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Instant decision or months of planning?

Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by jo-pop, Sep 24, 2013.


  1. jo-pop

    jo-pop PetForums VIP

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    When you're planning a feline addition how have YOU done it?
    Have you known instantly that you want a rescue cat, or a certain breed. Have you known what kind of cat would suit instantly. Have you taken a chance on a rescue and got a perfect companion, or has it been a difficult match?

    Or, have you planned and researched for months/years before finally getting one? How has it worked out?

    Personally I've done it both ways.
    Lucy: rescue cat. Instantly fell in love. Perfect family companion.
    Murphy: rescue cat. A noisy fellow who caught my eye in the rescue centre. Fun and characterful cat. A bit of a nipper though so think he had a bad start.
    Tom: stray, found as a tiny kitten by a friend. A very nervous car but loyal to those he trusts. Hates noisy children.
    Thomas: BSH. Researched breed for a long time. The perfect pet for my young family.


    It seems to be luck of the draw to a point but is clear a good start and being left with mum for long enough really helps.

    I've been planning my next addition for over a year now but it's not happening soon I don't think. When my children have grown up I see that I'll be back to rescuing the nervous and needy ones again :)
     
  2. lilythepink

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    Always loved siamese, had rescued ones from people who got fed up with them and I have bought them, never got one from a cat rescue.

    18months ago I had to go to a house, never been before, didn't know the owner. She was retiring from breeding cats due to ill health. I came home with 5 cats that afternoon but 1 sadly died a few months later( old age). I didn't have any house cats at the time but getting another cat was the furthest thing from my mind.

    I probably wouldn't have done it if it had been any other breed.
     
  3. spotty cats

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    The current cats, I was after a show neuter and researched several breeds before deciding on the Ocicat.
    Once I got that first boy, it was a near instant decision that I'd get more of the same breed, soon had 3 show neuters and years later began breeding.
    Worked out very well, couldn't imagine a more perfect breed :D
     
  4. Mum to Missy

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    Well Missy wasn't planned, she was a stray and it was an overnight decision to have her and she is the perfect little girl apart from now being fussy with what she eats! I don't regret one second of having her :)

    I'm planning my next kitty, it's going to be a pedigree, I'm doing a lot of research into breeds and hopefully, maybe this time next year, all being well I'll my new addition :)
     
  5. Aurelie

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    I love a bit of planning and research :) We got Claude for the same reasons you did, we wanted the most laid back, bomb proof, family suitable cat around and my sister has one too.

    For cat number two I was all set for another BSH and had contacted Claude's breeder about a golden tipped kitten from a litter she had planned, but my husband pointed out that pre children I had always liked the look of cats from the pointier end of the spectrum and maybe I didn't need to have the same breed (which I had assumed I would for the sake of them getting on). After a lot of research, bending PF ears a LOT and quite a few 'what do you think about this breed' threads, I chose a Burmese but it was a toss up between that and a Tonk.

    Finally, for cat number three I was all guns blazing for a Tonk, but actually my daughter who is also a bit cat crazy and had been to a show with me has loved Siamese since being a toddler, she had taken lots of Siamese photos at the show. I also love Siamese and Orientals so it seemed a natural choice to include her this time and some time in the next week Bruno will be home.

    For me, half of the fun is the planning, I love learning about breeds, genetics etc and hope to help with some stewarding next year if I can, so I don't think I would ever get a pet without allowing myself time to luxuriate in researching and planning the new addition. Plus it is a good way of preparing my husband for the inevitable :D
     
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  6. lilythepink

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    Lol. I just turned up with 5 siamese and orientals...and didn't tell my husband til he came home and saw them.lol

    Its my wedding anniversary soon and he just offered to buy me a kitten.......and thats great, but the woman I got the others off still has some she would like to rehome...so I am torn.
     
  7. spid

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    Bit of both - instant "I want another kitten" and then months planning it.
     
  8. Hanwombat

    Hanwombat I ♥ dogs with eyebrows !!

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    When I moved into a rental with my partner I knew I wanted a cat - I had waited years to get another.

    I know I wanted a rescue and I wanted an adult cat over a kitten.

    I've only ever had a male cat previous to this, I wasn't fussed if I got a male or female.

    Didn't care for the colour, though I adore black and whites.

    Went to Wood Green Animal Shelter and instantly loved 'Sooty'

    He was a 3 year old, black, male cat who in his previous home had lived with an old lady who never let him out. He was becoming a handful and was 8kg due to the owner feeding him lots to keep him occupied.

    So I adopted 'Sooty' renamed Bear and I love him to bits :eek:

    He isn't cuddly, doesn't like kisses or hugs, but he likes the occasional stroke and fuss and he sleeps on the bed with us :)

    Some people probably wouldn't have liked him due to his unaffectionate nature but it didn't deter me.

    I am slowly getting his weight down, he is a large cat anyways so 5 - 5 1/2kg would be nice.

    He also goes outside and loves it!
     
  9. Jansheff

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    I've also experienced different ways. First cat, Jimmy, took a bit of finding. We wanted a kitten, but it was getting late in the year and difficult to find one. Eventually the CPL rang us so say someone was fostering a 4 month old and would we like to see him?

