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Disagreement with other dog owner

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by Apollo2012, Dec 2, 2019.


  1. Apollo2012

    Apollo2012 PetForums VIP

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    Ok so this isnt actually about my dog. I walk a friends young Labrador he's super sweet but very full on and as he can get frustrated and jumps around barking when a dog he doesnt know is close and sometimes people just because he wants to say hello. His owners are working on it with him, as first time dog owners they're really trying and i also work with him a bit when i take him out with Apollo and sometimes by himself, Apollo just looks at him like he's crazy when he starts jumping around barking at another dog which is good for me because he is a big labrador so it makes me very happy i dont have to hold onto Apollo aswell and that Apollo doesnt join in and encourage him.

    Anyway I'd just finished their walk earlier and was actually right by my friends garden just getting her dog a drink before he went back in and this woman who had already obviously walked past when i went in the house started back tracking when she saw me walking back out with the dogs. Both still on their leads as my friend has workmen in aswell. She came towards me shouting and pointing at my friends dog saying 'your dog needs socializing' now I'm happy to have a conversation about it. I said he isnt 'my dog' and 'he is friendly just very full on and we're working on it but he's still young and it takes time'. But this woman just kept repeating 'your dog needs socializing' and i got so freaking angry at her i may have told her to pee off and that she was a scruffy haired old b****. Im not proud of myself and know i could've handled it better but was trying to hold the dog, make sure Apollo was still calm and get my point through to this woman and she was just be a pointblank a******

    Sorry i needed to rant. I feel bad now for swearing at her but the fact she wouldn't just have a conversation with me about her issues instead of repeating the same thing over and over really peed me off
     
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    She would have been told to F off and walk her dog (assuming she had a dog) or F off and mind her own business.
    I've lost all patience with these have a go individuals so I don't entertain them at all anymore.

    I wouldn't feel bad, but then I can have a potty mouth when I get angry/frustrated so it wouldn't cross my mind unless my reaction was way over the top for the situation lol
     
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  3. Cleo38

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    I wouldn't worry, the dog wasn't bothering her so she should have minded her own business … although your insult to her did make me laugh :D:eek::D
     
  4. Boxer123

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    I get a lot of advice about Loki it's frustrating because:

    A I know I'm trying
    B he is on a lead I don't let him bother anyone

    I feel your pain.
     
  5. 3dogs2cats

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    I have perfected my smile and nod technique as really can`t be bothered to waste my time and energy on some people, if I can`t get away from them my Cybil Fawlty " Ohhh I know` impression comes out, I can see them figuring out if I am taking the pee or not, the answer is yes indeed I am.
    Sorry you have been frustrated today but hopefully now you`ve had a rant you feel better.
     
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  6. Apollo2012

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    What i think was her dog was further up the road with her partner. Smallish fluffy designer dog thing that I'm sure is an absolute angel that's never needed any kind of training :Facepalm

    I think it annoys me most because my friends are really trying and i know how hard it can be after all the issues i had with Apollo and his fear aggression. A lot of people especially first time dog owners would just give up with a dog thats hard work especially one who is so limited in what he can do as he was diagnosed with elbow dysplasia aswell. But they try really hard with him and are always willing to ask for advice and implement it.

    Thanks everyone i really wish i was better at smiling and nodding :Bag. She was just such a cow :Facepalm
     
  7. Apollo2012

    Apollo2012 PetForums VIP

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    I was trying not to swear too much. I live in a tiny village full of either old or posh people and can just imagine all my neighbours horror if id really let loose :eek:
     
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  8. Leanne77

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    Just let it go over your head and dont worry about it, the woman should've kept her interfering mouth shut. I see all kinds of dog behaviour which I have opinions on but, unless that dog is being bothersome to me or my dogs, then I dont say anything as it's not my concern.

    People have a strange idea of what a socialised dog looks like. All 3 of mine were well socialised as they all grew up in a multi dog household, had weekly walks with their multiple doggy pals (and were happy to walk in a large group), went to lots of different training classes throughout their lives but that doesnt mean that they would tolerate a rude, bouncy, OTT dog in their space. Yet because I have a habit of asking people to call their dogs, or leashing mine when in the vicinity of unknown dogs who look like they're coming over, and I dont let mine mix with dogs we dont know, then people assume it's because they're not socialised. And when Flynn barks or growls at rude dogs, it just compounds their thought.

    Around here, we run the gauntlet of snappy, barking, lunging dogs but if that dog is on lead an poses no threat to mine then I just ignore it and we pretend it's not there. If it's off lead and comes over and behaves that way in their faces, then yes, i'll damn well say something the owner isnt going to like.
     
