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Separation Anxiety in crate when leaving hotel room. Help

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by John&Carol, Apr 7, 2017.


  1. John&Carol

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    We are staying at a pet friendly hotel while out of town on business. Snoopy's first time in a hotel with us.
    He never had a problem at home when we would leave him in is crate but when we leave the hotel, he barks/ yelps for at least 15 minutes after we leave, I understand this separation anxiety is very normal and it will get better. There is a product to add to his diet we are trying that we got from our pet supplier to help comfort his anxiety. It's not working yet. Any ideas?
     
  2. Blitz

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    What does the hotel management say. Not sure I would dare leave either of mine in a hotel room, I have stayed in hotels with them but they go in the car if I am not in the room with them. If I was staying in the next room I would be asking for a refund I am afraid.
     
  3. John&Carol

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    You may not have pet friendly hotels in the UK. I don't know. In the US there are plenty. The first floor is reserved for this and the rooms have no carpet. You get to travel with your pet. Everyone on the floor is tolerant with barking. It happens. But we are trying to keep it at a minimum. This time we will be out of town for only a week but next month we will be in a motel for 30 days and we want to do what is best for Snoopy for him to adjust to being left in his crate when we have to leave the room. (We try to only do this for dinners.) Hotel management is great and is use to this. There are no complaints in this dog family type of situation. We are all just happy to be able to travel with our pets.

    BTW... It is illegal to leave your pet in your car in a lot of states in the US. Same for a child but people do it.
     
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    I would never leave my dog unattended in a hotel room for many reasons and most hotels in the UK (which are pet friendly) specify this.

    This is for several reasons, fire, destruction, noise and potential problems with housekeeping staff.

    I spend about 40% of my life in hotels with my dogs.
     
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    I wouldn't leave Jack alone in a strange place tbh

    If it's just for dinner time I'd choose somewhere he could go too or eat in my room.

    I wouldn't risk him getting full blown SA and then being unsettled at home long term.

    I used to watch a TV show called Tiny House, Big Living about people in US building tiny houses they tow and live in. That would be better as he would be in familiar surroundings.
     
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    Separation anxiety is not 'normal' (it's anxiety and very stressful for the dog) and it won't just 'get better'. If he was barking a couple of times maybe. But barking for 15 minutes is quite extreme and your dog is clearly expressing his panic of being left in a strange place on his own. Rather than getting over it it, I would be more concerned about his becoming anxious at being left in general and that this may develop into full blown separation anxiety.

    We have plenty of pet friendly hotels and B&Bs here in the UK and my dogs have often travelled with me over the years .....however even the self-catering establishments do suggest that dogs are not left alone .....as it can be stressful for them. If I am going to do so for a short while I only do so after i am sure my dogs have settled and are comfortable and relaxed in their new environment ...and then I usually leave them for a few minutes first to test. Perhaps you can build this up slowly with your dog rather than panic him by leaving.

    J
     
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    Is there any way he can come with you rather than being left? He is obviously becoming distressed in the strange environment, as you say he is fine when left at home.

    Regarding leaving dogs in hotel rooms in general, I think it depends on the dog. I stayed in a number of dog friendly B&Bs and hotels with Flame, my GSD bitch, and she was very laidback about the whole thing and I could leave her with a bone or pizzle to chew while I had breakfast or an evening meal and she would be asleep on my return. I always checked with the hotel owner/manager prior to leaving her and would never leave her for long. With my other dogs I have usually left them in my vehicle rather than leave them in the hotel room alone - but understand the Laws are different in the UK.

    If you can't take your dog with you then could you look into whether there are any pet creche/dog daycare type establishments nearby that may dogsit for you? How long are you having to leave the dog for?
     
  8. planete

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    You need to get him used to being left in a strange place by doing it for very short times first then increasing that time so that he never gets anxious enough to react. While you are doing this you will have to find a way to have someone stay with him at all times. You say "we" in your post. If this means there are two of you, you can eat one after the other, if not eat in the room or on the road as already suggested. Letting your dog get stressed is very likely to result in him developing full blown separation anxiety and is not very kind either.
     
