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A few months ago, I posted on this site and got good advice so am asking for your opinion again. My oh wanted a watch dog and a family pet so we got a boxer dog. After a few weeks, he decided he didnt like the dog much. After a few months he still hasnt bonded with him and is always irritated by him. Now our dog is six months old and he is becoming very naughty. My oh looks after him all day when I am at work but he just ignores him most of the time and when I come back from work, i find that he ate skirting boards, ripped off the wall, destroyed coats and chewed stairs. This I know is due to boredom and the fact that he is a massive chewer and he s always hungry, despite being wormed every month and fed twice a day of a good amount of food.
I walk him after work for about forty minutes and do a few commands but clearly it s not enough to stimulate him. I gave him a roast pork bone which could have hurt him as he ate a 30 cm bone in less than ten minutes, threw it all up with big sharp bits so I dont give him that anymore. A filled kong lasts about five minutes and he doesnt play with his toys, he prefers the furniture or walls. I sprayed them with anti chew products with no success. The only thing that lasts a day or two is pressed bones but am so worried that a bit will get stuck as I have heard so many negatives about them. My dog is obsessed with food and he will look for more to eat as soon as he s finished his bowl. He stole and ate a full loaf of bread once, he eats stones and wood and anything really.
When I am here he s a bit better as I try to watch him and stimulate him as much as I can but he still manages to go to mischief.
I told my oh if he s not willing to stimulate him during the week it might be best for the dog to find a loving home who will give him the stimulation he needs but he wants to keep the dog.
So I dont know what to do? What safe bones could I give him to keep him occupied longer than ten minutes? What could I do to make sure the dog gets enough stimulation while I am not there? Do you think there are ways or would it be better to rehome him? I dont want to but at this pace, i wont have any house left if he carries on destroying everything!

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What could I do to make sure the dog gets enough stimulation while I am not there?
Does your OH work? Why is he not prepared to spend some time with the dog during the day?

I would suggest you go to classes with him - he is bored and will not train himself (or at least he will find his own fun).

Sorry, if I'm out of order, but your OH wanted a dog and now isn't prepared to make any effort to meet it needs. Unless he does, then yes, the poor pup would be better off being rehomed to home that will look after him properly.
 

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Hi

A few months ago, I posted on this site and got good advice so am asking for your opinion again. My oh wanted a watch dog and a family pet so we got a boxer dog. After a few weeks, he decided he didnt like the dog much. After a few months he still hasnt bonded with him and is always irritated by him. Now our dog is six months old and he is becoming very naughty. My oh looks after him all day when I am at work but he just ignores him most of the time and when I come back from work, i find that he ate skirting boards, ripped off the wall, destroyed coats and chewed stairs. This I know is due to boredom and the fact that he is a massive chewer and he s always hungry, despite being wormed every month and fed twice a day of a good amount of food.
I walk him after work for about forty minutes and do a few commands but clearly it s not enough to stimulate him. I gave him a roast pork bone which could have hurt him as he ate a 30 cm bone in less than ten minutes, threw it all up with big sharp bits so I dont give him that anymore. A filled kong lasts about five minutes and he doesnt play with his toys, he prefers the furniture or walls. I sprayed them with anti chew products with no success. The only thing that lasts a day or two is pressed bones but am so worried that a bit will get stuck as I have heard so many negatives about them. My dog is obsessed with food and he will look for more to eat as soon as he s finished his bowl. He stole and ate a full loaf of bread once, he eats stones and wood and anything really.
When I am here he s a bit better as I try to watch him and stimulate him as much as I can but he still manages to go to mischief.
I told my oh if he s not willing to stimulate him during the week it might be best for the dog to find a loving home who will give him the stimulation he needs but he wants to keep the dog.
So I dont know what to do? What safe bones could I give him to keep him occupied longer than ten minutes? What could I do to make sure the dog gets enough stimulation while I am not there? Do you think there are ways or would it be better to rehome him? I dont want to but at this pace, i wont have any house left if he carries on destroying everything!

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Really you have answered your own questions. I know you are doing all you can and its not your fault, but boxers are high energy and with inadequate exercise and stimulation and being ignored all day I cant see it getting any better, at 6mths he is going to be entering adolescence that can be a trying time and important to give them ongoing training and socialisation. He may even be hungry and food driven as he is going too long between meals. Really he should still be on about 3 meals a day. I would say the destruction is lack of exercise and stimulation certainly.

