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Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by Murphy’sLaw, Jul 12, 2018.


  1. Murphy’sLaw

    Murphy’sLaw PetForums Newbie

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    Hi I’ve just joined as I thought this might be a good place to get some advice.
    Recently adopted a lovely little puppy, he’s been with us a month now and I’m really struggling!
    I love him to bits but I’m finding him such hard word work..I also have a 4yr old little boy and they are really not getting on.
    I know it’s early days and I’ve gotta grit my teeth but I really just want some reassurance that this won’t last forever!
    Tia
     
  2. Burrowzig

    Burrowzig PetForums VIP

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    It won't last, don't worry. Puppies grow up all too fast. What exactly are you finding hard, and why isn't he getting on with your son?
     
  3. Murphy’sLaw

    Murphy’sLaw PetForums Newbie

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    Hi thanks for your reply! I think what I’m finding difficult is the fact that I did so much research, we talked and talked about what breed and the pros and cons and waited a year until my son was a little bit older and starting school and I feel like I still got it all wrong! Lol
    The constant nipping, ankle biting, ragging at his pj bottoms and socks.
    We’re having issues with separation anxiety..not at night but during the day if I need to nip out he’s very distressed...I’ve tried the tips like covering the crate, a comforting blanket, his favourite toys and a chewy and leaving the telly on.
    I know it won’t last forever but I’m exhausted lol
     
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    Burrowzig PetForums VIP

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    Keep pup on a harness with a short lead attached around the house. Then if he starts on your son, you can just pick up the end and remove pup from the room - cutting the handle off the lead is best, so it won't snag on things as it trails behind. Pup will soon learn that sort of behaviour means the end of any fun. When pups become over-tired - the same sort of frantic behaviour you'll see in children, it's time for an enforced time out for a sleep. Is your son old enough to be able to put a toy in front of the dog's face, to re-direct him onto that? Are you using a crate and/or puppy pen?
     
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    Murphy’sLaw PetForums Newbie

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    That’s a good idea about the harness..I shall pick one up at the weekend.
    I have been making a loud noise like clapping or tapping something and then putting him immediately into the kitchen when he starts getting worked up and nipping ankles but he tends to get very distressed and just pees all over the floor.

    Yes I do have a crate which I use at night and if I need to go out..do you think I should use it more often? I didn’t really want to use it as a ‘punishment’ if you see what I mean!
    Yes my son is old enough to do it but 90% of the time they’ve both got eachother over excited and neither puppy or child are listening to my instructions.
     
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    Burrowzig PetForums VIP

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    I had crates I put my pups in when they needed a sleep, they didn't seem to see it as a punishment. I had twin girls who I'd bred, one crate on top of the other so the top one needed to be lifted in. I'd put them in with a chew, and there was a bowl of water in there. Then lights out and leave the room; in an hour or two they'd be all sweetness again.
     
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    Puppy blues we have all been there, more than once I thought of sending Dillon back to his breeder.

    Do you have a play pen, it would be ideal to put your puppy in, it will give you a break and your son sometime on your own and give your puppy his own play space.
     
  8. Murphy’sLaw

    Murphy’sLaw PetForums Newbie

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    Hi thanks ..I use the crate at night and he’s great in there at bed time but he really protests during the day, so perhaps a playpen would be better for day time. I will look at getting one this week and see how it works out.
     
  9. Andrewnewbie

    Andrewnewbie PetForums Newbie

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    Please help me!

    Major case of the puppy blues. I didn’t know it was an actual thing until I looked on here. I’ve been wanting a dog for ages, and finally persuaded my wife that it was a good idea. Picked up a beautiful lurched collie cross yesterday. Almost as soon as we left the breeder, I was overcome with anxiety and remorse - I almost turned the car around and went back. The only reason I didn’t was shame and embarrassment.

    I’ve had a dog as a teenager at home, and had no issues. But now I’m just wondering why I even wanted a dog in the first place? There’s nothing wrong with her. She’s kind, well behaved and great with the kids. I just feel like I was the one pushing to get her and now I’m not sure I want her.

    Should I contact the breeder and ask if she’ll take her back? It’ll break mine and the family’s hearts, but I don’t know if this anxiety and depression will pass...

    I know that a dogs not just for Christmas, so please be gentle with responses...
     
  10. Nettles

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    When I say many of us have been there, I really do mean it. It will pass.

    You can do all the research in the world, but it’s still a huge shock to the system when you realise you're responsible for this new little ball of fluff who is totally reliant on you for pretty much everything.

    Both my OH and I grew up with dogs and had wanted one of our own for years. When our circumstances changed and we were finally in a position to get one, we were so unbelievably excited... So I was totally unprepared for the anxiety and feelings of regret that started the second we got her home. I felt like my world was turned upside down and I couldn’t do anything without a springer spaniel puppy attached to my ass cheek 24/7! Now, I wouldn’t be without her and I really can’t believe I ever felt like that about her.

    Things will settle down soon, everything will slot into place and it’ll feel like she’s always been part of your family :)
     
  11. kittih

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    OP join the puppy support thread - it's a sticky at the top of the forum. Lots of people have experienced this. You will be fine once you've learned about each other and have a routine.

    I am not a dog owner but had a mild case of puppy blues when I dog sat my neighbours dog and he wasn't even a puppy with the sudden responsibility and dealing with unwanted behaviour so o can only how imagine how much harder it is with a small vulnerable bitey thing.

    Set yourself a time limit if a few weeks and review how you feel then.

    Feel free to post your woes here for some support.
     
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