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Puppy blues?

Discussion in 'Dog Training and Behaviour' started by E92, Oct 7, 2020.


  1. E92

    E92 PetForums Newbie

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    Hi all,

    Unsure if this is the correct thread but I’ll give it a go. I have recently rescued a pup, he is a cocker spaniel mix, and ten weeks old tomorrow.

    I’m really struggling with him, although I knew how hard having a puppy could be I think I have misjudged how difficult it would be just him and I at home. I can barely go to the bathroom without him screaming in the front room. He whines to be let into rooms he’s literally never been allowed into before, he doesn’t like his crate and won’t sleep through the night. I’m aware he’s very young and I know things will eventually get better but I’m just wondering if anyone has any similar experiences. Will things change, even slightly, when he can eventually get out for a walk? I know he must be bored of the same toys and people, I’m bored too unable to go out properly lol! His next jags aren’t for another week and I’m hoping that I can get him into puppy classes too. Some things are going well, he seems to have picked up the toilet training quite quickly and will sit/stay when asked usually. This is my first pup and I feel so overwhelmed. My parents luckily love him and he seems to settle more in their home, less whining/barking. If anyone has any similar experiences/tips then please share!
     
  2. Burrowzig

    Burrowzig PetForums VIP

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    Have him sleep at night with you, take his crate into your bedroom. He'll be much happier and feel secure next to you.
    Carry him on a tour of the rooms he's not yet allowed in, so he can see there's nothing scary in there.
    Different vaccinations have different protocols, but it's normally 2 weeks after the second jab that he can walk on the ground. However you can (and should) be carrying him out now so he can see the world he'll be in. Tuck him into the front of your jacket and put a belt round the outside to stop him falling through. In normal times you'd let people meet him there, but social distancing will keep them from coming too close - maybe a good thing as a pup can become overwhelmed.
     
  3. Ian246

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    It's really important to 'socialise' him in these forthcoming few weeks - it is, sadly, a once in his life time opportunity as the part of his brain that deals with this stuff effectively shuts down - and there are only a few weeks (generally until pups are 12-14 weeks old, so you'd do well to get cracking). So, you would be wise to expose him to as many of the weird things we humans take for granted. He doesn't need to see everything - but the more 'stuff' he sees and is exposed to, the more confident he will be and the easier he will find it to deal with other stuff - horses, cyclists, cars, people wearing hats, people wearing glasses, peaope with different complexions, different coloured skin, etc, etc. This artcle was written for the pandemic (and the lockdown) but it's no less worth a look now we're allowed to go out and about:
    https://3lostdogs.com/ask-3ld-how-do-i-socialize-my-puppy-during-a-pandemic/
    It's also good fun and it will give your pup things to think abut, and to deal with - you can really let your imaginationrun wild giving him things to play with and see - and that will improve his confidence and show him that he need not be afraid of the world.
    As 'Burrowzig' says, you can carry him around the neighbourhood and show him things - get him to understand there's no reason to be afraid of people, cars, other dogs, carrier bags flying down the road, etc, etc.
    Short answer: yes, things will get better, but it does take time and patience - think of him as a baby right now (which is precisely what he is) - he's been taken from his mum and siblings and it's a big, scary world he now lives in. Show him that you are there for him and that you will look after him - that will give him confidence and help the bond.
    You say you rescued him - where from and how old was he when you got him? What's his story?
     
  4. Laura Anderson

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    Hello to all,

    I have just joined this group today as I have got my first little puppy and I love him so much and was prepared for it being full on, but I genuinely did not realise who intense the first 2 weeks of having him home would be.

    He is 12 weeks old on Tuesday and has had his 2nd injection just over a week ago, so myself and my boyfriend are going to now need to get him out for a walk and socialise him.

    I am trying as best as I can to make sure he uses his energy up but also gets lots of sleep as he is still meant to be sleeping a lot as he is not.

    He seems to have parts of the day and certain days when he is worse and it's difficult to know if its him misbehaving, wanting attention or just needing the toilet.

    He is a very clever dog so trying to keep him mentally as well as physically pleased has been a challenge. We have lots of toys and already have a Kong and a chew ball for treats to try and keep him busy.

    I just hope this gets easier.
     
