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Does my kitten need a new playmate?

Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by CalicoLove2019, Aug 13, 2019.


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  1. CalicoLove2019

    CalicoLove2019 PetForums Junior

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    Hello, I am new here. Please bear with me. I have 3 cats, one 14 yr-female, i10yr. old-female-and a 5 yr old male.(.very friendly). I recently was shown a picture of my best friend's sister's kittens. One was a little calico. .Well, I took her home after i held her and she was truly a baby. Too young to go, but could eat solid food. Well I won't go into how adorable, comedic and smart she is. But she wants to play and she gets real excited. Now my other babies are getting used to her, but only the male will play. She has ENERGY as you all know. Should i get her a playmate from same mother? Some opinions would be welcome. Thank you!
     
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    No. You need to return the kitten to her mother so she can continue feeding from mum and be appropriately socialised by mum before moving to her new home at 13 weeks.
     
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    Why people continue to support bybs, especially taking a youngster with full knowledge of being too young is beyond me :Banghead
     
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    i appreciate your response, but I do not in tend on taking her back. The kittens could eat solid food and drink water. and we have bonded. She is active, smart and is trying to make friends with the other cats .Her Mum did not want to continue nursing as she and her siblings were eating food. I do not recognize the term bybs, but i think i was just insulted. Thanks for your responses. She is fine just likes to play.
     
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    What is bybs? Have i been insulted.here?
    I am an outspoken, honest person and am trying to be diplomatic , esp to those who are or have lost a beloved pet. That is the absolute worst. But I will not be insulted either.
     
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    A "byb" is a "backyard breeder." It means someone who is breeding kittens for money, and without proper concern for the health of the kittens. e.g. No health checks are carried out on the mother of the kittens before she is allowed to get pregnant, and she may mate with any passing tom cat (whose health status is unknown); the kittens are often homed before they are ready to leave mum, because the breeder doesn't want the expense of feeding them for 13 weeks they should stay with mum.

    These are the facts unfortunately. :(
     
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    BYBs stands for Back Yard Breeders which is where your kitten came from. So no,you haven't been insulted, merely advised to take your under-age Kitten back to her mum until she's really old enough to leave her. Kittens learn a lot of social skills from their mums and litter mates and shouldn't be sold until at least 13 weeks.
    This is for their health and social development.
    How old is she, and what breed ? With you saying she's Calico I'm thinking Ragdoll ?
     
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    Thanks for the info. I did not. pay or was asked for money for my kitten. She was simply my friend's sister' cat who had a litter and she did NOT ask for money.
     
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    BYBs are back yard breeders. They breed only for profit so cut corners by sending kittens to their new homes when they're too young to leave mum. This is before they start eating food properly and using a litter tray. Often BYBs will say the kittens are 8 weeks old (still too young but many rescues re home kittens from 8 weeks to make room for other kitty's in need) when in actual fact they are often a few weeks younger than this and still with blue eyes. Kittens eyes start to change colour at around 6 weeks of age, unless of course they are a colour point or some other colours/markings possibly. I only know about colour points because I have one!

    You haven't been insulted just advised on how to best to deal with the situation. But I must say, I do find it a bit confusing as to why you took the kitten when you said it was too young to leave mum. How old was your kitten when you brought them home? (Sorry I don't like saying it!). Although I do realise you've said about mum not wanting to nurse, but as already said kittens learn a lot of socialisation from their mum and litter mates as they get older. But I guess since you've already got cats of your own your kitten can learn from them, so it could be a lot worse.

    What's your little one's name and do you have any photos to show us?

    Also if the lady you have got the kittens from is just giving them to anyone for free, please ask her to change her mind and charge for them. That way the kittens won't end up being used for bait (something which does happen unfortunately :() and they could be neutered too, once they weigh about 1kg. Have a look at this link to help find a practice that will early neuter.

    https://www.cats.org.uk/what-we-do/neutering/enr/menu-early-neutering
     
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    She is now 3 mos old and a domestic shorthair calico. No ragdoll..The only time cash was paid for a cat of mine was when my sister bought me a Siamese kitten because she knew I wanted one. I have usually adopted or rescued a cat.
     
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    I understand what you say, but the breeding is not being done responsibly. Hopefully it was a one-off litter, a mistake, and the owner will be getting the cat spayed now.
     
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    Ok..Let me be clear...I am not a child..and i am not taking this perfectly healthy kitten back to her old home. This is her home.She has had her vet visit.
     
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    When i click on certain "post your reply" areas, i lose my reply. I am not retyping all . Sorry. I am done with this topic. Of course anyone can continue, but I am done.
     
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    She is a light in our home and is staying here. Also this is second time i've had to post this.
     
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    I may post her pic when i am more comfortable here, They are on actual camera.
     
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    To quote someone you click the + Quote box and then in the typing box you click insert quote and then start typing underneath and then you can click post reply. You can also tag people by pressing @ and then starting to type their username.

    I'm sure people only suggested taking her back to her mum because we didn't know how old she is or any other time scales. It would be pretty pointless I would think to that now. As I said, you have your own cats for her to socialise with. It's good that she has a play mate in your boy, I bet it's lovely seeing them play together. Maybe the other two will play with her a bit too once they've got to know her better.
     
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    It is ironic that the Siamese cat I found abandoned in our apt lobby had a broken leg , i guess wasn't cute anymore,I have rescued cats and they gave so much more back. Purebreds are not immune to being abandoned...as my vet bills can attest.

     
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