Hi everyone, a few months ago I lost my 20 year old cat, he was the absolute love of my life and his death has left me heartbroken. I had him from 8 weeks old. I have recently adopted two 9 month old cats from a rescue shelter but I am struggling to build any kind of a relationship with them and am beginning to fear they may be feral. Both times that we saw them at the shelter they were extremely timid and hid from view, but they were gorgeous so my partner and I decided to go with them. I was told that they had recently been brought over from Portugal, they had been in a shelter there but the owner of the shelter had died and all the cats were transported to the UK (paid for by the deceased owners will). I assumed that their timid behaviour was down to the trauma of being moved like that, I can’t think of anything worse for a small cat. However, to cut a long story short they have been with us now for 3 weeks, and whilst clearly very happy in our home - they have the run of the place, they won’t let us anywhere near them. I have tried the whole ‘ignore them’ bit but it’s made no difference. I’ve tried treats, toys, all sorts of things to bond with them, but nothing works. It occurred to me the other day that they behave like the feral cats you see abroad, who hang out around restaurants hoping for scraps. Whenever you give them a treat they grab it and run to a corner, surreptitiously munching it whilst wildly looking around to make sure no ones going to attack them. I always thought feral cats could be tamed but I was dismayed to read that after 12 weeks it’s too late for them to ever be fully tamed. I feel heartbroken by all this, it’s made me long for my dead boy cat all the more. Am I just being impatient - expecting too much after 3 weeks? Or, is it indeed just their age? I feel like I’m living with 2 totally wild animals but I recognise that they are the equivalent of teenagers. I would really like some advice as to what to do next. The shelter told us to keep them indoors for 5 weeks, they are clearly longing to get outside but I’m worried that at this rate they still won’t be bonded with us by the time I open the cat flaps. There is a nature reserve at the back of our house, with a plentiful supply of rabbits, mice etc. I’m genuinely frightened that once they discover they can hunt all their own food they simply won’t come back. Another cat I had who died 3 years ago never ate cat food, she hunted all her own food but the difference is she was devoted to me and even slept in bed with us under the covers. If these two don’t bond with us, what reason would they have to come home?