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Being ''rude'' to children...???

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by PoisonGirl, Aug 24, 2013.


  1. PoisonGirl

    PoisonGirl Banned

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    Ok this is an odd question lol but how ''rude'' can I be to children?! :eek:


    Basically anywhere I go I have to walk through or round the park. Outside of school hours there are usually some kids on the playpark area and if they see me with Izzy they run over and want to stroke or cuddle her.

    The other day one girl started coming over as I was on my way home, Anna was being a whinge and I just wanted to get in the house. She asked to stroke Izzy and I said I'm just trying to get Anna home as she is tired. She followed me a little way anyway.


    Then I saw the wee lakeland/border puppy, we were crossing paths and I thought, good size for Iz to meet. While they were sniffing each other the kid ran over and bent to stroke the puppies, the other pups owner went off leaving me trying to get Izzy up off her back from having her tummy rubbed by the kid. Even when I said ''come on Izzy'' the kid didn't back off.


    Now I know she is a little cute puppy and people are going to want to see her. BUT I don't want her thinking every person is there to speak to and I also don't want to have to stop every time someone sees her!



    Down the street adults are fine, if I avoid eye contact they usually keep walking, if I am not in a rush and do make eye contact when ppl gush over her they do ask to speak to her. But it's how to get rid of unnatended children that gets me??
     
  2. Marycat

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    Aaaah kids love dogs and they are just being friendly! However its best not to encourage them too much because they will come across the wrong dog one day who could snap at them. When I had my Molly (who didn't like kids!) I was just nice but honest and would say please don't stroke her because she can be a bit miserable and she wants her sleep and to be honest kids just accepted it! x
     
  3. Wiz201

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    I had this walking the pony the other day. Girl at first jogged up to us then slowed down at the last minute and just stared as we walked by. I don't like that, either say something or don't stare :thumbdown:
     
  4. we love bsh's

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    Well i cant see why you would want to be rude to the child :confused: how times have changed.
     
  5. Nataliee

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    One of the joys of owning a tiny puppy I'm afraid, thankfully it does ease off a bit once they get older.
    One day I was at a show with Heidi & got bugged by so many people that wouldn't give her space, I was there to socialise her but not leave her completely overwhelmed, I was drawn to a t-shirt on a stall that said 'there's a bitch on both ends of this lead' it worked :eek:
     
  6. PoisonGirl

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    I just can't work out how to get our own space, without making me seem like the mean lady who won't let the kids see the puppy :lol:

    I'm not good with people, I can't work how to be firm enough that they leave me alone, but gentle enough that I am not mean to them... agh. Should have gotten a big dog :lol:
     
  7. cinnamontoast

    cinnamontoast Sois pas chiant, chéri.

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    I wouldn't be rude less they were out of order, but I would be firm and tell them no, you're training etc. your dog, your rules. Easy. If she'd come up when I'd already said no, I'd ask her not to interact, you won't have changed your mind in 10 seconds.
     
  8. Tigerneko

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    I don't really know how you'd get around that one, could you not just say something like "i'm really sorry kids but we have to go now, Izzy needs her dinner (or something like that, just any excuse you think of lol), see you later" and just walk away - then you've ended the interaction politely and if you just walk away, the kid should take the hint - then you're being direct and in control of the situation without needing to be rude :) if the kid continues to follow them then just let them but ignore them as best you can, they'll only follow for so long then get bored or feel they have walked far enough and need to return to wherever they were playing :) I know it may not be ideal from Izzy's POV for socialisation, but if they're really getting on your wick you could just pick Izzy up and walk away.

    I know where you're coming from, I don't have children and I really can't tolerate them for very long so that would really get on my nerves, but I suppose it's part and parcel of having such a tiny dog!

    A group of kids really irritated me on Friday, I was coming home from work on my scooter and there's a big step up to my back garden, so I put a ramp down and I have to ride my scooter up the ramp to get it into my garden. There was a bunch of about 5 kids (some on bikes) and they were interested in my scooter, they moved out the way as I rode down the back street, then I got off and put it on its' stand while I went to set the ramp up. I could see them all staring and edging nearer and nearer to my scooter so I hopped on and rode it over to the ramp. I have a habit of faffing around on it going backwards and forwards to position it correctly to get it up the ramp without the back wheel slipping off it, and as I was trying to get my scooter into position, these stupid kids were stood a few feet either side of me all gawping and one silly little boy kept riding his bike behind me, I nearly backed my scooter into him :mad: even when I rode my scooter up the ramp & into my garden, one of them walked right up to my garden gate (which was open) and carried on gawping at me as I was parking it! :thumbdown: :angry: :angry: I ended up slamming the gate in her face :eek: :eek:

    I hate being watched at the best of times and they really riled me all stood staring at me, i've crashed my scooter before trying to get it up that ramp (which is why I faff around making sure it's level with the ramp before I ride it up) and I really didn't need that lot stood there staring at me and putting me off :angry: and I wouldn't have minded if they'd have spoken to me or asked me about my scooter, but like Wiz said, they just got a couple of feet away from me and stood there staring! It was embarrassing!
     
