Sorry this is long but I want to include details that are relevant to why I would want him back. 2 month ago I rehomed my beloved 18 month old cat, binx for Free. At the time I was going through a break up with my partner of 6 year and was left with 2 cats, a dog and a toddler. The two cats were fighting all the time, or more so I felt like Binx was being bullied by my older cat. I was also in the process of moving house after realising I couldn’t afford the house I was living in with just my wage. With my life in turmoil I figured if I was going to rehome any of them it was best to do it before moving home so that they weren’t going to go through so much change so quickly, leading to a rushed rehoming process. My older cat stayed because I didnt think he’d cope as well as Binx, who is very loving and docile. I found a lady that lives on a farm in the middle of nowhere and thought he’d have the best life there. She had an 8 month old cat who she was looking for a friend for, she told me she had no other INDOOR pets so I thought I was doing the best thing for him. However, when I got there she came to the car and I walked up to the door with her, holding the carrier. After I said I wanted to home check I thought we were both going to go in but she stopped at the door. I put it down to COVID stupidly. When asking for an update 2 weeks later she said that he didn’t like her original cat but they were getting better.. I figured he’d just need more time. Then I saw her post in a cat group on Facebook a video of her original cat and a new 8 week old kitten, she stated she has those two cats and was asking for advice on how to get them to play gently but there was no mention of Binx. I messaged her and asked if she still had Binx, to which she blocked me, giving me instant red flags. I posted on the same group saying I was looking for his whereabouts. The admin of this group messaged her and sent a screenshot to me of the woman saying she still had Binx but he didn’t like to get involved/play with the other cats which again was a big red flag. Even with my much bigger cat who “played” very roughly he still couldn’t resist getting involved, so even if that was true I’d question whether he was happy there. Admin also asked for some photos of Binx, to which she never replied. All of these red flags led me to searching every social media site she has, and it turns out that she’s very pro fox hunting and has a pack of fox hounds living on her property. I, personally, would never have rehomed him there if I’d known this. I don’t want to go too much into it given the already lengthy post but I just wouldn’t have let him go there if I had known. 2 month down the line and my life has settled down, my older cat is actually a lot more chilled and happier in himself. My last home had lots of cats in the neighbourhood which leads me to question whether the bullying/ overly rough play from my older cat was actually redirected aggression toward Binx as a result of seeing other cats around the house. But realistically they were left in the house when I went to work etc and nobody was hurt, so I think during those tough times everything seemed more serious than it actually was if that makes sense? My point is, I believe I could integrate him back into the house and things might be a lot more chill. If I felt like Binx was better off then I wouldn’t consider asking, but at this point the hostility and outright blocking me has lead me to question whether she even has him anymore... and if she doesn’t then where is he? I checked his microchip and none of the details were swapped over so he’s still under my name, which I don’t think stands for much but i don’t know why she wouldn’t update the details? Again, so sorry for the long scattered post but ultimately my question is, would it be stupid/rude/irrational to ask if she’d consider letting me have him back? And saying I’d be willing to pay for him? I just want to know he’s safe, I miss him so much and it’s one of my biggest regrets ever. I also think it would be a good test to see if she actually still has him because everything seems off and shady. Even some up to date photos/proof she still has him would be enough to ease my mind I’m so worried. What’s the best thing to do in this situation?