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Dog & new baby worries

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by Lola90, Aug 17, 2020.


  1. Lola90

    Lola90 PetForums Junior

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    We have a new baby on the way in around a months time. Our dog is a labrador/lurcher cross who we rescued age 1 4 years ago. In this time not many of our friends had children or babies so we've never known what she's like around them. Recently however (in the past couple of weeks) she has met a friends new baby and a 5 year old and seemed really freaked out by both. She barks at anyone who comes to the door anyway but as soon as my friend lifted her baby out of the pram she started barking and wouldn't stop until he was back in. This wasn't aggressive barking but she looked a bit panicked and it was more of a warning bark. With the 5 year old it was the same, she wasn't barking/lunging at him but she was barking to warn us he was there.

    I've been reading about how this happens when dogs haven't been socialised with small children or babies when they are puppies so this makes sense but wondering if anybody has any good steps on overcoming this?
    I've read that having a doll and using this as a 'prop' can be helpful to prepare her so I've ordered one to use but I'm still worried she just won't settle when he's here. Will she get used to him? She has no choice really as they both need to get on, I'm just worried about the impact its going to have on her :( ...(and no giving her away is NOT an option).

    Any tips appreciated!
     
  2. Linda Weasel

    Linda Weasel PetForums VIP

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    Don’t have an answer but so heartened by your attitude after yesterday somebody on an online site giving away an 11year old BC because they were expecting a baby. It just sickened me and made me really sad.
     
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  3. Sarah H

    Sarah H Grand Empress of the Universe

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    OK your dog may not have seen a baby before and it won't be scared of the baby so much as the novelty of the whole situation. Ideally get everything ready now (baby gates, cot, monitors, pram, etc (I don't have kids but you probably have everything you need already and are hopefully fully prepared!) and start to pretend like baby is here (use a doll or bundled up towel) and pick "baby" up and wander around cooing and talking to it, go to the bathroom with the "baby" shutting the door but continually talking to it like you are changing it or bathing it.
    You can also download baby crying noises so I suggest you do this so your dog gets used to it.
     
  4. Lola90

    Lola90 PetForums Junior

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    Thank you will get everything set up. She doesn't come upstairs but we have a moses basket for downstairs for the daytime so I'll set that up.
    I did download some baby noises actually and she didn't really flinch but think its different isn't it when they are there in the flesh! Will start playing them anyway though so she gets used to it as she will be hearing a lot of it!
     
  5. Lola90

    Lola90 PetForums Junior

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    Thats so sad! Every situation is different I guess but I couldn't bring myself to do that. She can be a pain with her barking at times but can only imagine she'd be even more anxious if she was taken away from the only family she has every really known :( :(
     
  6. Twiggy

    Twiggy PetForums VIP

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    You may well find because it's your baby your bitch will react differently.

    My daughter had 3 rescue dogs and a puppy booked when she discovered she was pregnant and she was determined she was having the puppy. I was terrified about the big collie/retriever bitch as we'd had quite a few issues with her temperament wise when my daughter took her on at 18 mths old and she had bitten her Mother-in-law, an experienced dog training friend of mine and my hubby to name but three. When my daughter arrived home from the hospital with my grand-daughter that bitch took it upon herself to be chief nanny, best friend, playmate and protector, and spent the next few months permanently on guard outside the nursery door. She oversaw every bath-time, feed-time, midwife visits etc. and my grand-daughter learnt to walk by hauling herself up on Heidi, as did my grand-son later on.

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    Obviously you have to be sensible, particularly in the early days, but try and find time for your dog as well as your baby so that she feels included in family life.
     
  7. Boxer123

    Boxer123 PetForums VIP

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    What a lovely picture!
     
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  8. Lola90

    Lola90 PetForums Junior

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    Thats so lovely! Great picture too :)
     
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  9. The Wild Bunch

    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    When I had my babies, I brought them home and laid them on the rug in the lounge for the dogs to sniff and lick. The dogs were both just a year old and had no experience of children. They never batted an eyelid about the kids being around. My very spoilt Lhasa Apso did end up going to stay with my mum for a brief period but never came home :oops::rolleyes:
    The only incident we had was when the health visitor came and our spaniel was laid under baby's moses basket. As HV went to the basket to pick up baby, Barney growled at her but soon settled when he realised she meant to harm.
    Our dog and my son were like two peas in a pod. Where one went, the other followed and they were best pals

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  10. Lola90

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    so cute!
     
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