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Please nag your elderly relatives about their health

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by GoldenShadow, Apr 13, 2011.


  1. GoldenShadow

    GoldenShadow PetForums VIP

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    My Nana might need her foot amputated. She's 84, diabetic and can't really walk very far. Because her and my Papa just leave and leave and leave things she's really not well. Her toe is really bad and she's got a sore on her ankle which has been there for TWO MONTHS and not healed! My two aunts go up there at least once a week, we're there at least twice a week and they kept it so quiet.

    Doctor went up today and said it might just be the toe but be prepared to lose her whole foot. Consultant is going up tomorrow morning.

    She smokes lots and drinks lots and I can't see her coming out of an op like that :crying:

    Why have they been so stupid trying not to bug us! Please if any of you have any elderly relatives pester and pester and pester them about their health in case they are hiding things :(
     
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    my gran is EXACTLY the same! shes awful!

    she went to tenerife with my mum step dad and sister in feb and went to the water park and smacked her head on one of the rides and didnt tell anyone till they got back to the hotel :rolleyes:

    we really have to keep on at her to go to the docs about things she worries me and my mum at times :(

    i hope her nan is okay soon and she doesn't have to lose her foot :(
     
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    Sorry to hear that :( Hope ur Nan is ok

    Hopefully they will refer her to Diabetic foot clinic and it wont come to amputation

    2 Months isnt that long so fingers cross if they act quickly now they will be able to make a big difference as long as the toe isnt neucrotic
     
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    aw sorry about your nan xx great thread btw :)
     
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    what is it with elderly people, they sure are stubbon beggers arnt they!

    my mum has awfull broncitus (sp) but says its not from smoking since she was 14 and has no intention of cutting down or quitting.

    its to the point where i dont bother nagging anymore because it wont change anything :(
     
  6. GoldenShadow

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    They're hopelessly stubborn the elderly (some of them anyway) :mad:

    Makes me so cross. Because she's diabetic apparently ulcers etc are worse or something and its been bad for a while but she's not said anything nor has Papa!

    Claire Louise what's the difference between a Diabetic place, are they significantly better than normal places?

    Please no one write anything of this on my Facebook, we've been told we can't tell one of my uncles as he has a holiday on Friday and they don't want to spoil it! So got to keep it quiet :(

    The doctor never even gave her any painkillers today she's in agony and she goes 'oh I didn't think to ask' :(
     
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    :( can she take normal paros and ibuprofen? i know its know much but it could help then you can drag her to the dr again tomorrow for some pain killers.

    i forgot to add that my mum has diabeties too!
     
  8. GoldenShadow

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    Mum gave her some paracetamol when she was there but I know diabetics have to be a bit careful with what they can have. Will make sure she gets some tomorrow.

    Doctor came to her and consultant will be coming tomorrow. Wouldn't even get her out the house for this :nonod:

    Think part of it is she knows she smokes, and drinks, and doesn't check her blood sugar etc and she doesn't want to be told off. She drinks and drinks to forget and we think she feels she will be judged by people if she goes out so she stays in and drinks and smokes and just gets worse :(
     
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    Most people who are diabetic and have any kind of ulcer(wound lasting longer than 6 week) or other wound to feet are usually refered to diabetic foot clinic. The specialise in feet and the healing problems caused by diabetes so its the best place to get refered really. They do all kinds of different treatments and are great. What colour is you nans toe?


    Normal Leg ulcer clinics would aim to apply compression(improves healing) however diabetics can have calcification of the arteries which means you cant apply compression with out performing a duplex scan which diabetic foot clinic can do...........
     
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    Elderly relatives???

    If it was just the elderly that didnt take care of themselves it wouldnt be so bad! Try 32 year old men who have diabetes and even though has been told by drs and god knows who else, still refuses to stop drinking diet coke by the litre bottle load!!! But you can tell them! They have to learn for themselves no matter how big they are! :(
     
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    Dunno she wouldn't let Mum look :rolleyes:

    Turns out that they might not be having anyone round tomorrow now so we'll have to ring the GP and do some chasing to get her some painkillers I think. Will bear in mind all you've said, we live near a biggish hospital so hopefully they may even have that clinic there.

    If they say she has to go into a home she will go crazy.