  9. O2.0

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    As I was reading this, I was thinking that I'm glad it was you this woman went off on and not the owners. Not to be unkind to you, quite the opposite. You're a seasoned dog owner, you know it's going to be fine, this lab will eventually grow up, and the owners are working on it. The owners are much more likely to take that sort of comment to heart and feel discouraged and second guess themselves.

    I'm not a fan of engaging these types either, but maybe you responding in kind will keep this woman from harassing the lab's owners :)
     
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  10. Jamesgoeswalkies

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    I hate this phrase anyway - it's a such a stock phrase from people who generally haven't the faintest idea what they are talking about :rolleyes:

    I do remember one owner telling me my Lab needed more socialising (oh please) when she responded to this persons dog bowling up to her and trying to jump on her. I did reply (I have a stock phrase myself which is generally 'Jeez your dog is rude') when things like this happen. But swearing is good too. :D

    I do agree with O2 in that it was better that you took the brunt of this persons 'advice' as it's too easy for an owner's confidence to get knocked when things like this are said.

    J
     
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    My default answer for these sorts of things (Cad is a similar over-greeter, much improved now though) is "we're working on it" and then swearing to myself or to friends later hahah. As @Jamesgoeswalkies mentions, the irony is that usually the suggestions I'm given are things that would make the whole situation worse, not better!
     
  12. Siskin

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    I got told recently that my dog isn’t very friendly is she, did you socialise her properly? This was from a women who had a young dog that was leaping all over Isla who was trying very hard to ignore it.
    Isla is possibly the most friendliest dog I’ve ever had and always greets friendly dogs nicely, but she is getting older and chooses new friends more wisely then she used to and tends to not want to be flattened by an exuberant young dog, so she falls back onto trying to ignore them. Apparently that’s being unfriendly.
     
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    Good for you! Years ago I had a full on screaming match with a woman who repeatedly let her huge, adult male Boxer leap all over my young GSD. On the fifth time I lost it & we were both effing & jeffing at each other & shouting abuse … it was awful but luckily in the middle of the countryside so no-one else witnessed it.

    I was so ashamed of myself afterwards but she was equally as badly behaved …. :oops:
     
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    :D Never mind Road rage dog walking rage is a thing.
     
  15. Leanne77

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    There was an attack locally in the last few days whereby a female dog walker was grabbed round the throat by another dog walker. I assume there was some kind of disagreement over dog behaviour which escalated. It's another reason I keep my mouth shut unless my dogs safety is in jeapordy.
     
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  16. O2.0

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    Slightly worse is "can he say 'hi'? I'm trying to socialize him." Usually said by an owner barely holding on to an over exuberant juvenile about to be taught a lesson in manners by my old man who doesn't tolerate that behavior.

    One of the more exaggerated situations was on a group hike, I had Bates with me. A gentleman with a young GSD gets out of his vehicle, the dog is beyond wired, leaping and flipping about at the end of his leash, scream-barking, it was impressive. The man says something to me as I tuck Bates behind me and give him a "don't you dare" look. I can't hear over the din. Man repeats himself "if you just let him meet yours he'll calm down." Uh... Yeah no. "Oh, does your dog have issues with other dogs?" :Penguin
     
  17. Beth78

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    I get told
    . I should have socialized by dog as a puppy, my comeback is " I didn't have her as a puppy, she's a rescue "
    . "Control your dog" when my dog is on a lead and muzzled and theirs is running around without recall.
    . And afew times I've been told I'm starving my dog and that she's too thin.
    Does she look malnourished and under fed?
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    I'm more than happy to tell people to piss off and mind their own effing business, but I stop short of making personal remarks like that. There's nothing wrong with having scruffy hair, and it could be due to a medical condition. Likewise, there's nothing wrong with being old. It's a long way from there to the moral high ground, where I prefer to be.
     
  19. Apollo2012

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    She was an uppity old snob perhaps i should've told her that instead. She was hanging around waiting for me to come out so she could say what she wanted to say even though i have never seen her before in my life. I dont really care if i was 'personal' in what i said to her. She should've kept her unwanted opinion and rude attitude to herself. I could've said a lot worse, when I'm stood there trying to make sure my dog who can be fear aggressive when people come towards us shouting isnt reacting, trying to hold on to my friends dog who's jumping up and down like a loon and trying to talk rationally to an obviously irrational woman and trying to tamp my own anxiety about confrontation down. I tried and she wouldn't listen, so i told her where to go, I'm sure she'll get over being told she's old and scruffy, like many people i thought of a hundred things i could've said once she was long gone and the situation had de-escalated, unfortunately the heat of the moment is exactly that and she wouldn't be getting any kind of apology out of me for what i said to her.
     
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    Urgh i get this all the time. Apollo is the fussiest eater ever and has always been skinny. I get remarks about not feeding him, though not so much now i live in a small village and just reply the vet's said he's the perfect weight and that most pet dogs are obese and their owners dont even realise :Hilarious
     
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