Situation is this: School holidays, next door neighbour has started work part time, three kids - two of which go to a childminder when she's at work, the older (aged 11) is left (at his request) at home alone. I'm at home on a week off work with my son (10). I am expecting my son to be off over yonder hills fishing, playing and generally doing boys stuff away from home returning only for refreshments, first aid as required and to check in occasionally. Neighbours child is very underconfident and won't play out beyond our immediate houses being scared of teenagers etc. Normally the kids mix in and out of each others houses, we feed them lunch or they feed them, it's neither here nor there - but this is usually when my neighbours/us are at home or we have arranged specifically to look after the kids for an hour whilst we do x/y or z. So why am I feeling resentful - today for the second full day I have had the neighbours son around all day, fed him lunch rather than send him home to make his own. I have suggested they go out and about, even take their lunch up to the park, but it's not happening with the underconfident child - and my son accommodates this weakness. I can hear them now in next doors garden both playing with the hose pipe and am unsure as to interfere or not, after all I haven't even been asked to keep an eye on neighbours child, but mine is there unsupervised (albeit by my ear over the fence). I feel that it would be unfair on my son to call him home and say to neighbours child - tough, you're on your own, you wanted this like it or lump it, go away. I feel really resentful of the situation I find myself in but at the same time recognise that my son does have somebody to play with. If my neighbours were home it wouldn't be a problem and no doubt one of us would take their child/ren out somewhere and invite the other. If I were to take my son off somewhere then I'd feel obliged to ask home alone child to come along with us. Sorry for long post - just feeling resentful.