So we have a 14 week old cockapoo puppy, and we are struggling with leaving her alone. She is left 4 hours in the morning, and I walk/play with her at lunch times (I am only a 10 minute drive away from home/work) and then again another 3 hours in the afternoon. She has a crate with an attached pen in the living room, so she wanders in and out and sleeps in various places throughout the time she is left alone. We have a puppy cam to keep an eye on her and just see how she copes. We had about a 3 weeks off when we brought her home between me and my partner to get her used to the house, we have now been back at work for a couple of weeks and she has stopped eating properly. We have tried now 3 different kibbles, and we are mixing jelly with her food. She definitely still has appetite, and the vet checked her over and there was nothing obviously wrong .e.g temperature etc. So we believe it is to do with us leaving her. We are checking out a doggy day care for at least one day a week, but can't afford to do every day of the week. We would like her to be used to being alone, because it will be good for her in general to not feel anxious when she is alone. But we can't help the guilt! On the camera she sleeps for 90% of the time we're gone, has a play, falls back asleep etc and sometimes has a little cry. Logically we know that she is fine, and nothing can happen to her she has what she needs. But the fact that she's not eating properly tells us she is stressed about it. My partners mum has offered to have her every day no problem - which is lovely, but we are worried she will become more used to his parents opposed to us, which is selfish but her training is progressing really well she listens to us, her recall is great when she is off the lead etc. And we don't want to ruin that. I just wondered what other people's experiences have been, is it worth powering through these days of her not eating as much and being anxious about us leaving and she will get better, or is it cruel? Would long term it damage our 'pack' if she is spending a lot of time with other people? Anyones thoughts/experiences/opinions would be much appreciated Thank you.