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Puppy won’t stop crying when on her own

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  1. Jessica Goldsborough

    Jessica Goldsborough PetForums Newbie

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    I’ve recently just bought a Chihuahua puppy (8 weeks old). She seems to really be struggling with separation from me for example if I take her in the bathroom while I’m in the bath she crys and howls, I can’t go upstairs without her crying. We’ve started cage training her as tomorrow is my first day back at work but she seems really distressed crying and chewing the cage while she is in the cage even if the cage is right next to us. We dont let her out when she cries as we don’t want her to think she gets her way when she cry’s. As I say tomorrow is my first day back at work so I am really worried about leaving her on her own for so long. Is this normal and what can I do to help the sitiuation? She’s got a blanket and one of my t shirts with my perfume on aswell as toys etc in the cage.
     
  2. Siskin

    Siskin Look into my eyes....

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    How long will you be away when you're at work?
     
  3. Jessica Goldsborough

    Jessica Goldsborough PetForums Newbie

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    I will be away 9am-6pm but my partner will be back about 4pm. I was thinking of taking her to my mothers as I don’t want her on her own all day and my mother returns back to her house at 12pm and 4pm but I want her to get used to our home
     
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    Siskin Look into my eyes....

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    Your puppy certainly can't be left for such a long time, she would be better off at your mothers, but even then it's still a long time to leave such a young puppy.
    The reason she is so upset when you leave her is that she is a baby and you are the only thing she has now. Chihuahua puppies really shouldn't leave their mothers until they are 12 weeks old due to their immaturity. They really do need those extra few weeks in order to grow in confidence and maturity. This is also why she cries so much when she is left alone, she's firghtened and scared.
    I know plenty of people work and have dogs but most take leave for as long as possible in order to really settle their puppies and when they return to work, have a dog walker who can also take care of puppies to come in several times a day to take the puppy out to toilet and to play with it. You really can't leave your puppy alone for up to seven hours a day. She should be on four meals a day so would be missing out on her lunchtime feed. She won't be able to hold onto her toilet for anything near that long, so she will be distressed at having to toilet in the crate.
    The best place for her will be at your mothers even though it seems she will be left there alone for several hours. It won't matter to your puppy where she is so long as she has some company so she won't feel so scared and lonely.


    I'll also ask a mod to move this to Dog Chat so you will be seen by other members as this is not the correct part of the forum that you have posted in
    @StormyThai @LinznMilly
     
  5. Lurcherlad

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    The idea of crate training is to get them happy in there so if she’s crying you’re going too fast.

    Where is she at night? She needs up be near you do she feels safe and secure as she’s a baby just left mum and siblings, so scared and lonely and possibly cold.

    She’s too young to be left for hours during the day imo and even at your mum’s she’s going to be on her own for a good stretch, which is far from ideal at this age.

    You can’t have had her long and in the early days they need lots of cuddles and comfort in order to settle. Gradually they will become more independent and confident and you can slowly wean them off you without any anxiety.
     
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    It's perfectly normal for your puppy to be anxious when left alone, yes. Up to now they have had mum and litter mates and now they have to gradually learn to cope on their own. But the word is gradually.

    You don't see to have a plan in place - you really can't consider suddenly leaving a young puppy all day whilst you are at work. If you were thinking 9am til 4pm that's 7 hours! I don't even leave my adults dogs for that long.

    Apart from the fact that. as has been explained above, puppies have needs - regular feeding, regular toileting and regular human contact to build up their social skills. Putting her into a crate and leaving her to cry because you "don’t want her to think she gets her way" is not going to help her feel safe and secure. She's crying because she doesn't understand being alone not because she wants to get her own way!

    So my advice as to what you can do to help the situations is take another week off and start to plan how you are going to manage this little dog over the next few months until she is grown up enough to cope with being on her own whilst you are at work. And not the 7 hours as this is to long so yes, pup will have to go to your mums. And start to prepare her gradually for being left on her own...

    J
     
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    Oh poor little thing, think of an 8 week old puppy like an 8 week old baby cause that's what she is!
    Would you leave a baby that long - there's your answer!
     