    Sophie happened because about 6 months after having Jimmy he went to a cattery based on a farm while we went on holiday. When we got back they had had a litter dumped on them needing new homes. They were over run with animals, they were sort of seen in the area as an unrecognised rescue and people would just leave animals at their gate and they had more than they could realistically cope with. Now I've moved on a bit on experience and knowledge, I am much fussier where I board my cats!

    Norman was hit by the car in front of us, it didn't stop, we did - and so did Norman! Tried to find his owners by postcards in shop windows etc, but nothing.

    When Jimmy died it was just before Christmas, so we were all in the house all the time, feeling dead miserable. We went to the RSPCA on the day they opened in the New Year "just for a look" and came home with Raffles.

    When Sophie died it was just after a 'big' birthday of mine, I still hadn't had a prezzie and I had always wanted a Siamese - despite my husband's attitude of "I'm not paying good money for a cat". I started researching Siamese and sort of got side tracked on to Burmese (a cattery owner/breeder told me they were less jealous, less 'one-person' orientated, so would be better for a family - don't know how true that is, lol). Found a reputable breeder, went over to choose and put a deposit down on one - went to pick him up 6 weeks later ...... and came home with two!!! ("All it took was a bit of expert wheedling to Dad" said my 10 year old son on the way out!). Best quick decision we ever made though, I can't imagine having one without the other now.

    In all, a mixture of carefully researched and chosen cats to snap decisions, and one purchase who was a bit of both! But we haven't regretted any of them, except perhaps Sophie who was pressed onto us at the farm at only 6 weeks and never was as sociable or loving as the others. Maybe if she'd been with mum longer ... but who knows.
     
  10. lulubel

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    Planning? What's that? They just turn up.

    Seriously, I just picked Sam up at the side of the road, with no idea what I was going to do with him, or how I was going to look after him, but I couldn't just leave him there. I adopted Milly from the CPL as a companion for Sam. That was unplanned too - I mentioned to someone who fosters for the CPL that I was going to look for a kitten, she said she was fostering one, so I said, "Great, I'll have her!"

    Eva (now with my partner in the UK) just turned up in our garden, we started feeding her because she was obviously hungry, and you know where that leads .....

    Luna turned up in the garden, thin and with a skin condition.

    And now I have Zack and little Harry on the verge of moving in. Harry's still a kitten, though, so I'm going to try and rehome him when he gets more confident and easier to handle.
     
  11. Mum

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    In the past my pets always found me not the other way around.

    I've had a rescue rabbit after an unsavoury chap who was renting nearby kept threatening to kick it out and as kids our parents thought we were exaggerating with our pleas to adopt her until one day my dad found her terrified, hiding under his car. Luckily we already had a rabbit and once she'd had her litter of babies (yes she was already pregnant) we kept her and she lived happily ever after with our neutered male who was completely smitten by her at this point.

    I've also had two rescue kittens who were 4 weeks old and came with mum from a lady who again threatened to throw mum and her two kittens out. We found a good home for all three of them together once they were cleaned up and ready to leave :frown2: I've also had two older cats from rescues who's owners had gone into care homes and being 14+ years at the time they'd been overlooked in shelters and were very nervous but soon adjusted and were able to live out their twilight years with us in peace. They were the right pets for me as I was working full time at the time and they enjoyed each others company and a slower pace of life.

    Oh and I volunteered at a petshop when I was 11 because I wasn't happy with the conditions of the cages and the RSPCA and local authority had ignored my complaints because I was still a minor no doubt. I regularly mucked out the cages for no pay and handled the kittens and puppies in an attempt to excercise and socialise them. I guess this is why as an adult I just don't step foot in those places anymore but I understand these places have improved a lot since I was young. I actually adopted an odd eyed ginger hamster from the owner because he was going to feed him (live) to one of the snakes since ''nobody wanted the ugly one'' and he needed the cage to fill with new babies :(. He turned out to be the most remarkable little hamster and escape artist I've ever had the pleasure to know and lived to be 4 years! I was so happy when that shop closed down as was my dad who was livid when he found out the owner was exploiting me and a friend for child labour!!

    This time around I'm doing things differently as I'm a mum (obviously) and needed to guarantee certain breed specific traits to suit my youngster. I'm buying a pedigree kitten which is something I'd never thought I'd do but I have loved the unique experience, anticipation and excitement. I've also always been an admirer of the breed. It's been planned for many months so when she finally arrives it will be wonderful and there'll be no rushing out to go buy things as for once in my life I've been able to plan ahead :p

    No doubt as my family changes though we'll rescue in the future! Sadly that is one thing you can always be assured of for every person who cherishes their animals there is another who see's them as disposable.
     
