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Do you feel guilty?

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by mindymoo, Jul 22, 2009.


  1. mindymoo

    mindymoo PetForums Member

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    I will be picking my puppy up in about 4 weeks, I always said that I would rescue and not buy but it turns out I couldnt find anything close to what we were looking for.

    I feel terribly guilty about this, that I have denied a rescue dog a home...does anyone else feel this way??? :confused:
     
  2. goodvic2

    goodvic2 PetForums VIP

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    It is not too late to change your mind. Try being a bit less picky!
     
  3. flufffluff39

    flufffluff39 PetForums VIP

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    You should'nt be asking anyone else ITS UP TO YOU!! All the best anyway :)
     
  4. goodvic2

    goodvic2 PetForums VIP

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    She has a conscience, there is nothing wrong with that!

    No need to get a pup when there are thousands and thousands of dogs sitting in a cage day after day, week after week with little chance of getting a home they so desperately want.

    There are many people on here who work for re-homing centres, you could get advice from them.
     
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    İ would feel guilty but as İ would never do this - would have nothing to feel guilty about!!!
     
  6. mindymoo

    mindymoo PetForums Member

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    well the decision is already made, it was a very very hard one for me to be honest. I can tell there are some people who object quite strongly to buying eeekk :( I was just wanting to know how other people felt xxx
     
  7. Luvdogs

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    I know what you mean, when we decided to get number 3, we had our name down with a breeder for 2 years, and really wanted to have a go at showing. But felt ever so guilty about not getting a rescue.
    Perhaps your next dog could be a rescue :D:D enjoy your new addition ;)
     
  8. goodvic2

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    I know it sounds quite harsh, but a lot of us have rescue dogs and those of us that do, feel very strongly about breeding and not rescuing. You were very brave putting this post on.

    There is a rescue dog out there for you, but you do have to take advice from the re-homing centre, as what you want, may not be suitable. x x:)
     
  9. flufffluff39

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    Don't worry about anyone else...do whats best for you :) Ok.
     
  10. Matrix/Logan

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    I got round the guilt by rescuing one before i bought a puppy!! So i am now a 2 dog household. ;) :wink5:
     
  11. Patterdale_lover

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    I am totally for both things. If someone wishes to buy a puppy that is their decision, As some people need/want a certain breed that would suit their family or just because they have a passion for them, that they may not find in a rescue.
    Rescuing is an honorable thing. People that take a dog in that is unwanted and unloved are very special. I would love to rescue, but many of them do not fit my criteria.
    Plus what would happen to all of the puppies that breeders breed if everyone had rescues, they too would end up in rescues. It's a vicious circle :(
    Anyway excited for you that you are getting your puppy! What breed is it? And remember pics!
     
  12. nicola1980

    nicola1980 PetForums Member

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    Don't feel bad at the end of the day you are still going to give a dog a good home and that's the main thing.
    If you want a rescue dog then maybe that could be your next one.
     
  13. Fleur

    Fleur Vassal to Lilly and Ludo

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    I feel guilty sometimes, I'd like to think I'd rescue again in the future.

    However before we went looking to buy our 1st dog we went to the local rescue every month for well over a year but nothing suitable ever came in. I had no preconcived ideas over breed size or anything just they deemed no dogs suitable for 1st time owners so I admit I gave up.
    It turns out in the end when we went to meet a lovely Shih Tzu breeder she had taken in a pregnant stray and we ended up 'recuing' Zipper;)
    But we did buy Lilly.
     
  14. bichonsrus

    bichonsrus PetForums Senior

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    I bought a pup first which then led to me getting a rescue dog which would not of happened if i hadnt bought a pup in the first place. I first had a rescue cat and i now lastly have a rescue rabbit lol but the choice is yours alone no reason you cant have a pup you want and a pup that needs rescuing too.or a rabbit or a cat or all lol.
     
  15. You are quite right but some people cant rescue or find it difficult to find a suitable dog. We had that problem when looking for another dog last year. Because we have three young children, two being under 5. A young rottie and 4 cats it was almost impossible for the rescues to find us a suitable dog. we did in the end got placed with a gorgeous staffy x boxer puppy but unfortunatly things didnt work out and we had to give her back as she kept attacking Holly viciously and she would also bite the cats although was good with people and young children. Luckily Holly didnt react to the attacks but it wasnt fair on either dog as in the end we were having to keep them separated which proved difficult as the kids would keep opening the door and we were afraid the kids might of got caught up in our staffs attacks towards Holly. We would love to get another dog at some point as Holly loves having canine cmpanionship but to find a suitable rescue is going to be hard so we may have to look for a puppy instead. most rescues are reluctant to rehome a puppy with a family with young children as they say we wouldnt be able to give the time and attention that the pup would deserve but i know i can. i even get the kids roped in with the training..which i think is important. So if we do get another dog at some point i'll probably be buying from a breeder.
     
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  16. goodvic2

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    I have always said that people with kids are in a slightly different situation. However, there are so many dogs on the private pages, young dogs, who need a home. There are also other rescue organisations like Greek Animal REscue, who do not have such strict policies. You can always try the dog for a while before offering a permenant home.

    I believe there is always a solution if you are prepared to rescue a dog, but I agree it is not always easy through the main channels.
    :)
     
  17. Blitz

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    I certainly dont feel guilty for buying my dog. I knew what I wanted, I didnt want any old dog, I wanted a miniature poodle puppy straight from a breeder so that is what I got. Why on earth should anyone feel guilty for getting what they want. That loses me. I have had rescue dogs, I have bred my own pups and I have bought pups. Whatever is the right thing at the time.
    It makes me laugh on here, there is one faction saying only buy from reputable breeders with well socialised pups that are from health checked parents and another faction recommending getting rescues with no background, no guarantees on health or temperament.
     
  18. LostGirl

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    Ive found the geek rescue page how i do register interest in maybe rehoming a dog? Do they rehome to no garden families??
     
  19. I will keep that in mind Thank you:)
     
  20. Badger's Mum

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    Don't feel bad none of my four are rescued, it's about what's right for you:D. I've nothing against rescue's but new what i wanted, and that not to say i wouldn't have one in the future:D
     
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