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Really need someone to talk to.... :(

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by shetlandlover, Mar 30, 2011.


  1. My mums had such a bad day today. I could really do with someone to talk to.:(
     
  2. Ditsy42

    Ditsy42 PetForums VIP

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    awe hon whats up, hope u r feeling ok :(
     
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    aww ((((hugs)))) hope you feel ok soon deary :eek: i'm useless with advice but if you need a rant i'll be online for a while x
     
  4. Not really :(
    My mums having a bad day with her health and depression. I have been in tears because shes so down.:(:(:(

    I dont know how much longer I can help her.
     
  5. Ditsy42

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    U can't take on the world hon, u can only do what u can an that's your best, do u get any respite from caring 4 her, I hope u do otherwise u will also end up ill, I know what depression can do to the rest of the family, it's soul destoying sometimes :(
     
  6. No.Currently social class me as a carer for both my mum and OH (I get some help with mum because my 10 year old brother helps out) but my mum doesnt get DLA or anything that would entitle her to respite. Even though she applied and 3 specialists gave back up notes she was rejected. She is going to appeal but shes so ill and down at the moment she's not even wanting to eat.
     
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    Awww, can't comprehend the situation you're in, but must be awful ... can you not get the GP in and explain that you just don't know what to do anymore and need more help ... since when did a 10 year old class as a carer ... the system stinks ...

    You can PM me if you want to chat ... can't guarantee it will help, but if you want to rant, it might !

    Clare x
     
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  8. Ditsy42

    Ditsy42 PetForums VIP

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    Has your mum seen her doctor lately, what meds she on, does this need tweaking maybe, don't know the history hon, but I think a doc visit may be in order, such a shame u have to carry such a burden, no easy task and folks like u tend to fall thorugh the cracks of social services :(
     
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  9. She's on so many medications (she has LOADS of health problems) I lose track but she was at the doctors yesterday. She's going to go in the morning to see if she needs the dose upping but she doesnt want to be like a zombie.

    I want to help her but I dont want my brother going through what I have. Last time she was this down she hurt herself. Although that was a few years back it still haunts me.

    She has promised she wont do anything but I am on edge constantly.
     
  10. Ditsy42

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    Not a nice place to be for you or your family, deffo need to see her doctor as her meds may need upping, especially if she's feeling so low that she may hurt herself, I can't imagine what u r all going through and no child should b their parents carer, the system does stink IMO :(
     
  11. It does.

    I just urgh cant put how upset I am in words. I just feel drained.
    I have to be up super early for a dentist appointment too which I dont feel in the mood for now. Typical. :(

    She has a boyfriend who she has seen once since Christmas, I rang him tonight and said I cant do it on my own while shes like this and that she needs his support but he wont come and see her.:mad:
     
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    My uncle and dad have been caring for my granddad for the past 30 years on and off, and i've been doing my best to help.

    Especially harder still as he doesn't live with any of us.
     
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    Then bf not worth a jot hon if he don't wana come an see her.

    Have u seen a doc lately, sounds like u could maybe do with having a check up as well, if u don't feel up to dentist then cancel, no harm done, do it when u feel up to it
     
  14. katie200

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    Hey you ok sorry your mums not well (((hugs)))
     
  15. I canceled the last one because I was ill so I cant miss this one otherwise I may lose my place.

    I have seen a doctor but she was useless (new doctor) so I am going to go back this week and go to the other doctor. I had antidepressants from the age of 11 but jacked them in a year ago after I thought my headaches could be caused by them.

    And yeh, she wont break up with him. 9 years and she only see's him 3 times a year if that. I have told her because their arguments are making her worse. :glare:
     
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    I'm really sorry.
    Nothing to add other than what's already been said but wanted to give you a
    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HuG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
     
  17. Thank you both.

    I am sure I just need a bloody good nights sleep. But Urgh.
    Wouldnt it be nice if depression didnt exist.
     
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    Hold on in there you doing your best I'm sure you mum knows that
     
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    I'm sure a good night sleep will make things look better in the morning and yes it would be nice if depression didn't exist I agree it a hard thing to deal with just hold on in there I hope your mum feels better soon
     
  20. OllieBob

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    Do you have contact with a mental health social worker. If not you could phone social services and ask if she could be seen by one. They are great at talking to people with your mum's problems and may have access to help that would give you a bit of a break even if only for a few hours.
    Hope you and your mum feel better soon.
     
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