  12. Cookieandme

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    Definitely not months of planning :D

    I feel a bit sorry for April she want to "love" Cookie but Cookie doesn't wants to reciprocate :(
     
  13. catgeoffrey

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    We had cats in the past but sadly passed away so OH set himself on a ginger kitten.
    I kept saying "no, not until we move to a better area" etc etc
    He started researching local rescues and found someone with a litter of ginger kittens - we went to visit and fell in love! Geoffrey came home with us the very next day!
    After having Geoffrey at home for about 6 months we felt he needed a play mate so thought about a second kitten but not too much thought... we went away for a weekend and fell in love with a silver cat with big eyes (BSH) and a ragdoll in the cattery.
    We spent the whole weekend away researching the two breeds and found a breeder on our route home with BSH kittens ready to go to new homes... Ruxpin came home from our holiday with us!
    Both spare of the moment decisions but the best decisions we ever made! They play fight and run around like crazy creatures but they get on really well - Ruxpin is Geoffrey's shadow! Very cute! Love my boys! :001_wub::001_wub::001_wub:
     
  14. Aurelie

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    Its the same with Claude and Nancy, one is always left looking a bit dejected while the other looks disgusted! :rolleyes:
     
  15. lymorelynn

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    I've always known that I wanted Siamese cats so I guess for me it has been years of planning - from when I was a child until I got my first Siamese kitten in 1974/5 (getting old here and can't quite remember :eek:) Other cats have come and gone throughout my life but most were planned.
    I think Pasha might be an exception as I had taken Mai Tai to stud and went to see the breeder's kittens. On the way home my husband asked what I wanted for Christmas (this was late November) and I said I'd have one of the kittens :D I think he already knew before he asked as he had fallen for little Pasha too ;)
     
  16. maisiecat

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    I took the first one in off the street as he had been left to fend for himself, very hot weather and not even a bowl of water. He was very old and very ill and was with us (including time staying at the vets) for about 2 weeks before he went to Rainbow Bridge. Although I had been feeding him for a while I hadn't planned on getting a pet.

    Once I had got over his loss a bit I started thinking I would like to adopt but didn't actually get around to it for a while due to moving house. I always was drawn to the tuxedo cats on rescue sites and one day there he was. A terrible photo of him showing his lack of tail, had no idea what his face was like. He was reserved, no home check done, we collected him a few days later after our last weekend away as 'free' people. I didn't think about it, I saw his photo and that was it.

    Maisie decided to live with us, we had no choice. If I had planned another cat, which I was hoping to do once we had settled in our own home (another move) I would have tried to get a cat friendly cat because Bob loves company, cats and people, and I had hoped for a kind of reverse of Bob, more white with black on, rather than black with white. But that's not going to happen now :frown2:
     
  17. Buttons1

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    I had been desperate for a cat since I was born but my parents hated cats. When I met my husband he had grown up with cats and totally adored them so he was my perfect partner (I married him for other reasons too!)

    We always said we would get a cat once our two children were old enough to not roll on it or pull its tail! In February (my children were now 4 and 2) I suddenly had a thought and texted my husband at work to say "don't you think we should get a cat now so I have time to settle it in before returning to work in September?' he replied saying 'that's mad, I had that exact same thought this morning!'

    I went in to over drive contacting EVERY cat shelter in the county (and neighbouring counties) and unbelievably not one had any kittens. I kept being told it wasn't kitten season.

    I decided the next best thing was a local family with unwanted/unplanned kittens. It took ages as I was very strict with my vetting and anyone who sounded like they were in it for the money were rejected.

    I found Dylan in the next town, he lived with 4 children under 6 and with 8 other kittens (the owner had taken both her cats to be spayed and found out it was too late and they were both pregnant). They had been vet checked, fed high quality food and loved and handled by the kids. He settled in perfectly and is so confident. Part of this is down to his start in life I'm sure.

    If I was too get another cat I would hold out for a rescue one, but this time I had waited 36 years and couldn't wait any longer :)
     
  18. oggers86

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    When my husband and I moved in together cats were always on the agenda but after a couple of weeks I desperately wanted a pet and he relented to get them asap in the end when I told him I wanted guinea pigs. We both decided that we would wait a few months to get settled giving us ample time to research and choose a Bengal breeder. Unfortunately it didn't work out so we went down the rescue route and so had no real reason to wait (other than the fact we were still missing items of furniture but who cares about that ;-) ) We went to CP a week or so later and the cats just kind of picked us. 3 days later I brought them home.

    Our next pet will potentially be a parrot but neither of us have any experience with them so we need to do some proper research into them. Cats are much easier than parrots which seem quite high maintenance and not something I want to rush into.


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  19. Figaro

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    When my 17 year old died back in June, I knew I would like another cat but would wait until the right one came along (I didn't have anything specific in mind), then I saw this little pure white chap amongst a litter of 8 I went for it and never looked back.

    He is the most affectionate cat I've ever had; only bares his claws to scratch the post. He likes to be handled, picked up, fussed, brushed, cuddled. He's healthy, intelligent and so playful and so beautiful to look at.
     

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  20. JordanRose

    JordanRose Master of the Whingey Cat.

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    You all know Spooky's story so I won't bore you again with it. I wasn't actively looking for a cat at the time but we found eachother and I had no choice but to adopt my soulmate :eek:

    The next one- there WILL be a next one!- has been researched and planned for months. The only thing stopping me now is a resistant Mum. But I had to overcome that hurdle before, too, so I know it can be done ;)
     
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