You know, the more I think about it, the more I realise she's always been like this, and I've always know it, it's just the depth of it that has varied. My mum would call her a "fair-weather friend" (I even think my mum might have even mentioned that about her when we were teenagers). I guess because I have known her for so long, I've kind of accepted it's the way she is. It was her "norm". I guess what have been the final straws have been not bothering with my birthday; the borrowing money, saying she's broke, but would pay me back, didn't, and then got a tattoo and has never mentioned the money. Also, finding out how much her partner earns, but she's always "broke".....and then finally not getting me an Xmas present, as she "wasn't doing presents this year" (but didn't tell me, when she knew I would get her something. Nor did she say why she wasn't doing presents but she got a tattoo.) I think because it's all happened since August (my birthday), in a short period of time, it's all a big realisation. That, and having a right good old rant about it, and writing it all down! Yes, I think I'll stay in contact, for the sake of her son. He's a lovely young man (I'm not a child-person, either), and I don't want to lose contact with him. But as I said previously, I'm going to stop contacting her for nights out/lunch etc, and I won't contact her about visiting in January when I have the week off. And let's just see what happens....... Thank you all, again, for your honesty. I needed it, and it was good to rant, as it's given me clarity.