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Discussion in 'Cat Training and Behaviour' started by Milo’s mum, Oct 11, 2021.


  1. Milo’s mum

    Milo’s mum PetForums Member

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    Morning All,

    I really need to make a decision that is right for everyone.
    Perhaps some might have seen my thread about Luca, who we adopted 2 weeks ago.
    There were multiple opportunities for Milo to warm to him but I don’t think it will happen.
    I feel like rehoming Luca for all to have the best chance.
    My husband is really upset because we all like Luca very much….but Milo.
     
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    Milo’s mum PetForums Member

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    I just wanted to give some more details about behaviour.
    There is no hissing.
    General tolerance in the room - yes.
    There is no protection of food.
    Now the bad stuff:
    Milo’s pupils are constantly dilated. Could be from the calming remedies that we use (Beaphar).

    Luca will go all twirly whirly and gentle - Milo will retract.
    Luca will go all playful- Milo will bite.
    Milo almost attacked me today when I picked up Luca.
    Ears back, huge eyes…

    They are separated - Luca is in my bedroom and we only allow supervised contact.

    The initial curiosity from Milo I think is gone and now is a full blown “ I don’t like you”.

    Provided we had a very easy start, they should have settled by now I think.

    We did get Luca to keep Milo company, and Milo doesn’t want him.

    Not sure if I have to give them more chances.

    Obviously Luca’s chances to be rehomed are better the younger he is.

    He is now 15 weeks
     
  3. Cleo38

    Cleo38 PetForums VIP

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    I suppose it depends on what exactly is happening. I had to rehome a feral kitten I took on (the litter was at my dog club & the mum abandoned them). She was so lovely & so friendly. I honestly thought Winnie (resident cat) would love her as she was missing George (my cat who had to be PTS in Jan this year). But she didn't :(

    I took my time introducing them but instead of getting better things were getting worse. Winnie would just sit outside the room Hoshi (kitten) was in growling at the door & generally being on edge all the time.

    The Cat's Protection League sent me some links (attached) but the relationship didn't improve. I was gutted for everyone, I really wanted Winnie to have a friend again as she seemed so lonely & Hoshi was adorable, so friendly & funny but I didn't want her to become withdrawn as she had started to become worried by Winnies growling & wailing.

    I managed to find a lovely women who had several cats already & Hoshi fitted in so well & seemed so much happier. Winnie was instantly happier as well



    How to introduce cats - YouTube
    (89) Body Language in Cats - YouTube
     
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  4. OrientalSlave

    OrientalSlave Shunra Oriental Cats

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    2 weeks isn't long. I'd give them at least another couple of weeks, and feed them at the same time in separate bowls. I've had to reintroduce both the late Max, and Tia this year. These are adult cats. In each case I slept with them for 2-3 weeks before letting them start meeting the others, and I limited contact time at first. I didn't let them mix at night until I was sure they were OK as I really don't want to be woken up at night by cats fighting.
     
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    Milo’s mum PetForums Member

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    Thanks ladies!
    I will give it two more weeks then.
    They have not slept alone.
    We have not left them alone.
    It is only two supervised 1h sessions , morning and evening.
    Luca had his vaccination today and I not let him out tonight (after)
    I am giving him a break.
    He is still quite loose, despite all the boiled chicken he ate.
    I am taking a sample to the vet tomorrow.
    They mentioned cat chlamydia as possibility.
     
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    Milo’s mum PetForums Member

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    This is an open invitation now :) Is there anyone in South west London who would like to come to tea and tell me if this is ok?
    I am starting to wonder if I am overprotective.
    To me - it does not look good but if they were of equal size, perhaps I would not worry.
    The Beaphar plug started emitting smoke.
    The Feliway is also plugged.
    Milo had been spotted between the ears.
    He had been treated with calming treat!
    Luca is hiding under the sofa but coming out to attack Milo.
    He is very brave.
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    #6 Milo’s mum, Oct 12, 2021 at 6:27 PM
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    J. Dawson PetForums Member

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    Looks like progress :)
     
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    urbantigers PetForums VIP

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    I would personally give it a bit longer. 2 weeks isn’t long at all. The signs seem promising. Adult cats can get a bit fed up with kittens jumping on them but that won’t last forever.
     
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