OK, I'm a notorious over-thinker and worrier, so perhaps adopting a cat wasn't the most sensible thing to do but here we go. As you might know, we rescued Oscar on 6th March and I just worry about him all the time. After the first morning when he bit me, we very quickly worked out that he doesn't want much petting - but he does often like to be in the room with us. He has been sleeping on our bed for the last four nights, after we decided to do that and not close him in "his" room. I've tried to start to introduce some better food but that's not going brilliantly - so today we are back to Felix Senior, which is fine, I am sure being 11 years old and never having had good quality food it might take a long time. He does go to the toilet most days (one day he didn't and went twice the next day), doing wees though. We were out last night and he waited until gone midnight to go to the loo, as he goes and then meows for us to come and clear it! He has only tried to cover a couple of times since he came to live with us, which i've read can be a territory thing. I wish he was a more cuddly "lap cat" - and yesterday he started to go to bite me again, which has made me all nervous again, which of course he must pick up on. He does let us touch him more now than he did (especially my husband) - and I keep trying to tell myself that he's not even been here three weeks yet and I mustn't expect too much! Ahhh! It's all spinning around in my head. I try to tell myself that he wouldn't sleep on our bed if he didn't feel safe, he won't sit next to me on the sofa now (he did a couple of times the first week) but he will come into the lounge in the evening but he does still do the chirruping greeting thing and he will happily groom in front of us. We are very lucky to live in a lovely house (but I think he gets lost and forgets where the kitchen is for his food if he's not eaten it all!) and there is a nice garden - my husband wants to let him out towards the end of the week but I am terrified! What happens if he just decided to go? I have been reading the tricks about getting him back in but secretly I'd like to make him stay indoors, but husband wants him to go out if he wants to. I can see that it would be good for him but I am scared. All you amazingly experienced cat slaves will be much calmer about this than I am, I know that. I just want to make his life happy and I worry so much that he's not. I have said before, I wish I knew more about his background, I worry that he was happy with his old family and he's been ripped from there and dropped here because of them having to move. I know nothing besides that and that the Vet told us he was underweight and out of condition. I think I'd find it easier if I knew he'd been mistreated, it's the fact that he might be sad and pining for his old family that makes me so sad. He had just under a month at the rescue - I see Facebook posts from other cat owners that have adopted from there more recently and their cats are all cuddly and lap cats already - and I must confess I am jealous. So that's me. Is there any hope for me I wonder? I think I am destined to worry about every little move he makes...I've had a knot of anxiety in my tummy since he came home. I just want him to know that he is OK here and we will look after him. Good grief...poor Oscar being landed with such a neurotic human mother If you've got this far, thanks for reading.