  8. Laney_Lemons

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    oh dear o_O ... unfortunately it doesn't sound you were prepared for this puppy atall??... im tryng not to be cheeky but did you research puppies atall, did you think you could just leave them form 8am - 6pm!?

    However what is done is done... and if you want to do right by your puppy you really need to have a plan in place and i do commend you to seek advice from here.



    Can you take or your partner take a few weeks off work? if you take say 1-2 weeks and then your partner can take a few weeks to get your pup settled? this will give you a good 4-5 weeks to start implementing tolerance of being left alone and help your pup settle.

    Ideally you really need to start small building her up being left alone, like seconds increasing this to minutes and over a period of time ensure she is not getting distressed.
    You want to avoid a crying and distressed pup - this is no fun for anyone... for the crate to work you want to make the crate the best thing since sliced bread, play with her in there, feed her and give her nice tasty kongs and treats to help her settle in the crate, pet her and comfort her in there so as she see this as her nice happy place - at the minute she deems this crate as being scary and not nice.
    what about getting play pen for her to allow the door of the create open but keep her safe? this will help her not panic and then gradually build up the door being closed.
     
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    She could injure herself biting and clawing the bars of her cage , sounds like she's very distressed. The idea of a playpen surrounding the crate with the door open is a good one , but you really can't leave her for 8 hours at a time.
    If you can't make bettter arrangements for he you need to return her to the breeder and leave getting a puppy to a more suitable stage in your life.
    I'm sorry if that's not what you want to hear but it sounds as if this puppy is only going to to have your company for 4-5 hours a day, nowhere near enough to learn housetraining or be properly socialised.
     
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    I'm sorry but would you leave a new born human baby like that NO, so why do you think it's OK to leave a puppy. The poor little thing has just left her Mom and Siblings and will be missing them and now you want to leave her on her own.
     
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    I agree with this unfortunately

    please implement a plan asap, dog day care? dog walker which does a puppy service ? family members about more through the day?
     
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  12. Jessica Goldsborough

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    I only work 1 full day a week and two 4 hour shifts so I have lots of time with her it’s just a Wednesday she’s on her own for so long. I have had dogs all my life so I knew what I was getting myself in for she just seems a little clingy than any other breed I have had. I will be buying her a run as I don’t want her stuck in her crate when she’s home on her own. I was just wanting a few tips to maybe sooth and calm her, thank you.
     
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    I only work 1 full day a week and two 4 hour shifts so I have lots of time with her it’s just a Wednesday she’s on her own for so long. I have had dogs all my life so I knew what I was getting myself in for she just seems a little clingy than any other breed I have had. I will be buying her a run as I don’t want her stuck in her crate when she’s home on her own. I was just wanting a few tips to maybe sooth and calm her, thank you.
     
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    Sorry, it wasn't clear she would only be left that long one day a week. Even 4 hours is too long at her age considering she should really still be with her mum and siblings, you still need to make arrangements for her care during the time she is left. She will certainly be distressed and unhappy , company is the only remedy.
     
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    Thank you I will be making arrangements for my Mam to check on her when possible
     
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    But she’ll still be alone for long periods while still very young.

    That might work once she’s older and more settled but so young there is a high chance her current anxiety will escalate into full blown Separation Anxiety.
     
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    She's not clingy, she's an infant. Your infant puppy needs round the clock company and care at this age. This is what people are trying to get across to you. If you don't raise her the correct way, now, you are always going to have issues. And more to the point, she is always going to have issues. Do you want a happy well adjusted dog? Then train her to be that way, which starts with not leaving her alone at this vulnerable time.
     
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  18. Jessica Goldsborough

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    I know that I don’t mean she’s clingy in an annoying way I adore her I just meant she seemed a lot more clingy than puppies I’ve had in the past so I was worried that she maybe had separation anxiety that was the point of my post. I understand she need love care and lots attention and trust me I plan on giving it to her. I was just worried for her as she would cry when she was in her cage right next to us which I’ve never had with previous puppies. But today she has been fab and had really adjusted well she no longer cries in her crate. My Mam has also agreed to check on her when I have to work.
     
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