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  9. ouesi

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    Well, I'm in the US, often travel with my dogs, along with others who also travel with their dogs, and none of us would leave our dogs unattended in the hotel room for a multitude of reasons. Not the least of which is it's an unfair expectation on the dog.

    I am not in a state where it is illegal to leave a dog in a parked car, and our dogs are happy to hang out in the car and we plan our trips accordingly.
     
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    I had a quick google and it appears that some states have a law that specifies a dog must not be left in a car if it would endanger life - too hot or too cold. So actually no different to the UK.
     
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    Well, I'm probably going to make myself extremely unpopular, but while staying at a caravan site, I sometimes left the dogs locked in our tent (I slept in the tent with them, as dogs weren't allowed in the caravan, but the dogs weren't allowed inside the entertainment complex, so if I wanted to spend any time with family away from the caravan, or go to the shop, I had no choice but to leave them in the tent).

    Milly showed signs of S.A as soon as the tent flap was closed, and at first, I was at a loss as to what to do about it, too. In the end, once I changed out of the clothes I travelled down in, I threw the t-shirt into the tent and left it there. Milly settled immediately, and hasn't shown any signs of S.A. since.

    I feel I must add that the tent was surrounded on 3 sides by cars, and on the other by the caravan, I had both sets of keys to the padlock, kept trips to the complex short and sweet, and spent as much time as possible with the dogs, especially walking them and exploring the area.

    But I've never left them in a hotel room. Never stayed in one with them.
     
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    Apologises OP going off topic...
    Now I imagine Milly, as I always do as basically a human trying your clothes on whilst you have left her...stretching out on her back having a relaxing time in a tent...happy times! Bless her, my warped imagination must be the drugs am on!
     
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    You should have seen her the other day. Lying on my side of the bed (ok, they're both my side, but the side I usually prefer to sleep on), feet drawn together, head on the pillow, lying their like Lady Muck and a look on her face saying, "you're not going to move me, are you?" :Hilarious

    She probably did try to put my top on. :Hilarious
     
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  14. John&Carol

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    We only leave Snoopy alone for 20 minutes to go to breakfast. I do not like leaving him alone for more than that. He is enjoying the traveling. We now only go to pet friendly restraints.
    Here he is at the Capital (Washington DC). Snoopy did get petted by a congressman.

    BTW... he peed on the capital's lawn. I guess you can say he left his mark.


    [​IMG]
     
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    He's lovely and looks a very happy chappie.
     
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    We only leave Snoopy alone for 20 minutes to go to breakfast. I do not like leaving him alone for more than that.

    These two statements do not quite match up.
     
  17. John&Carol

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    At first we tried to leave and have dinner without Snoopy. We would be gone for over an hour. I felt too bad leaving him that long so we NOW only eat a short breakfast in the lobby and we have found he is better if not put in his crate. We puppy proof the room instead. This was a learning experience.
     
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    I cant imagine staying in a hotel room with a barking dog on the other side of the wall! Is this actually more common than you might think? Or is it just very specialised hotels?
     
  19. John&Carol

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    It is very common here. Plenty of pet friendly hotels to choose from. To tell you the truth, I have more complaints for the humans than the dogs. I hear very little barking except when maybe two dogs pass each other in the hall or one dog hears someone outside their door. Very little. But I don't like the late party crowd humans coming home at midnight with no regard to others sleeping. They are the ones making noise, not the pets.
    So don't think it's like a kennel with dogs barking all the time. It is very peaceful for all the dogs staying here.
     
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  20. ouesi

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    Oh that makes me very nervous! Please don't leave your dog uncrated in a hotel room. That's so dangerous on so many levels! What if housecleaning comes in and the dog runs out?!

    Yes, pet friendly hotels are very common. Putting up with a barking dog is not common. I would certainly say something to management if I were next to a barking dog, and I would expect to have something said to me should my dogs bark while they're staying at a hotel.
     
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