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Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by Staysee, Oct 29, 2012.


  1. Staysee

    Staysee PetForums VIP

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    So i know we havent had him long, but he's been a real pain in the arse to say the least.

    He's gone for Jenson so so many times and Jensons such a lovely, soppy laid back cat that he's taken it....he's been pinned into corners, had his neck bitten, been pulled off from where he's sleeping etc etc

    Even Jack our top cat, who he did avoid, he is now going for, trying to really assert his dominance and Jack....who obviously had the stroke earlier in the year, now with this fuss is possibly at risk of another stroke as we were told not to really put him under lots of stress and this could stress him out.

    So i've been emailing the ragdoll rehoming lady called Dawn about his issues and she contacted his breeder for me, who then passed on her number to me and i spoke to her a little while ago.

    For his sake and our other cats sake she suggested he was moved to like an "assesment home" where he can be seen with other cats and a dog and people to asses the right home for him.

    I told him all about how he was sold onto us, which she wasnt happy about in the first place but she was even more appalled that he was advertised in a shop window. Also she reckons due to his nature now towards us and our cats that he may of been...its hard to say this, but he may of been abused in some way by the husband, cos he's more wary of my dad then me and my mum. Its disgusting to think this and both me and mum have cried since the phonecall for him, but this really is gonna be the best thing for him....he can be properly assesed, maybe a full vet check to make sure there are no underlying issues [i doubt anyway].

    But she does reckon from what i've explained is that he's been abused in some way, maybe just had a single hit or kick from the husband, we just dont know but he's so not what a Ragdoll should be and its something his previous owners have done to him, including the lack of flea treatment.

    So she's now getting back in touch with the ragdoll rehoming lady to arrange, if possible for him to go to shropshire to the assesment house....if not possible then she will take him back.

    But yeah, its sad its come to this but his behaviour towards Jenson has gotten worse in the last few days and he's now going for Jack more, funnily enough he still wont touch our elder female ;) haha

    But she was very greatfull that we have gotten in contact with the right people and he's gonna be....


    UPDATE: Just spoken to his breeder again, he is off to shropshire, the lady he's going too will be able to put him in his own seperate pen where he'll have some alone time and she'll work with him one on one and slowly introduce him to other cats and dogs and see whats best for him. Its what he needs, its something we cant give him, something has happened to him at his previous house and he needs more then just a fun loving home, he needs some real care and time.


    Just a side thought to the secret santa, it wont change, whoever has JJ can still buy for him, but one of our other cats will have whatever....i have already bought a gift for his secret santa, so it will go to your cat from him, so it wont affect it :)
     
  2. JordanRose

    JordanRose Master of the Whingey Cat.

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    Aww, I'm sorry to hear you've had to make this decision. It seems a lot of kitties are having to be rehomed lately :(

    It sounds like you are doing the right thing, though, for your resident cats. It's not fair on them to be in fear of JJ all the time, they should be able to relax in their own home.

    Sending lots of love to you, I hope JJ gets the home he is really suited to, and that he lives a long, happy life in the right home for him x
     
  3. Staysee

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    Well he is still young enough to be able to live a long and happy life with someone.
     
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    Sounds lie he should be in a home without any other cats
    You do find that a lot, we had a Birman like that
     
  5. JordanRose

    JordanRose Master of the Whingey Cat.

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    I'm sure he'll make somebody very happy once he's in the right home, and the assessment centre sounds like the best way to determine this. Fingers crossed it all works out for him :)
     
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    Poor you having to make this difficult decision! Must be really hard for you all. It sounds like your resident cats will be happier once he's renamed and I'm sure the perfect home will be found for him soon. Love from us here.
     
  7. smiler84

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    it seems a shame that he's been rehomed after only about a week? i don't mean to sound harsh, and i can understand that you need to consider your other cats, but it doesn't sound long enough for him to have settled in...
     
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    His aggression towards Jenson specially, is far worse then just learning to settle in.
     
  9. Staysee

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    Also we tried to talk other ways of keeping him....but with info i gave her on his behaviour and his previous owners she reckons he has been abused....we cannot helped a cat that has something like that, he needs some care that we cant give.

    His aggression is bad, he will even sink his teeth into our arms for no reason...so imagine what he does to a cat who he doesnt like?