Any chance your OH will take him out for exercise in the morning or can you
that would likely get rid of some pent up excess energy at least?
Never give him cooked bones they dry out can splinter and cause internal problems. He can have raw bones to chew to give you an idea what is safe see the link. You dont need to get them from there if you have a friendly butcher you can look whats available and then see if you can get them from him. Even raw bones though should be given supervised so your Oh will need to watch him.
Bones & Treats - Natural Instinct

These are safe too stag bars and antler easy chews
Pure Dog | Stagbar antler dog chews | natural dog treats | organic dog snacks | hypoallergenic dog chews | long-lasting dog chews | teeth cleaning dog chews | low fat dog treats

https://www.antlerdogchews.co.uk/index.php?route=product/product&product_id=140

You can give him kongs here is ideas too for recipes and fillings you can freeze them as well to make them last longer, you can even get wet food like nature diet and freeze them.
Recipes - Kong

Busy buddy twist and treats are good you can again fill them with allsorts and even his kibble from some of his meals
Busy Buddy Twist-n-Treat - YouTube

You can even put his kibble in these giving him mental stimulation
Buster DogMaze - YouTube

Really though if your OH would just walk him and do a few training sessions getting him to do the basic commands praising and giving treats when he gets it right, and with these things too inbetween his walks and training it would probably make a world of difference.
 

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I have a 6 month old boxer pup he is exactly the same as yours he chews, steals and is generally a pain in the backside, this is with training and stimulation throughout the day. I know my boy will get better as he gets older but unfortunately your oh is not giving this poor puppy what he needs.

If he does start interacting with the pup then it should help a lot however by the sound of your post it doesn't seem as if this is going to happen any time soon.
A bored boxer pup will get themselves into a lot of trouble so honestly I would advise you stand your ground with your oh and if he doesn't start to help please rehome the pup so that he can have a chance at a fulfilling life because at this rate he's only going to get worse.
 

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You have a very bored, very energetic young dog on your hands and an OH who is being, frankly, unkind in terms of ignoring the dog.

There are things which can help BUT if your OH continues ignoring the dog all day, then I think you either need to get tough - and I mean REALLY tough - with your OH, or yes think about rehoming him to someone who cares enough to look after him properly. You clearly care, but you are not there all day.

KONG WOBBLER - these are great, you fill it with small treats and/or kibble and then the dog has to manipulate it and push it around to access the food.

STAG BAR - get the large size, should last a while. I would not leave a dog with one without some supervision, personally.

TRAINING - you need to increase the mental stimulation and do as much training with your dog as you possibly can. Use your walks to practise things like 'wait' and 'stop' and 'watch me', anything really!

If you can take your dog on an early morning walk, even if it's just for 20 minutes, that would be a help.

Of course, you could always keep your lovely dog and rehome the OH :D

REHOMING

If you do decide the best route is to rehome, then PLEASE PLEASE contact specific Boxer rescues or at least a reputable rescue home. DO NOT put an ad on 'pre-loved' or any other free site: there are people who will adopt dogs purely to use them for either breeding OR dog fighting. If you charge something you stand a better chance of getting someone genuine; do NOT give your dog away for free.

I truly hope you can avoid this but again, you will need to be seriously TOUGH with your OH. Perhaps point that it is actually unkind to ignore a dog in the way that he is doing!
 
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All of the information I would like to give you has already been said.
Your puppy is very young, energetic and quite understandably bored just like you said!
I have just taken on a young boxer myself 3 days a week in a similar situation, he is owned by a 15 year old who does nothing with him and shuts him in a crate when he's a handful. Obviously this can only get worse, the more energy he preserves, the worse he will be when he gets out.

I feel this can be easily resolved through additional training and exercise to keep his little mind busy and content. However, things with your partner may be a little difficult! He needs to buck up his ideas, and get active with that dog immeadiately, or you rehome it to a reputable organisation / rescue and you NEVER allow him to come up with the notion of owning a dog again!!

OR something that may make a difference to your dog would be getting a dog walker to break up his day, or even book him in to a daycare if this is financially viable for you - he will get the exercise , socialisation and possibly some training needed and he will come home tired and well stimulated both physically and mentally.
However, if you feel your partners behavior and attitude towards the dog (not including his neglectful behavior), is upsetting or unsettling for your dog, rehoming may well be the better option to give your dog a happy , fulfilled life.
 

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Thanks for your replies. Thanks for the links too they were great and will buy some of these see if it keeps him busy. I cant afford a walker every day but could look at several times a week although it infuriates me to have to pay for someone when his master could do it! It would be a shame to rehome him and will try different things first as I am attached to my boy and he s getting so much better at commands! Plenty of work to do still with him but he s getting there. Will try different things before making a final decision. Thanks again for your advice
 

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hi,

i joined here recently and got some good feedback regarding my new dog. if you can get your oh to try at least one walk with the dog, that would help. i really bonded with my terrier through dog walking, even from the very first time. and through that bond of going out walking together it made things easier with regards to having patience with his naughty moments. i hope you all have a good outcome :smile:
 

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Oh my OH wont walk him at all! To be honest walking him wasnt what bothered me the most as I can do that morning and evening but it s the fact he ignores him and let him being destructive. I told him to play with him at least twenty minutes every two, three hours. Maybe rehoming the oh and get a sitter would be best instead ;) i have frozen the kong for today, hopefully will keep him busy for an hour, the deer antlers look a good option too and will buy him a kong wobbler. There s also a food bowl with 14 different compartiments that will force him to eat more slowly and wont feel so hungry ( maybe!!! ) so might get that too! And will look at hiring a pet walker maybe twice a week for an extra walk, depending on my budget. And hopefully my big boy wont be so destructive!
 

