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Discussion in 'General Chat' started by ad_1980, Aug 13, 2009.


  1. ad_1980

    ad_1980 PetForums VIP

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    Welcome into our lovely friendly abode :) We're hoping you'll be happy here.

    While i appreciate you all wanting advice about buying a new pet, namely dogs in particular - can you stop being so defensive? You come on here and ask advice opinions. We give them to you.

    While i appreciate there are questions that need answers what i would appreciate is if you actually listened to our feedback, said thank you and bye bye, and went away and REALLY thought about the situation. Not just post and then get defensive about the advice given. Its not like we're accusing you of rubbish we're just unhappy about what we have heard from yourselves.

    If you can do this for us, without thinking we're a bunch of snobs who think we know everything about everything then i think everyone who reads this will actually agree with me and if they don't i couldn't care less.

    Thank you.
     
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  2. Cassies-mum

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    well said :D
     
  3. SEVEN_PETS

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    I agree with this, and I'm a newbie. :D
     
  4. suzy93074

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    Sorry:eek: I dont entirely agree.....whilst I believe that yes newbies who have asked for advice should be open to constructive critiscism I also think that we as long term members should bear in mind that newbies are just that "new" and sometimes we need to tread carefully rather than going full throttle at someone - at the end of the day it is their choice wether they take on the advice given and we should not make them feel pressured into agreeing with our advice -we do not know what is going on in peoples lives to make judgements etc and whilst yes we have the animals best interests at heart we must not forget that the human counts as well - and if they decide to not come on and ask for advice anymore for fear of being shot down, well that is not going to help the animals is it? Its a question of balance in my view;):):)
     
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    Good post, Even good enough for rep! Lol

    I agree with Suzy on this one!
     
  6. FREE SPIRIT

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    Totally agree Suzy...well said....xxxx ;) :D
     
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  7. kath123

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    Im sorry but i think this thread is going to start another argument so is very pointless. :mad:
     
  8. suzy93074

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    Yeah....I hope not:(
     
  9. kath123

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    Well yeh so do i suzy, But i am not sure that newbies are going to feel very welcome reading the original thread to be honest. :(
     
  10. Dylan & Daisy

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    A newbie becomes defensive because they feel their post has been misinterpreted and they're being attacked, not because they think we're a bunch know-it-all snobs.

    It's an individual point of view that's being given that's all, based on our own experiences etc but that doesn't necessarily make it right, it's just what worked for that particular person. We're not all going to agree but by trying to shout the newbie down, will not get your point across at all, the he/she will become as aggressive and any advice will just be lost.

    This sort of post though does not help matters.
     
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  11. Dylan & Daisy

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    Have to say i kinda agree with you on this one kath x
     
  12. FREE SPIRIT

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    Im a newbie and im feeling intimidated already :eek: ;) :001_tt2:
     
  13. ad_1980

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    Hey i just stated what i felt. I'm not going to get defensive. Your own opinions.

    See i can practice what i preach :)
     
  14. kath123

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    You would of done even better if said "nothing at all" as not sure why this thread was started. :mad:
     
  15. suzy93074

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    Yep thats true but you have been here a while, u know how it works you have your friends etc etc a newbie doesnt have that support so I think we just need to keep this in mind;):):)xxx
     
  16. kath123

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    Me too Hun. :eek::eek:
     
  17. Dylan & Daisy

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    Good one Hunnie xxxxxxxxx
     
  18. Oblada

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    TOTALLY AGREE
    it goes both ways...newbies dont have to treat the "old" ones like they are Godsent and take their words for it, we should all try to behave nicely and accept that we don't know everything about somebody based on a few lines in a forum...and get our views across without judging, pre-judging or offending others.

    xx
     
  19. FREE SPIRIT

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    lol...i'll behave oneday :rolleyes:.....nah i wont. :001_tt2: ;) :D
     
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    excellent post suzy.....there has been a few threads in past few days that imo have got out of hand.....members have to be able to give constructive info...and not get personnal....i understand members getting frustrated.....but if i cant reply in a constructive way...i walk away from the thread.....i applaud anyone who can give constructive advise....
     
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