My ex's (from when we were 15-17) Dad died a couple days ago. He was 54 and had suffered with a form of cancer for 12 years. Whilst we were quite young we went through rather a lot together and whilst we had a bad break up we are on speaking terms. I moved three hours away a couple years ago (I'm 20 now) and he was in the area so we met up about five weeks ago. I wouldn't turn anyone away if they needed to talk etc and he is not the best at keeping up with friends, what with his Dad he never really went to uni or anything, and has been holding back with his life really when everyone else has gone off. Anyway, he has said I am welcome to go to the funeral. It is three hours away, I sent a condolence card and he said he and his Mum would both like me to go. I'm just not sure if I should or not? His Dad's parents, sibling, other children etc will be there and I worry it would cause extra stress. But in the same breath I wrote in the card if there is anything you need etc and I feel a bit like I'm copping out if he does want me to go. I think his ex gf from after we broke up will also go, I don't want to cause trouble but I don't want him to feel as though I don't care. His Dad was actually quite awful to me when we broke up, but before that he had been more of a parent to me than my own Mum and Dad put together. Haven't discussed it with my OH yet, but realistically, despite not liking it I am fairly sure he will support me either way... Help?