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Discussion in 'Rainbow Bridge' started by Elaine Sharples Wright, Nov 23, 2019.


  1. Elaine Sharples Wright

    Elaine Sharples Wright PetForums Newbie

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    It's been a week and a half since I had to say goodbye to my beautiful boy Lewis. I am self employed so I've had to go back to work, but I'm finding trying to move on a really struggle. Work keeps my mind occupied, but when I come home my boy is no longer there to greet me. I have my other beautiful boy Harvey, but he seems lost and lonely without his big brother. I also dread Christmas coming up and really don't feel it's appropriate for me to celebrate this year. I miss my boy so much. How can I move forward?
     
  2. Linda Weasel

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    Grieving just takes time and there’s unfortunately no way to get it over with quicker or make it less; all our lost dogs leave a hole in our hearts and in our homes, and I think any dog lover will understand this, and that Xmas this year is going to be a sad one for you.

    It does get easier (a cliche but true) and keeping busy is a good therapy.

    But don’t forget that Harvey needs extra love and companionship from you, too, as he will also feel the loss.
     
  3. SusieRainbow

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    I lost my little soulmate 2 weeks before Christmas last year, she was 15. We still miss her so much and my other dog pined.
    6 months ago we got another dog, same breed, and while he is not a replacement for our beloved old girl he's a very welcome addition to the family.
    Perhaps in time you could welcome another dog ?
    Maybe you could find ways to honour Lewis's memory. We bought a lovely patio rose and buried Tango's ashes in the pot. I also had a memory bead made with a tiny bit of her fur infused.
    The loss never leaves you but you start to remember the times you smiled rather than the tears.
    I know December 12th will be a difficult day for me , reliving the memory of her death , but I have 3 grandchildren tosee and spoil over Christmas so they will see me through it.
     
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    Im sorry to hear about Lewis. :(
     
  5. Cleo38

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    So sorry to read this, I had to have my lovely old boy PTS nearly 3yrs ago & it was such a difficult time. There is a pet bereavement service run by the Blue Cross that you might want to contact, I didn't as I just couldn't talk to anyone about how I felt at the time but it might be beneficial to you.
    https://www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement-and-pet-loss
     
  6. Elaine Sharples Wright

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    Hi Linda thank you for your lovely message. I guess like you say with time it will get a bit easier, I tried to prepare myself for losing Lewis as he got older but I don't think you can ever prepare yourself for when the time comes. Kind regards Elaine.
     
  7. Elaine Sharples Wright

    Elaine Sharples Wright PetForums Newbie

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    Thank you Susie for your message. I'm sorry that you lost Tango before Christmas last year. Lewis was about 14, I'd had him as a rescue dog when I used to work at a kennels. I've had his ashes back home with me and I've put a photo of him on top of the little casket and a candle. What a lovely idea about a memory bead? I haven't heard of that before. I've had a bracelet done with his name engraved on it and a little paw print.
    That's lovely that you have grandchildren to help you through the festive period.
    At the moment I'm just trying to give my other dog that is left lots of extra cuddles, he seems very sad also without his big brother.
    Kind regards Elaine.
     
  8. Elaine Sharples Wright

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    Thank you :Shamefullyembarrased
     
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  9. Elaine Sharples Wright

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  10. Cleo38

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    He was called Toby. He was my first dog & the love of my life. It does get easier to manage & now I can laugh at his funny antics (he was such a cheeky boy!) but then some days the sadness & grief just hits me out of the blue. This week has been one of those weeks :(

    Take each day at a time & let yourself grieve for your boy. I think this time of year can be particularly hard for people
     
    #10 Cleo38, Nov 24, 2019
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