I have recently (6 weeks ago) adopted a 2 year old female who was advertised on the rescue centre's website as "friendly". Well, so far, she's anything but friendly ! She’s definitely not ‘happy’ here with me – she ignores me most of the time, except when she hears me in the kitchen and decides she wants feeding, or at bedtime when she will jump on my bed and settle by my feet for a short while (it’s the only time we have any kind of interaction !). She’s definitely not the ‘friendly’ lap-cat I had hoped for and shows no signs of ever changing. I have tried every trick in the book but she will not tolerant being petted or fussed; even just talking softly to her ends up with tail swishing and her walking into another room away from me. She does like to play and we have regular playtimes throughout the day (I'm retired so at home a lot); I've resorted to bribing with treats; she likes the treats but that's as far it goes ! BUT if, by chance, I have a male visitor (IT technician/gardener etc) then she becomes Missy Flirt and pulls out all the stops to make them notice her, she'll roll over and allow herself to be petted by them but not by me – doesn’t do my ego any good. I've heard of some female cats being a "man's cat" but never really believed it until now ! (I've always had male cats before and never encountered this kind of problem). Cats have always been a very large part of my life since I was 5 years old and I have never had a feline friend with whom I didn’t have a good and mutually affectionate relationship. I just don't what else to try - any suggestions welcome as I don't want to end up disliking her or feeling that I have to return her to the rescue centre.