    Oh no that's no good either :(

    Don't think Nana will learn, she drinks to drown her sorrows and the like, smokes a tonne which worsens her and she can barely walk as it is. If she has the whole foot off and is wheelchair bound she wont be able to move herself..!
     
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    A few years ago my elderly Aunt had been feeling ill for some time, she couldn't eat properly and was in quite a lot of discomfort in her throat and stomach. She didn't tell anyone until she collapsed in her home and she had to go to hospital in an ambulance. When the Dr's examined her they found that her whole body was full of cancer, it was so advanced and in so many of her organs they could not even begin to determine where the cancer had started so it was inoperable and chemo would have been pointless.

    When we asked her why she never told anyone or went to the Dr she said she didn't like to make a fuss. Sadly she died about four weeks after the diagnosis.

    I was very upset that maybe her life could have been saved and I wish she had gone to the Dr when the first symptoms were felt. Whenever we saw her she would say she was all right and she never told a soul until it was too late for her :crying:

    I'm never going to put my daughter and my grandchildren through that. I will fight for every moment to stay with them.
     
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    Tell her not to worry x
    No one will try and make her go in a home. There is lots of support for people at home.
    I would say its unusual for consultants to make home visits, its usually a clinic appt.... ring the gp and request a referal to diabetic foot clinic and if the pain is bad ask for a pain clinic referal too...... this is assuming the services are the same in your area.

    if nan is stuggling at home ask for a social service referal, if she has any falls ask to be refered to the falls team AND lol if there is any issues with mobility in her home ask for a OT referal all can be done by the gp...... oh and ask for the district nurses for dressings

    sorry for the confusing post
     
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    Oh no that's awful, so sorry to hear about your Aunt trying no to make a fuss too. Why can't they see their health is important to us all? :(

    I think Papa has got confused to be honest. Aunt rang him and we did again and it sounds like they are waiting for a phone call but I'm not sure he is really sure what they are waiting for either, maybe its a phone call for an appt etc no idea..! The hospital is 1 mile up the road its quite large wouldn't be surprised if they have a diabetic foot place there.

    My dad is a podiatrist and sees this stuff all the time but we don't see each other now. I remember him saying about diabetics and feet etc :(

    If I ask them shall we speak to social services etc I think they will tell us no no we're fine etc out of pride :( Will make a note of all you have said though the sooner we put in for it the better I guess but need to try and win them round a bit.

    They wont tell one son because of his holiday :rolleyes:

    Thanks for all the info, you're very in the know :eek: x
     
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    Its my job hun, i spend all day refering on to these places.
    Another good one is red cross the do pop in visits to check people are ok and prompt meds and food ect to avoid hospital admissions.

    People with diabetic ulcer can heal however they take longer due to problems caused by diabetes. sooner she is know to the right services the better.
     
  16. GoldenShadow

    GoldenShadow PetForums VIP

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    Thank you sooooo much! Will tell my aunt as she is going to try and contact the GP who saw Nana today to get her painkillers etc.

    Will update with how things go, she's not really enjoyed much of her life I don't think which is why she doesn't care much for her health :(
     
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    Nana has been taken to hospital and has to stay in overnight due to the infection on her ankle. Don't know why or when etc.
     
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    too late.

    no joke.
     
  19. Bwy39

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    The concern you show for your relative is beautiful and sincere and I respect you for it.

    I am over 70 years young and I have my fair share of medical conditions which I keep to myself along with the pain.

    This is not because I don't want to bother people it is just me and my way of dealing with my life.

    In this world we need to respect the feelings of people especially those who are in their twilight years. It will not stop you from worrying that is natural and proper, you love your relation but she has her own feelings as well and they should be respected no matter how much it upsets you.

    Remember we elderly have seen life in a way younger people have not and we learn to deal with things in our own way which often is not your way.

    I get what you call "nagged at" often but is it really nagging or is it love talking out of concern.

    You will learn soon enough that life does not have the same importance to us when we reach the so called "Old Age" we get on with the way we live as we know each day we open our eyes is a bonus.

    Ask yourself the question........... How would your Nan feel if she thought she had upset you or made you angry even if it is from the obvious love you have for her.

    The trick now is to live life with her not against her and let her have her own way she earned it even if you don't like it.

    I really do hope she recovers and as one of your "Old People" I send her my regards and best wishes.
    She is a lucky lady to have you around.:thumbsup:

    xoxox
     
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    what a lovely post :) x
     
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