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Frightened cat

Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by Sophie_1991, Apr 27, 2020.


  1. Sophie_1991

    Sophie_1991 PetForums Newbie

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    Hi everyone, I'm new here and was hoping you could help me better understand my cat's behavior.

    Our cat is now 5 months old. We wanted socialize him although this is rather difficult since 'corona happened', so we started walking him on a leash.
    It's great, he loves it and isn't frightened of people at all.

    However when it comes to animals, his behavior is rather strange and I was hoping some of you could help me understand him better. Our neighbors have a cat as well, so we tried introducing them. At first both at the other side of a window multiple times, then in the garden, both on a leash but we didn't let them get too close. This all went well. Now in the next stage, my cat always does this: he seems really relaxed and playful, he always does his best to get as close as he can to the other cat, but when he finally is close, it looks like he becomes extremely frightened: flat ears, pupils dilated, his hairs are raised, back curved, sometimes he hisses... Even though I don't see any aggressive behaviour from the other cat...This happened already 3 times now.

    What did we do wrong? And why does he approach the other cat in such a relaxed manner, when he, in the end, becomes frightened every time (could it be aggression)? Should we give up?

    (English isn't my mother language, so my apologies in advance for any mistakes!)

    Thanks!
     
  2. buffie

    buffie Mentored by Meeko

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    Cats are not like dogs , they don't "socialise" in the same way , if at all.
    They are very protective of their territory and don't like intruders so I would stop trying to get him to interact with other animals as you are likely to be causing him a lot of stress.
    Taking him out on a secure harness is fine but I would not advise taking him anywhere that he is likely to meet other animals or any thing that is likely to cause him to be stressed or come to any harm , best to stick to private grounds such as gardens etc.
    I hope he is neutered , as to take him anywhere that gives him the opportunity to escape and run off looking for females is asking for trouble.
     
  3. cheekyscrip

    cheekyscrip Pitchfork blaster

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    Cats normally socialise with their kin. He might accept a kitten if you decided on another cat and introduced the properly. Lots of advice here. Else they rather not so don’t try it anymore. If you insist it might end in trouble as your cat may start marketing his home with sprays of urine...
    Frighten cat might also get out of his harness and run away...
     
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  4. Sophie_1991

    Sophie_1991 PetForums Newbie

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    Thanks for your advise! And yes, he is already neutered. I thought giving him the opportunity of interacting with other animals when he is still young, would give him satisfaction in the long run, maybe even be able to play with this cat from time to time... But I can see now that I treated him too much like a dog, so I will stop trying to introduce them. Thanks again!
     
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