makes her seem more nervous than she is...
     
  19. BoredomBusters

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    No, partly because I don't need any more dog company, my dogs don't need dogs to play with because they've got me and each other, and I know the trauma some of these 'calm and steady' dogs go through to be constantly lunged and barked at while owners try to work through problems. I also would want to know a professional had 'diagnosed' your dog, because what starts as fear can become learned behaviour (my mini Dachshund is like this with strangers, especially men) and I won't put my dogs at risk for a stranger.

    I've seen people ask similar before on forums, especially for ex-racing Greyhounds wanting parrallel walking for dogs who aren't settling well to outside life and seeing other dogs, and I see lots of people volunteering. Whether they go ahead, or do it more than once, or updates on the dog never seem to follow.
     
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  20. rona

    rona Still missing my boys

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    I was just thinking you could offer to buy them a coffee or light lunch.

    Just as a thank you :)
     
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