    Oh and he is settled, so settled....he knows where everything is, he's happy with visitors, he has his fave spot to sleep at night and somewhere during the day. He's settled in extremely well, but his aggression is a concern for us and his breeder, whos thought it was to rehome, i had considered it....after trying some treatment, which i had been talking to someone on here about, along with rehoming and was willing to try stuff to calm him and give him time, but his breeder feels its in his best needs and our established cats best needs that he's rehomed.

    Someone has MISTREATED him in his time between his first home and us, he needs some proper one on one time now before any issues he may have get out of control.
     
  10. Treaclesmum

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    Aw no, bless him :( Poor you, it is such a shame.

    Sounds like it is for the best though, as you need to consider your other cats first. I really hope he hasn't been abused, it couldn't be underlying medical issues, could it? It just sounds a bit like Jumpy at first, but he was only 4 months old. I hope JJ will be ok anyway and that your other cats will relax again once he has been rehomed. Hugs xxxx
     
  11. Staysee

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    Its been a hard day, cried alot! haha

    If its some medical issue then it will get found out, but he seems fine...he eats very well, he drinks fine, he doesnt bite if a specific part of his body is touched. So it would have to be some really underlying issue, but his breeder reckons its something thats happened to him in his last home.
     
  12. lymorelynn

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    So sorry to hear that things haven't worked out with JJ :( I'm so glad that you have been able to speak to his breeder though and that JJ will be assessed for a new home before he becomes a problem cat that no one wants :(
    I can imagine that he did not get much love and attention in his previous home :(
    Of course you are right to put the welfare of your other cats first and I'm sending a hug ((())) to help ease the upset of letting the lovely boy go
     
  13. Treaclesmum

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    Can you do any research on the breeder? Are they registered and do they test for things like HCM? I know it might not be medical, but Jumpy was so growly and aggressive for a 4 month old kitten, he was so defensive and we thought he must've been mistreated, but he had a cyst on his back causing discomfort and the kids in his first home didn't realise that, so they responded to his defensiveness by making it worse, I think..... :( Something like that may be to blame, you never know.
     
  14. Staysee

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    She is a registered breeder, altho she has stopped now as she was finding rehoming difficult cos she was beginning to trust people less and less, seems she took the wrong call on this poor boy though, but he's now gonna get better!
     
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    She was a lovely woman who was so shocked and upset that one of her cats had had such an awfull time since leaving home.

    Its gonna be best for him, he's still young enough to be able to be worked with and get over the stress of a few homes in a short period, but also any issues he has from his first home can be helped with proper care, which we cant give.

    She reckons he will end up going to a house where he will be the only cat, but he needs assesing first to see if he's ok with dogs, children etc to find the best home for him.
     
  16. buffie

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    I really do feel for everyone involved in this.Having a "problem" ragdoll I can understand the obvious assumption that someone has been "rough" with the poor lad,but that may not be the case.
    Meeko my boy was poorly socialised as a kitten ,which we believed led to many problems while he was growing up,he was a very unhappy,aggressive boy.
    He had two consultations with a pet behaviourist,both through my vets,infact one is a vet at the practice.It was he who said that Meeko had interactive aggression and in his opinion, it was in his hard wiring and not a result of bad rearing.
    With lots of advice and hard work he is now a reasonably well adjusted young man,but,I could not guarantee how he would react being rehomed,especially in to a home where there are established cats living there.
    It may be that the reason given for him being sold ,was not the truth.
     
  17. Aurelie

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    I'm sorry to hear that things haven't gone well with JJ, thank goodness he came from a lovely breeder who is going to find him somewhere more suited to his needs to live.
     
  18. Polimba

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    I'm sorry to hear you have to rehome him. I think our Ragdoll might have been assessed in the same place.

    Polly was very aggressive to the cat she was originally rehomed to. We arranged to adopt her through Dawn and she was absolutely fine as an only cat and she loves our dog.

    Sometimes it's just not the right home and he will live happily as an only cat. I think we were Polly's 4th home at two but she's none the worse for it, just to put your mind at rest.
     
  19. Staysee

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    The breeder is registered, so im sure her bringing him up wasnt the issue.

    If he does have, like your meeko some wires loose or something, then he wont be any good in a multi cat household.
     
  20. Staysee

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    Oh dawn is lovely, she's been a real help.

    Nice too hear that a ragdoll who has had similar issues, or infact the same issues has been rehomed happily to someone, a better home that more suits him.

    The last thing we wanted was to leave him to "settle" and he got worse, then he would be very hard to rehome, as he is he just needs time alone to find out more about him.
     
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