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Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by queeniz, Feb 23, 2021.


  1. queeniz

    queeniz Fairytalecat

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    My kitten is 10months old & ive had her since September but she doesn’t like me :(
    she’s my 32nd cat in my life & its breaking my heart & soul the way she is… dunno what to do please help????
     
  2. Tigermoon

    Tigermoon PetForums VIP

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    What makes you think she doesn't like you?
     
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    ewelsh PetForums VIP

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    That is very sad to hear, any reason why you feel this?
     
  4. queeniz

    queeniz Fairytalecat

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    I can hardly pick her up or stroke her and I don’t know why??
     
  5. Douglas’ Dad

    Douglas’ Dad PetForums Senior

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    But not all cats want to be picked up. My cat hated it. And maybe if you’re forcing her it’s causing her to back away. Let her stay in control. You’ve had 32 cats so you know more than me I’m sure.
     
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    Tigermoon PetForums VIP

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    Where did she come from, a rescue or a breeder? Not all cats like being handled and past experiences can have a huge baring on how they react in certain situations.

    EDIT: Ok so having gone back through your previous posts I'm assuming this is the Norwegian Forest kitten that you've always had trouble with? If so I'd say she was not properly socialised by the breeder you got her from. Did they raise her in their house or in a cattery? Did they have children? Kittens need careful daily handling from the get-go in order to develop their ease with being picked up and touched. If the breeder failed to do this (or the cat had a bad experience) then you will have to win this cat around yourself and it will take time. I would not attempt to pick her up at all, but instead simply be in her presence in a quiet way. Reading a book or watching TV is good, it gives her time to observe without the pressure of direct contact. Offer her treats that you know she likes. Throw them towards her then slowly nearer and nearer to you. Never rush her, allow her to come to you.
     
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  7. queeniz

    queeniz Fairytalecat

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    I haven’t forced her I wouldn’t do that but if you go near her she backs up like I’ve hit her before (and I haven’t done that).
     
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    One of mine that I've had for ten years doesn't want me to pick her up (so I don't even waste my time trying). If I put my face close to her to say something, she backs off; it's just the way she is. The others (males) are very affectionate and quite pushy wanting attention. Lola can live without it, it seems!
    If a previous cat was more affectionate, I suppose it comes as a shock and can be quite upsetting if a new one acts as though it doesn't want to be friends.
     
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    queeniz Fairytalecat

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    It has been a shock to me but also I think I’m still grieving for my Isabelle (she died 18th April 2020)
     
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    That's very sad; it can take a long time to come to terms with losing a much-loved pet. And I think sometimes you can compare a new one with the previous one and think , ''Isabelle would not have done this'', or ''Isabelle would have done that''. I remember some time after I lost a favourite cat (he really was a favourite) someone remarked how sweet and friendly one of the others was and I said, ''He's lovely, but he's not Gatsby'' then thought how awful that sounded. If I pick up Lola, she doesn't fight or scratch, but she just looks away from me as if she's waiting for the moment I put her down again. She is fine with one of the boy cats, but hates the little girl. They are all so very different.
     
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