I went to a lovely wedding yesterday. The couple looked very happy and a great time was had by all who attended. However, on the week leading up to the wedding a number of people (who knew about it at least a year ago and had said they would be there) suddenly pulled out and said they could no longer come, for a variety of not very good reasons. The same thing happened to my OH and I on the week leading up to ours 4 years ago. A few of the reasons were genuine, which is of course understandable, but some people you could tell were just making excuses and one couple just didn't turn up on the day, despite saying they were coming. It really is very frustrating when you have spent such a lot of time organising something, particularly for a wedding when you are usually paying a set amount for each individual guest. When people give you very little notice as well it is very difficult to find someone else who might like to come in their place. There were a number of people who we would have liked to invite to ours, but couldn't simply because of money, so when people cancel last minute and you realise you could have invited them after all it is very annoying. I notice a similar thing whenever I organise a birthday party. It's starts off with the majority of people I invite and then one by one (usually within 48 hours of the party) they will tell me they are not coming. My OH has some notoriously unreliable friends and past birthday parties she has felt upset at the amount of people who have cancelled last-minute. She is 30 in October and I would have loved to have thrown her a big party, but she has asked me not to because it is so upsetting for her when people decide not to turn up. The thing is, I don't recall this being a problem in my teenage years. I also don't recall it being a problem for my parents when they have had parties to celebrate special birthdays. My theory is that in the past people would have had to tell you face-to-face or call you on the phone and actually speak to you to tell you that they can't come, whereas these days if someone just can't really be bothered they can just send you a quick text or tell you on Facebook that they can't come. What do others think? Does anyone else have this problem? For those in the older generations do you think it is more of a problem these days with technology making it so easy to communicate without having to speak to someone? Or is it just that people have busier lives?