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Discussion in 'General Chat' started by rona, Sep 19, 2020.


  1. rona

    rona Still missing my boys

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    Has anyone here looked after someone with a terminal illness. I really could do with a chat, either with someone I know on here or could you suggest an organization?
     
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    The Macmillan website has lots of help and forums etc.
     
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    cava14 una Anne two black and white boys and a Nortie Tortie

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    Depending on the illness is there not an organisation that you can speak to? Have you approached your doctor for help? I know how hard being a carer can be, I cared for my Mum for 6 years and that wasn't with the added pressure of a terminal illness

    Hope you can find help(((hugs)))
     
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    :( Im sorry you are in this position . I hope you find someone to chat too.
     
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    cava14 una Anne two black and white boys and a Nortie Tortie

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    They were wonderful when my Granny was dying.
     
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    Bertie'sMum Obedient Cat Slave

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    I am a volunteer moderator on a forum especially for those caring for a friend and/or relative in an unpaid, non-professional capacity. Apart from the forum itself the organisation (it's a charity) also hosts regular Zoom meetings where carers can chat to each other online in safety.

    The organisation is Carers UK and this is a link to their main website - you can sign up to and access the forum from the home page.
    https://www.carersuk.org/

    The main website has lots of information on everything from available benefits and how to access them to practical support for those finding themselves in a caring situation.
     
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  8. rona

    rona Still missing my boys

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    Thank you for all your help. Unfortunately, after reading the forums,
    I don't think I can discuss my issues. I just feel sick and don't know what to do!
    I'm trying my hardest and it just doesn't seem to be enough .....................and I'm making us both miserable
     
  9. SusieRainbow

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    Oh dear, Rona, I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time. If I can help in any way inbox me.
    I cared for my mum when she was dying of cancer many years ago, although she was in a Nursng home near by I saw her every day and was very involved wth every aspect of her care.
    Please let me help f I can.
     
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    Maybe Samaritans?
     
  11. Mum2Heidi

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    So sorry Rona, I don’t know if I’d be any help to chat to but I can tell you this.
    I reached the point you are at. One day sat beside him having chemo. I hit a wall. Felt totally useless, helpless, aimless, hopeless and probably more.
    I knew it had to stop. I couldn’t tell Gra or care for him in that state. I went to The Mustard Tree within the hospital and asked for help. The Marie Curie nurses there had already been amazing to us. A lovely lady sat me down and told me I was feeling something totally normal. To allow myself to have a blip. My blip will take as long as it takes but it will end and I will step up and carry on. I felt so much better for offloading and knowing it’s normal. I’d got into a tight bubble I couldn’t burst. I bounced straight back and every time it raised its head again I was able to deal with it. Just from that one conversation.
    Marie Curie are brilliant. Unfortunately we weren’t as luck with our Macmillan nurse but everyone’s experience is different.
    I’m not sure if it helps in any way but I hope so.
     
  12. cava14 una

    cava14 una Anne two black and white boys and a Nortie Tortie

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    Good idea.
     
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