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  9. SusieRainbow

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    I'm only too pleased for people to ask about Tango, and happy for children to pay her attention too. It's all about socialisation, surely.
     
  10. foursmith

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    I don't mind anyone petting Elvis as long as they ask and if it is kids I always say he's friendly but be careful always ask cos not all dogs are

    Elvis is waiting to become a pat dog so it suits me, I like to share his love and he loves a fuss...
    Not sure how you would stop it really cos pups are so attractive to youngsters

    I have met so many nice people who want to stop and chat about Elvis, it's lovely and very sociable
     
  11. cinnamontoast

    cinnamontoast Sois pas chiant, chéri.

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    It's all very well saying socialisation, but Zak is headshy and hates people looming over him. I don't want to risk him being nervous and months of trying to keep him calm going down the drain. A lot of kids just go straight for the head, even when asked not to and they're just OTT when approaching. I'm quite happy to control what they're doing, but I'm used to kids. If you're not, they can be quite intimidating!
     
  12. SpringerHusky

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    Yes and No

    Welcome to the Frat Party a.k.a. I’m not socializing my puppy that way so go away. | The Dog Snobs
    This pretty much explains it :p


    I usually reply with,"sorry, he's very shy and doesn't want to say Hi, maybe another day". Brody is fine with girls but boys or men, he's never 100% with and sometimes he barks if he gets scared so I really just try to avoid areas built up with kids and such.
     
  13. PoisonGirl

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    Of course I need to socialise her, but a swarm of children, the type that are let out to play unatented and out of sight (even a toddler with the 9yr old sibling) that are rough, used to big rough dogs (lurcher) are loud and crowd round tiny Izzy grabbing at her and trying to pick her up.

    I don't want her becoming fearful of children. But I also don't want these kids and/or their parents calling me the rude lady who won't let the kids play with/pick up the puppy. I like to pretend I don't care what people think of me, but I actually don't like the idea of people looking at me thinking I am rude or whatever because I tell the kids they can't see the puppy.


    Of course I don't want to be rude, thats why I put "rude" instead. I just meant thats how I would get portrayed if I turn them away all the time.
     
  14. cinnamontoast

    cinnamontoast Sois pas chiant, chéri.

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    Feel free to raise your voice and make them do as you want if they approach. I wouldn't want to pick her up because that's going to make her think she'll be protected and possibly make her turn to you for protection when she needs to stand her ground.
     
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    Kids usually respond well if you speak to them in a reasonable manner.

    I would probably choose an occasion when it was ok for them to fuss your dog - i.e. you have time, the dog is not tired, etc. and then have a "grown up" conversation with them. Explain that although you are happy for them to fuss your dog, they need to understand that sometimes it is not appropriate and they must respect your wishes. Explain about how you are trying to train your dog to behave with people, etc.

    I'm sure they would understand more if you gave them some valid reasons why, sometimes, you don't want anyone fussing over your dog.

    It's a tricky one. I get what you mean though, you don't want to come across as rude, but you also deserve some consideration ;)

    Good luck
     
  16. Jobeth

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    I have a tiny dog and hold her if people ask to stroke her. That means I'm in full control of the situation and they also can't pick her up. You have to watch that with tiny dogs as I worry they'd drop her. As I don't pick her up every time I see a person it hasn't caused a problem. After a while they get used to seeing you around and carry on playing.
     
  17. lilythepink

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    I don't mind kids coming and stroking my dogs at all.and my dogs are used to it so they don't bother at all.
    I think it does the dogs the world of good too. Kids seem to want to stroke the bullmastiff, you would think they would be wary but not so.
    I ask the dog to sit when kids ask to stroke her.
     
  18. Firedog

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    I know how too solve your problem, just send her to me.:D
     
  19. BeauNoir

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    'I'm sorry, she doesn't have time for a cuddle right now, maybe next time we see you'

    Worked for me when Pixie was tiny. :)

    (if they don't listen to this, then I believe you have a right to tell them firmly to get away from your dog)
     
  20. Sarah1983

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    I find calm but firm usually works well. With Rupert it was along the lines of "right kids, if you want to stroke him that's fine but if you all try at once you'll frighten him. So let's be quiet and just hold our hands out so he can sniff them and then you can stroke him one at a time and give him a biscuit" sort of thing. Not that he ate the biscuits but they liked giving them to him lol. Same sort of thing works with Spencer although he's usually as excited to see them as they are to see him.

    If I'm in a rush then again I'm polite but firm. "sorry, he has to get home for his dinner but another time we'll stop and let you say hello" or something like that and just carry on walking. No need to be rude, just firm. Unless the kid becomes an obnoxious brat, then the Voice of Doom works as well on them as it does on dogs :D
     
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