  5. Twiggy

    Twiggy PetForums VIP

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    Yes little puppies are very hard work for the first few weeks but it does get better honestly....LOL Try and get a routine going as it does help.
     
  6. Laura Anderson

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    Thank you, yeah he is so gorgeous but it is very full on.

    Really helpful tip on the routine, I'm trying to keep one as much as I can.

    Just tried lead training and that went interestingly so definitely something to work on too.
     
  7. LotsaDots

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    Your puppy is gorgeous! (if that's him in your profile pic) I have a 10 week old puppy and yes it's hard work! I don't have the answers but have done it before. It takes consistency, time and a LOT of patience but you will get there as long as you have these. And wine I find wine helps a lot! I 2nd routine aswell as much as possible, times don't have to be exact but blocks of play, toilet, sleep, eat, toilet is basically the way I do it. We have a mini crocodile at the moment who likes to lunge for the face so that's the latest challenge!
     
  8. Laura041

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    I think everyone has the puppy blues so don't worry, its a lot to take on!
    I had the same experiences as you, my springer Alfie would cry and howl when put into the crate and unfortunately my housemate would always let him out.
    In the end I put his bed by my bed on the floor and then after a month or so moved him into the living room to sleep alone over night, I wasn't able to get him happy in a crate so when left alone I always had a camera which I could view on my phone.
    he got very attached to me I couldn't even have a shower without him crying and trying to get into the room!
    I had to slowly start leaving him alone for a few minutes a day, giving him something to keep him distracted and not making a fuss as I came into the room.
    During lockdown I used my lunch time to leave him alone and would go to my room.
    Between his jabs I took him out on the street, buses and trains but held him and didn't put him down- so he would get used to things before he could go on walks.
    I would recommend puzzle toys, lick mats or snuffle mats- I would use them to keep him entertained when I left him and he wouldn't even notice I had left.
     
  9. Daheff

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    I have to ask, the bit where you say he hasn't noticed you're gone...surely you want him to notice so he can be used to you not there?

    Great that he's occupied and doesn't notice, but that's surely a short term gain?
     
  10. Laura041

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    Sorry I might have been a bit dramatic saying he didn't notice I was gone, just meant he didn't have a reaction to me not being with him.
    I was trying to teach him that being alone is a good thing and not something to be anxious or fearful of.
    So he is alone but gets a special treat or toy, after a while he doesn't see being alone as something to be afraid of.
    I believe its called counterconditioning, my puppy trainer recommended it as he is a springer and the breed are known for separation anxiety.
     
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    Hi, just wondering if things are any better? I'm on day 3 of my Springer Spaniel pup being home & i definitely think I have the puppy blues. Im crying daily, feel very anxious/stressed and have lost my appetite. Pup is just a normal pup. He slept through 1st 2 nights, 3rd night he was up at 2.30am for the toilet & went back to sleep no bother. He's nipping and biting cause he is teething, again all normal. I have a cat who i haven't seen for days because she's staying out of pups way. I miss her and her ways and I worry the pup is going to be too much. Yes I should've maybe thought about that beforehand but plenty of people have both so thought why not. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance to hang in there.
     
  13. Laura Anderson

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    Yeah that's my gorgeous little puppy called Gizmo. I found that wine helped a lot too and like you said keeping a routine for him has been great.

    We started taking him to a half day of Puppy Daycare once a week for socialising and time away and that has really helped him.

    The next steps are more training and gradual separation. Gizmo is perfect at night and sleeps downstairs and does not whine for us until about 8am so he is great. However in the day he follows us everywhere and if we go upstairs and leave him he really creates a fuss so we need to work on separation for sure.

    To everyone on this group I would say it does get better and easier and is genuinely worth it so hang in there.
     
  14. Laura Anderson

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    Thank you for this. Yeah I definitely need to look at leaving him for periods of time and gradually increase this. Work has been so busy that trying to plan this has not been great but I've got 2 weeks off so have got to start soon.

    I have also found that Gizmo going to Puppy Daycare has really helped him. He is there from 8:30am-1pm so has time away from the house and us as well as time playing with other puppies.

    With COVID-19 we can't have people round to our house that have dogs so Puppy Daycare has been the solution we have found to this.

    Thanks again.
     
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