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Bit of a dilemma

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by The Wild Bunch, Mar 12, 2019.


  1. The Wild Bunch

    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    My mum is planning on retiring and her and my dad are thinking about selling up and buying a farmhouse and gites in France.
    She’s asked hubby and I if we want to go with them (I’m an only child)
    It sounds like the perfect opportunity for us, I despise my job and I’m actively looking for something else so I wouldn’t be sad to leave my career.
    My dilemma is, we have two kids of school age who as yet can’t speak French and then there’s the small issue of Brexit and what effect this will have on new Brits wanting to live abroad.

    What would you do?
     
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  2. rona

    rona Still missing my boys

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    How old are your children and Would you going make a difference to what your Mum and Dad bought?

    Could it be left until they are settled and Brexit sorted a little more before you made your final decision?
     
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    As a teacher I find children pick up second languages easily. What an opportunity I understand your caution though could u work over there ?
     
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  4. Lurcherlad

    Lurcherlad PetForums VIP

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    I’d say with kids, the younger the better, as they will adapt far easier than teenagers.

    I would do some research on the Government website etc. to see if there is any clarity on the issue of Brits living permanently in France.

    I doubt they will all get kicked out, especially if running businesses that benefit local French people and their tourism industry.

    Ensuring you have all the correct paperwork should avoid any issues.
     
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  5. The Wild Bunch

    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    They are ten and eight so not babies but not quite at secondary school either. From what I’ve read, the French education system is very good.
    I don’t think it would make much difference regarding the gites if we went or not but it may make a difference to the living accommodation for them as they are currently searching for houses with barns (the plan was to convert a barn for hubby, kids and me to live in so we’re not on top of each other)

    I would happily work doing anything. If we could make a bit of income running gites in the summer months, that would help but I’m not work shy so anything would do :)

    Thank you. Puts my mind at ease a touch :)
     
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  6. Happy Paws

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    If I was you I'd grab it with both hands and go,
     
  7. Animallover26

    Animallover26 I am me.

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    Sounds like an amazing opportunity.

    The ages your children are shouldn't be a problem re learning French.

    If Brexit won't be an issue I'd say go for it!
     
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    What do your kids think ? Would you still have a base in the UK?
    If you own a property , you could rent it out.
    It sounds an amazing opportunity !
     
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  9. The Wild Bunch

    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    We own our home outright over here so could rent it out or just leave it empty. The kids think it’s marvellous as the summer holidays in France are slightly longer and the weather generally should be better. I suppose it’s the fear of the unknown but we’re also aware that these opportunities don’t come around very often
     
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    kimthecat PetForums VIP

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    Unless it affects your mum and dads decision then there's no need to make your mind up right away , Take it step by step .
    I spent some time in France years ago and I loved it .
     
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    Lurcherlad PetForums VIP

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    If you own your home outright it might make sense to swap it for a smaller/cheaper property so you keep a foot in the UK property market because getting back in if you change your mind could be expensive.

    Rent it out (carefully through a good agent/with good insurance to safeguard against dodgy tenants) while you go to France and see if you love it for say, a year?
     
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    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    Good idea. Lots to think about. We like the area we are in here but having a four bed house stood empty probably isn’t sensible. Maybe changing to a little bungalow for visiting the UK instead might be wise. Can’t envisage that we will do anything until the six week holidays when the kids are off for a while and we can take our time finding schools etc
     
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  13. karenmc

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    Sounds like an exciting opportunity!
     
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  14. Happy Paws

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    Hope Brexit doesn't get in the way:D
     
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  15. The Wild Bunch

    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    Thank you :) so do I. Such a mess at the moment and nobody seems to know what will happen on the 29th
     
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  16. cheekyscrip

    cheekyscrip Pitchfork blaster

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    You will know soon - work permit and residency etc..
    Else sounds exciting! Kids still young enough to adapt!
    Maybe you can claim asylum if you voted Remain ?:Hilarious
     
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  17. The Wild Bunch

    The Wild Bunch Owner of dogs and referee of children

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    If only it were so easy :Joyful
     
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