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Living your life

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by shetlandlover, Aug 24, 2013.


  1. shetlandlover

    shetlandlover PetForums VIP

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    Okay so recently I joined a gym, I sat down with the owner who asked me the routine questions and the discussion went as follows....

    Her: Do you smoke?
    Me: No.

    Her: Do you drink?
    Me: Not really, only now and again.

    Her: Do you drink when you go out?
    Me: I don't really go out, I've never been to a night club or bar, I only really "go out" when I go to family meals.

    Her: Wow, you really haven't lived your life!

    Now that stuck with me, I'm 23, I'm married, I've been with my fella since 2007 (I was 17) before I met him I was a carer for my autistic brother, I wasn't allowed out with friends unless he was out with his other carers (for 2 hours on a Wednesday 4-6pm)

    So my question to you all,

    When you were 23, did you go out drinking with friends?
    Have you "lived your life"?
     
  2. Fleur

    Fleur Vassal to Lilly and Ludo

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    Going out drinking isn't living your life ;)
    Doing what you want, considering other people and pushing your boundries is living your life :)

    At 23 I had one child and was pregnant with another so no drinking for me :p not at 23 anyway, I did all my drinking between 16 and 19

    I lived my life - I did the things I wanted to do :D
     
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  3. ljs85

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    Wow, she was rude!

    At 23/24 I was living the student life (did a post grad) - living in student digs(yuck!), studying at uni and drinking/clubbing on the weekends. So if that's "living" then I was doing it.
     
  4. Lavenderb

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    Doing what makes you happy is living your life. Some people like being quiet at home , others like tearing down roads on motorbikes. We are all different.
     
  5. Fleur

    Fleur Vassal to Lilly and Ludo

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    I never officially went to Uni - but because my older sister did I was working in the student union bar at 16 for free booze :eek: and partying with her and her friends :eek:
    The at 18 i had a friend who owned a club in Soho so weekends were spent drinking Champagne in his club and getting the early morning train home straight to work on a Monday morning ;)
    But I wouldn't say that was living - the best bits of my life have been spent with close family and friends enjoying our time together either at home or on holidays.
     
  6. Kitty_pig

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    How dare she! :thumbdown:

    I went out most weekends at 21 but by 23 I was back at uni and literally studying all the time, and had been diagnosed with IBS so alcohol didnt mix well with me. I didnt have the money or the inclination to go out clubbing all the time. I'd rather have sat in a pub and had like 1 drink after a meal or something. Going out does get quite boring and I didnt like running into people so drunk they didnt know what they were doing, ive never needed to be pi$$ed to have a good time. I prefer being in control.

    Sounds to me like you have had a lovely start to your life, just because you settled down earlier than others doesnt mean you've had no life. :mad:
     
  7. Colliebarmy

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    have you noticed something about gym's?

    theres a vending machine full of chocolate bars in the foyer

    (more often than not)
     
  8. McKenzie

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    So killing your braincells and your liver is a good way to live your life???

    I never did the partying and nightclubbing thing - it just never appealed to me. I'm now a bit older and don't regret not having done that stuff at all. I spent my teens and 20s enjoying myself in other ways - travelling, indulging various hobbies, building my career etc - stuff that was far more useful!
     
  9. hippymama

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    wow she was a bit rude :eek: .

    i am nearly 23 and i haven't drank for 5 or 6 years now , i don't really like the taste and i dont go out to bars etc anyway ... its just not something i enjoy really , i had a mad few years in my teens and got it all out of my system lol .
    im happy spending time with my partner and my kids and my pets :)
    i think its sad people think you need to be drunk to be enjoying yourself :rolleyes:
     
  10. Argent

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    Wow then I've really had no life....even as a Uni student, I didn't go out clubbing (tried it in first year, wasn't my thing really), we were more 'going out for sushi and a film' kinda people *shrugs*

    I'm 23 now, living with my OH and working at a cafe to pay the rent. I only drink if having a get-together with our Uni friends, who we barely get to see because of distance and everybody working all the time! (I'm talking once a year if that!)

