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Ex and kids holiday update.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Cazza1974, Jan 9, 2012.


  1. Cazza1974

    Cazza1974 PetForums VIP

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    Well my oldest told ex that I wanted to meet his new wife, he wanted to know why and what did he think she was going to do.
    He said that if I got a new fell a that he wouldn't want to meet him, so can't understand why I want to meet her.
    Well I know for a fact he would be itching to meet any new man I had, I really can't understand why he is reluctant to have us meet. :confused:
    What happens if the girls eventually get married? Or have children of their own and have birthday parties or christenings?
     
  2. hazel pritchard

    hazel pritchard PetForums VIP

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    Hope this can all be sorted out for your peace of mind, i know if i was in your situation i would want to meet the person who my children were going to go away with,,,
     
  3. MoggyBaby

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    It is perfectly natural & normal for you to meet the other person who will be 'looking after' your kids when they are with your ex. You meet their school teachers, friends mums, kindergarten helpers so why not the woman whose roof they will sometimes be sleeping under.

    Your Ex is just being an awkward so-and-so..... :eek:
     
  4. MCWillow

    MCWillow PetForums VIP

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    They are under 18. You have a right to meet her.
    It doesnt matter if he understands or not, you still have the right to meet her before you allow her to take them away on holiday.
    Stand your ground - what is the big deal of him bringing her to the door when he picks them up for a visit (obviously before the holiday)?

    And what is the matter with her, that she isnt saying she undertsands why you want to meet her, before you entrust your kids into her care?
     
  5. Superash

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    . Quite right:thumbup:
     
  6. Sarah+Hammies

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    I'd want to meet her too if it was me! You have every right to know who your children will be with just as you would with school teachers, friends parents etc Your ex is just being awkward.
     
  7. Clare7435

    Clare7435 PetForums VIP

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    What do the kids think of her? My lot had some interesting opinions on my EX's various GF's after we'd split up lol. If he asked me why I wanted to meet the new GF I would throw back the question why do you not want me to? Sounds like he's just being awquard to me...does he have her with him when he picks them up? if so Try just going and introducing yourself, give him no choice:) It's not an unreasonable request....if he wants to take the kids away then it's both of your responsibilities to ensure their well being and how the hell does he expect you to do this if you don't even know who they'll be with? He's the one making an issue out of it, also, any Father who's a good father would want to meet his ex's new bloke if only to make sure he knows they're in safe hands....it's only natural surely.
    My EX and I discussed and threw ideas around on how we where going to tell the kids we had new partners and that was before they met...this was so if there where any behaviour changes on visits he'd know why.
    Both of you should stand together on parenting irrespective of new partners..
     
  8. Gilly and Jess

    Gilly and Jess PetForums Senior

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    Perhaps he's assuming you're going to be unpleasant with the woman concerned? Perhaps he doesn't realise that two women can actually get on great even there is a man as a common factor between them? I get on brilliantly with my ex's girlfriend. I've had text conversations with her regarding her own personal problems with him, she knows what I had to live through years ago and I'm touched she trusts me enough to tell me about her problems and ask my advise! She's a great girl.

    Stick to your guns. If you want to meet her, stand firm and insist on it. Does she have a good relationship with your daughters? Perhaps your daughter could speak to the woman herself about it and you could arrange the meeting yourselves? He might just be being a chicken and bottling it.....:001_tongue:
     
  9. harley bear

    harley bear PetForums VIP

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    U can bet shes a munta:eek:
     
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    MoggyBaby PetForums VIP

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    I found a picture of her.......


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    :D :D :D :D
     
  11. Cazza1974

    Cazza1974 PetForums VIP

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    I think he thinks that I am going to slag him off to her. I have no interest in doing this as she can find out on her own what he is like, either that or he has spun her a story about our separation and how he was the innocent one and doesn't want us talking. I don't know.
     
  12. DoodlesRule

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    I wouldn't want to meet my ex's woman would be tempted to smack her in the face :D
     
  13. Clare7435

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    :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
     
  14. LisaZonda

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    That is probably spot on!

    I know for a fact that my ex totally blamed our seperation on me, I was made out as the bitch queen from hell to his friends and family!..I'm not saying I was perfect however he certainly did many, many things wrong that contributed to our seperation, but he was ever going to admit that to other people.

    From day one I have had no interest in argueing the toss over who is to blame, its in the past, changes nothing and is completely pointless, all that mattered to me was doing the right thing by our kids in the present and future...fortunatly he has moved on from that bitterness now and we get on quite well (at last!).

    Hope you manage to get it all sorted out, as I said during your first post about all this....you have every right to meet this woman!
     
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  15. BullyMolly

    BullyMolly PetForums Senior

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    its a real shame he is being like this :nonod: Its only the children that are going to suffer. I get on great with my husbands ex, so much so that we are friends on Facebook!!!
    However, my ex wasnt so great and i didnt get on with his next wife. To the extent that when my youngest son was born he never came back to see his first born!!! Not seen him now for six years. I never stopped him seeing him but stopped him taking him for the day due to my son not liking his wife and he always left him with her. She bad mouthed me to my son, so wasnt going to stand for that and stopped him taking him. But NEVER stoppped him seeing him.
    You have evry right to know who your children are spending time with, no matter what he may or may not have said to the new wife. I am sorry your having these troubles:(
     
  16. swarthy

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    Tell him to get a grip - I used to go on holiday with my partners ex-wife :rolleyes: and we still go there christmas day and special occasions even though the kids are now grown up

    Some men are a little odd on this subject though - my daughter met her father for the first time when she was 19, and discovered she had a younger brother and sister (and she's now also just about to become an aunty :D)

    He's divorced from their mother - yet was FURIOUS when he discovered that I had met his ex-wife and the kids - after me and my partner's ex-wife it's like having a second step mum for her

    And who is now out of the picture hehe - her father - childish prat - he sulked because we all made friends without him :rolleyes:

    Sorry - that's me venting now :eek:

    Not sure why your OH is dead set against you meeting his wife - but I do think for some, it's most definitely a 'man' thing :rolleyes:

    Tell him you will be on your best behaviour ;)
     
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