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First Impressions

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by metaldog, May 5, 2011.


  1. metaldog

    metaldog PetForums VIP

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    When I meet new people I'm terrible at making a good first impression, once people have met me a few times they will generally tell me they didn't like me much when they first met me but I have grown on them. I blame it on poor socialisation when I was a child, I lived in a little village where there were only 23 children in my Primary School, so I didn't get to meet many people.

    How do you make a good first impression?
     
  2. simplysardonic

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    I haven't got a clue, I'm pretty much in the same boat as you:eek:
     
  3. harley bear

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    Terrible! Im like the ultimate ice queen! I am very bad at meeting people i suppose there is some of me that wants to talk and get chatting about anything and there is a 99% part of me that thinks fk it even if i do make friends with them they will only let me down in the end.

    Ive given up with people because i have been constantly let down throughout my life, having no trust in anyone makes for a very lonely life.
     
  4. Ditsy42

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    I can b guarded and reserved until I know someone, been let down an used so many times that I wait and see how relationships develop, also with getting older i'm less tolerant and do speak my mind, some find it refreshing, others find it a bit intimidating :D

    When me and my OH first got together my first meeting with his mum was a disaster, OMG she never lets me forget it, there was 4 of us who had been out, one designated driver, I was pi$$ed and on way home decided I needed a wee, so they pulled down onto the cost near Whitley Bay lighthouse, so off I trundles in the bloody dark, tripped up and went off rolling down a hill, had the fit of the giggles then started counting stars.

    Took them 20 mins to find me :eek: pulled up outside OH house, and it was a very big posh house, he invited us all in for a coffee, well got inside and went off 2 loo, my bleached jeans were covered in grass stains, I then developed hicc ups, he showed me into the living room and I promptly lay down coz i wasn't feeling 2 grand.

    Apparantly his mum came down 4 a coffee and sat talking 2 me mate 4 about 30 mins, got up and said 2 my OH oh your gf is lovely, he explained that no his gf was in the living room so she came 2 say hello, I was asleep snoring, but the worst of it was I had spilt my coffee on her newly french polished table she was so not impressed, we laugh bout it now, but she had given him a stern talking 2 an asked where on earth he had found me :eek: still together after 27 years so did sumat right PMSL :D
     
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    I don't think I'm bad just a bit shy initially, got better with age..!

    I think its important to try and smile and join in conversation, that's about it. I tend to have a laugh at myself and say I'm a bit shy to start with but I promise I get better :p sort of thing.

    Anyone who seriously judges you on a first impression probably ought to question why they do that (expect a possible employer haha).

    I think just be friendly if appropriate, fake a smile and try and make a little conversation :)
     
  6. JJAK

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    i am ATROTIOUS at making first impressions. I tend to stick to people i already know or people who know someone i know plus, i tend to get walked all over because im too nice and will do anything to get help people but get feck all in return 90% of the time!

    As for me, i try to be really nice, im really shy and get silly nervous laughter and say stupid things...so i proberbly come across as 'the stupid ditsy cow' which is more than likely why the above happens!
     
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    Thanks for the replies guys. I feel so much better now I know I'm not alone :)

    Off to practice smiling in the mirror :) :lol:

    I'm usually not bothered but with all the camping weekend talk it got me thinking about making a good first impression.

    It's not that I can't talk it's that I say the wrong things :lol:
     
  8. Tanya1989

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    I don't know what sort of first impression I give..... Not a good one I would have think as they never offer to see me again :D

    This thread has opened a can of worms in my head now. I'm going to constantly thinking about ways to make a good first impression now lol
     
  9. metaldog

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    Sorry :(

    At least we know we both make a bad first impression so when we meet at Wollaton Park lets promise to give each other a second chance :)
     
  10. JJAK

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    oooh oooh oooh can i come woolaton park? :)
    Jess wont be there....shes too much of a spakker and cant walk that far :p
     
  11. Tanya1989

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    Hehehe lol.... yep.

    I'll have to ask Hawksport what sort of a first impression I give, although I was particularly rushed the first time so it was probably a really bad one :eek:
     
  12. MoggyBaby

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    I am quite chatty & outgoing so meeting new people doesn't faze me out.

    BUT.....

    People seem to get the impression from this that I am a shallow person with not much depth and even, on occasions, not very intelligent!!! :eek:

    I don't know what I do to make them think this but I must say or do something because far too many folks have told me that I am very different when they get to know me better. :confused: :confused:
     
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    The only way to give a good first impression, is to just be yourself and remain considerate to others ;)
     
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    i am me dont act like anything dont sugar coat anything just myself

    and if they dont like oh well there loss not mine
     
  15. rona

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    I think like this :)
    Also, if someone actually judges you on first meeting, are they worth bothering with anyway?
     
  16. bigdaddy

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    good point:001_smile:
     
  17. metaldog

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    Course you can :)Wollaton Park meet


    That's terribly sad :( Everyone gets let down hun, it's only human to sometimes not be perfect.

    :lol: Very very good bad first impression story:)

    Thanks for the best advice on the thread so far :) I get worse with age, either that or I notice it more these days.

    I think it's normal to judge someone when you first meet them and try to decide if they're your sort of person or not.

    But what if being myself is not considerate to others?

    Good for you if that's what makes you happy :) I'm trying to do some self improvement and would like to change the way people perceive me, as it's often my loss because people either think I'm loud and obnoxious or scary :(

    Several of my dearest friends who I've known for a long time have admitted they didn't like me at all when they first met me...so I would think it is worth bothering about.

    Can anyone post what people have done in your company which has made a really good first impression on you?
     
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    I'm really shy so I probably make an awful first impression. I'm working on it though
     
  19. Amethyst

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    I think the only time I've ever actually tried is when I want something ... like a job or to adopt or buy an animal :D

    I guess the older you get the less worried you become about the impression you make on new people? You'll never please everyone ;)
     
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