    If you're happy and fulfilled, then you are living your life, the amount of booze you've thrown down your neck doesn't measure life experience. :thumbdown:

    You should've said "Meh, had better things to do than waste my time and money clubbing!" :D
     
  11. Kitty_pig

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    Thats the only reason I used to go :lol:
     
  12. dorrit

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    I agree with so many of the others on this , what a rude insensitive person she was :(

    Your life is yours to do with as you see fit not to live up to someone elses ideal of what life is..

    Live your life your way and enjoy , it goes past in a flash...
     
  13. catz4m8z

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    Sounds like my idea of hell, drinking, smoking and nightclubs!!
    At 23 I was a student living in shared accommodation. We never went to a nightclub or even a pub. There was a very popular theatre in the town though so we did spend many a 'crazy' night watching a ballet or some Shakespeare!
    Even at 23 I preferred a cream tea and watching Romeo and Juliet!!LOL:D
     
  14. H0lly

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    I have never drank. Nor been to a night club I have very little friends. However I feel I have experienced so much more than alot of people my age. From about 13 up until I bought my own home at 23 I had a keen interest in motorsport so travelled alot to watch/ take part in that. I bought my own sports car (1st car) at 19. Have driven in multiple countries met many of different people.

    I now have a partner, 2 beautiful dogs and own my home with plans for much more in the future

    However because I dont drink and go out clubbing alot of people pass comment about me having not lived
     
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    Personally I can't see the appeal in being drunk and throwing up.
     
  16. CavalierOwner

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    Wow! How rude. :incazzato:

    I must not have had a life then either! :rolleyes: Started working at 14 and have worked ever since, I'm also 23, left home at 18 and I've never been clubbing and never wanted to, it's not my thing. I'd rather go out for a meal, tbh.
     
  17. IrishEyes

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    That wasn't very professional of her nor very nice, who is she to judge your life? Surely the gym should be seen to be advocating a healthy lifestyle, she certainly wasn't.

    As Collie says there are vending machines full of chocolate and crisps in leisure centres, not really setting a good example is it?

    I used to enjoy nothing more than a night out drinking and dancing, it's years since I've done any of those things and my quality of life is much better now.
     
  18. Goblin

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    I'm going to buck the trend in some ways. At that age I was beginning to find out who I was. I joined a society which traveled a lot all around the UK a lot of weekends. Drink wasn't a requirement although it did happen. In general it was getting out and about with a sociable group, almost like an extended family. Add to that work commitments which also had me traveling around a bit, seeing new things, sometimes abroad. I do not regret it at all but I was single.

    It's a lot harder when you aren't single but I would potentially feel I missed out on some experiences if all I did was stay at home and looked back. Alternatives exist, visiting different places on holiday springs to mind and you can make that a bonding experience with your OH. I only recently went to my first festival, on my own aged in the 40's. Things like this work for me, it may not work for you. On the flip side I would say do things while you have the capability so you don't regret it later in life.
     
  19. Lurcherlad

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    From late teens to mid twenties did the partying, nightclubs, Mediterranean holidays with the girls, etc. Smoked, drank, had a ball.

    Mid Twenties to mid thirties settled down, got married, stopped smoking, drank less, still socialised, but in a different way, and started family.

    Gradually, since my mid thirties, I would say I have just led a quieter life and socialised less, and tended to reduce my social circle to my oldest/best friends.

    Now, in my fifties, I would say I am a boring old fart and am quite antisocial! ;)

    I would say, however, the woman at the gym was rude! Take no notice and just suit yourself ;)

    If you are happy with your life - great. If you are not - change it.
     
  20. shetlandlover

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    I don't think she meant it rudely.

    I think its because I've never even tried to go to a club or non family related party.

    From what I gather most people have at least tried these things.
     
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