Our cat Lily is a two year old rescue. She's been with us two months. When we met her at the rescue shelter she walked straight to us and wanted a fuss, even with our kids she was so confident. She chose us. Our kids are 3 & 5 years old. So we brought her home and straight away she settled in and she was so confident and loved hanging around with us. The noisy kids didn't bother her and we thought she was perfect. Soon after we realised she bites and scratches our hands when playing or when she has had enough of being petted. It's been an ongoing thing I've tried to teach her not to do. And it has worked but only with me, she still does it with the kids. Anyways since then she's changed, she has started avoiding us, staying in the one room that none of us go in to so that she can have a quiet place. If she's not out she's sleeping in that room. We hardly see her. I've tried to get the kids to feed her treats so that they could become friends but she's not really interested in that either anymore. So I thought ok it's only been two months, she just needs time. Then my mother in law came to visit. Lily was all over her! She went on to her lap and was loving the attention. She never ever comes to my lap! (well once she has). I'm devastated and heartbroken I've tried so hard to make friends with her and so have my 5 year old, she was so excited about having this cat. She kept talking about how they'll be best friends etc. Last night Lily scratched her and my daughter cried and asked why does she always do that. It's heartbreaking. I honestly thought it's just new home etc and she needs time but then when I saw how she was like with my mother in law it just got me thinking (and crying) maybe she just doesn't like us. She does come to me and she follows me around occasionally but I feel like it's only because I feed her. Honestly, I don't know what I'm hoping to hear or why I'm writing this. Maybe I'm hoping to hear it'll all be ok soon. Maybe some similar experiences? Me and the kids have tried so hard to play with her loads and give her treats to connect with her and yet it seems she wants nothing to do with us. Except when it's 3 am, she comes to wake us up. In the night when the kids are in bed I'd like nothing more than have her sit next to me on the sofa but she won't even do that. Yet she seemed so social when we brought her home, she used to want to play with me every night but not anymore. It feels like she actually is a social and friendly cuddly cat but just not with any of us, because she doesn't like us? She did in the beginning though so why not anymore? I'm so desperate for this to work out, I know it's only been two months but the way she was with my mother in law... She's only met her once before! Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.