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What reason does your OH give for refusing to walk or interact with the dog? I am pleased that you are doing your best by your dog, but it really saddens me that you feel that you should have to pay for a walker, buy lots of boredom buster toys etc when the person who actually wanted the dog refuses to interact with him :(.
 

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Your OH won't even walk the dog - not at all?

He doesn't deserve to own a dog, frankly.

What happens if you go away to visit a friend for a day or two?
What happens if you have a cold and are stuck inside?
What happens if you have to work late?

Sorry, but it is unacceptable on every level for a dog owner to REFUSE to walk or interact with their dog!

Also very upsetting for your dog to be ignored by one of his two owners.
 

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Oh my OH wont walk him at all! To be honest walking him wasnt what bothered me the most as I can do that morning and evening but it s the fact he ignores him and let him being destructive. I told him to play with him at least twenty minutes every two, three hours. Maybe rehoming the oh and get a sitter would be best instead ;) i have frozen the kong for today, hopefully will keep him busy for an hour, the deer antlers look a good option too and will buy him a kong wobbler. There s also a food bowl with 14 different compartiments that will force him to eat more slowly and wont feel so hungry ( maybe!!! ) so might get that too! And will look at hiring a pet walker maybe twice a week for an extra walk, depending on my budget. And hopefully my big boy wont be so destructive!
Tbh, that's what i was going to suggest!!

All joking aside how can a grown man act so selfishly, not only toward your dog but also towards you? How can he honestly think it's ok to let you become upset over this & yet still do nothing about it? Have you spoken to him about why he acts like this?
 

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My oh wanted a watch dog and a family pet so we got a boxer dog
Oh my OH wont walk him at all! To be honest walking him wasnt what bothered me the most as I can do that morning and evening but it s the fact he ignores him and let him being destructive
Your OH wanted a dog but now won't walk him and ignores him? :eek: Sorry, but his behaviour is that of a spoilt child, not an adult who should have learnt something about responsibility by now. :mad:

Maybe rehoming the oh and get a sitter would be best instead
That would definately by my choice. In all honesty, if he can act so selfishly and irresponsibly with regards to the dog, he is likely to do the same again over another issue.

Seriously though, your dog is unhappy and his needs are not being met. Things will only get worse - if you can't do right by him, as sad as it is that he will become another rescue statistic due to irresponsible pet ownership (not you btw), the best thing for the dog would be to rehome him through breed rescue where he can get the home he deserves.
 

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Have to say I feel very much as the others, when we first got Ginge, my OH left me to it because he wanted us to 'bond' I was finding the pressure too much and had to say something, he started to do a bit more with her, we have 'disagreements' on how she should be treated/trained etc which is causing a certain level of tension ;) so we have agreed that I take back the sole responsibility and he is meant to be doing as I say, but if I need him to walk her so I can work or something, he will do so without question. I just need to bite my tongue and not nag him about what he is doing with her.

It is incredibly irresponsible of him to be acting like this, even if he has now decided the general care of the dog is more than he can be bothered with, how can he ignore the fact that is destroying your house! Even if all he does is lob it bone or filled kong every hour or so, can he not manage that?
 

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Have to say I feel very much as the others, when we first got Ginge, my OH left me to it because he wanted us to 'bond' I was finding the pressure too much and had to say something, he started to do a bit more with her, we have 'disagreements' on how she should be treated/trained etc which is causing a certain level of tension ;) so we have agreed that I take back the sole responsibility and he is meant to be doing as I say, but if I need him to walk her so I can work or something, he will do so without question. I just need to bite my tongue and not nag him about what he is doing with her.

It is incredibly irresponsible of him to be acting like this, even if he has now decided the general care of the dog is more than he can be bothered with, how can he ignore the fact that is destroying your house! Even if all he does is lob it bone or filled kong every hour or so, can he not manage that?
This is exactly my problem :eek:
 

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Trouble with mine is that OH wants to interact with them but as soon as they see me they don’t even look at him! But to be fair he does take them out for a walk on his days off when I’m at work and I think he would love to play a ball game with them but they just run off with the ball so he ends up running after them and the ball :D
 
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