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HELP! Shoul I adopt a new cat to bring peace to my older cat?

Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by soulpatchwhiskers, Jan 25, 2020.

  1. soulpatchwhiskers

    soulpatchwhiskers PetForums Newbie

    Jan 25, 2020
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    I have a 13 y/o female cat and she has always been very sweet and calm, until we adopted a new female kitten who was only a couple weeks old and is now 6 months old, they fight all the time! Now my older cat is constantly very stressed, and the new kitten won't leave her alone. The new kitten seems to be anxious too, she chews on plastic objects and keeps sucking on fabric and biting our hands a lot as a form of playing. If I adopt another younger cat (around the same age) to be friends with the kitten, teach her proper socialization and keep her busy will they leave my older cat alone or will she be even more stressed???? Idk what to do she seems so unhappy :'(((
    reliable links and articles with info on this are welcome too <3
  2. chillminx

    chillminx PetForums VIP

    Nov 22, 2010
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    Hello @soulpatchwhiskers and welcome :)

    Tbh I think the worse thing would be to bring another cat (or kitten) into a home where there are already problems between the resident cats. You could make the whole situation even more stressful than it already is.

    Both your cats sound very unhappy and stressed and I think you need to focus on making them happier before you consider another kitten.

    Is the kitten spayed btw? If not, that should be your first step now. The older cat may accept her better if she is spayed.

    Did you introduce the kitten to the cat slowly, at apace that suited the older cat? If not then that is probably why you have problems now.

    Your kitten was taken from her mum (or lost her mum) very young and missed out on a lot of socialisation that the mum cat and litter mates would have provided. That is why she bites you. The chewing and sucking are to comfort herself.

    Things sound fraught at the moment and nothing may change unless the cats can have a little break from each other so I would separate them (keep them apart) to give them both time to calm down. Particularly your older cat, who deserves peace and quiet at her time of life. No doubt she would preferred to have remained an only cat. Being constantly stressed by the kitten could adversely affect her health.

    While you keep the cats separate, in different parts of the home, spend a lot of time with the kitten, playing with her with arms-length rod toys you can buy from Amazon.

    Such as this one:


    Get kitty running around chasing ping pong balls, and generally interacting with you so she uses up all her energy every day and is less interested in bothering your senior cat. You need to give at least 2 hrs a day to playing with a kitten of her age. You need to take on the role of being her playmate - your senior cat is too old to be a playmate for a kitten.

    Do not allow kitty to play with your hands. if she tries to then gently push a kickeroo toy between her front paws. if she is biting your feet, wear slippers or shoes in the house.

    Buy several Kong kickeroo toys and keep one with you or near you at all times so you can use it to intervene when kitty bites you. )


    When you start to allow the cats to be in the same areas again, go slowly and immediately separate them to different parts of the house the second your senior cat becomes stressed or upset with the kitten. If you don't do this you will be back to square one with both cats being stressed again.

    Make sure your senior cat has plenty of hideaway places to go to get away from the kitten when she wants to rest.

    Never feed the cats together - they each need their own feeding spot out of sight of each other. Preferably different rooms. Do not allow the kitten to take the senior cat's food. Buy the senior cat a microchip feeder so her food is safeguarded.

    Remember a lot of the negative feelings between the 2 cats are due to competition for resources. Cats are solitary hunters and do not always want to share their resources with other cats.

    Provide at least 3 litter trays, preferably 4 trays. Spread them around the home.

    Place several water bowls around the home.

    Provide plenty of scratch posts and scratch pads, several to every room + in the hallway.
    #2 chillminx, Jan 26, 2020
    Last edited: Jan 27, 2020
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  3. kittih

    kittih PetForums VIP

    Jan 19, 2014
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    Chillminx has given excellent advice. I also would not bring another cat into the household.

    I had a similar experience and ended up having to keep both cats permanently separated for the next 15 years (my original cat was 2). It wasnt the best experience and very hard work keeping everyone as unstressed and happy as possible.

    If chillminxs advice doesn't help then although probably an unpopular suggestion you may wish to consider rehoming your young cat as it will he much less stressful for everyone. I dont usually recommend rehoming but having lived with cats who hated each other it is not something I would ever want to do again or can recommend to others.
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