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Anybody else feel inadequate??

Discussion in 'Dog Chat' started by catz4m8z, May 19, 2010.


  1. catz4m8z

    catz4m8z PetForums VIP

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    I love this forum and find it helpful, informative and entertaining but am I the only one who sometimes feels like a totally inadequate dog owner coz they arent out doing agility, obedience or some other doggy sport??:confused:
    Is it ok to just have a happy family pet with no bells or whistles??:D
    My 3 enjoy their walks, playfights, visiting friends and curling up in front of the tv in the evening. They seem relaxed and contented with their lot in life and they are rarely left in the daytime without human company.

    So do you think extra activities are a must or is it just that dog owners here are the most fanatical??LOL:D
     
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    I think it depends on the breed of dog as much as anything.

    My Lurcher is a great pet, loves a good walk and a cuddle and I will probably not do any advanced activities with him.

    My Vizsla needs a lot more mental and physical stimulation which is why he does scentwork now and will do agility when old enough.

    Edited to add: There is definitely nothing wrong with having a happy family pet that is nothing more and nothing less than that. Being a part of a family is more than enough on its own.:thumbup:
     
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  3. westie~ma

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    Nope, what you've described is just about our family life ... throw in loads of weekends away as well which normally means loads of walking and it would be spot on :D
     
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    I feel sometimes I'm GOING to be a bad owner
     
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    All the time :) not just that but I can't offer as much advice as everyone here. I don't have specific knowledge, nutrition to me if extremely confusing etc.

    Ah well, they do say there's always someone 'better' than you at things :)

    I'm just happy if my dogs are fed, walked and sleeping because they're knackered.
     
  6. sid&kira

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    I do, but not for the same reasons.

    I feel bad when I hear about all the other doggies running around offlead lol, Kira cant go offlead, she has awful recall, which is a common breed trait, and she will run and run without stopping lol, so she only gets time offlead twice a week, when we go to the dog park.

    Thats fine by me, and her, its what works for us, I'd rather keep her on a lead than have her killed, but I have to say I feel much less mean about it on the husky forum im on lol, cus most people on there are the same as me :thumbup:

    I do work her, but she is a high energy working breed lol, she wouldnt be happy lazing on her arse all year lol

    Lol Sequeena just ask me, I love nutrition, really interests me. Dog nutrition anyway lol, my own diet is awful!!
     
  7. GillyR

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    Hey cockle !!

    Shove it hun lol.

    Mine have not special talents, i have no great knowledge, well not a lot at all if i am honest... - we are not amazing, far from it....i often feel like mr bean with my lot...or worst still homer simpson.
    But mine are loved and happy, and i do my best for them.....and if i can learn from you lovely people all the better :thumbup:
     
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    Aw Hun you shouldn't feel like that at all.

    Your dogs are happy with thrir life yes?

    Your happy with your life with them yes?

    Then there is no reason to feel inadequate.

    I dont have bells and whistles but I know all my animals are content and happy

    xx
     
  9. Zaros

    Zaros Pet Forums, P/resident Evil

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    Providing you know that your dogs are happy and content there is no reason for you to change your life style or theirs because, ultimately, that is the aim.
    Quite obviously from what you have written you should feel very proud of yourself because you have succeeded to create a way of life that your gang are allowed to enjoy to the full without the regime of bells, clickers or whistles. :rolleyes:
    I wouldn't dare introduce these items into our dogs lives because they would eat me alive! ;)
     
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    To answer your question if it is a must...each to their own, but i would say noway does it make you a better owner, by doing something, or a worse owner by not doing any sport.

    My dogs are my companions, i could not give a flying hoot if they can perform tricks etc, and more to the point neither do they. :thumbup:
     
  11. EmsBuddy

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    I have only had Buddy a week and a half and i feel totally inadeqaute!!

    I feel like im doing all the wrongs things for him!

    But you gotta learn somewhere!
     
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    i'll second that

    I think at some point everyone feels like it tho, that they dont have a perfect dog mine are far from it, I think its the same as when you have kids and everyones banging on about how so and so sleeping through and counting to 59 at 6months old make syou feel like your not doing enough.

    As long as everyones dogs are happy who cares what they do with them :thumbup:
     
  13. lucysnewmum

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    this post has upset me somewhat to think that there are dog loving people out there who give their time, love, money, and energy into doing the best they can for their pet and yet still end up feeling inadequate.:mad:

    as a trainer and behaviourist one of the first questions i ask my clients is....
    what do you want from your dog? companionship and fun are the top two answers every time! with this in mind i tailor my classes to suit the needs of the owners. not everyone wants to do agility, go to crufts, or have the next best Shutzhund! some of us are happy with a loving, loyal friend and thats as it should be! everyone is different....every dog is different. the important thing is to match the owner's needs to the dog's needs and vice versa. many a time on the show circuit i have seen dogs which, to be honest, are downright miserable in the environment and would rather be home lazing on the sofa or playing ball. i have also seen dogs who absolutely shine once their show leads are attached.

    a good trainer will give you the tools to get the best behaviour out of your furry buddy. the rest is up to you. if your dog is happy doing what you do.....you are doing a great job and should not be intimidated by anyone who thinks or says different!!!
    :thumbup:
     
  14. girlyhouse

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    This thread is music to my ears and i thought i was the only one feeling this way.I feel totally inadequate, useless and a big fat failure with my new pup esp at her training classes.You would think ive never had a dog before in my life!!!! All my other dogs had a very content life as described by someone earlier and there is nothing wrong with that at all x
     
  15. catz4m8z

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    Aww, great! The lesson seems to be there is always someone out there who feels the same as you do!!LOL:D Thank you folks, for cheering me up!
    I know my dogs will never make me proud in the show ring or agility course but when they throw themselves into the arms of toddlers for kisses and fuss and I hear how 'they're so friendly for Chihuahua's!' I feel proud of 'em anyways!!:rolleyes:
     
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    But it is true. I waited 22 years before I was able to have a dog of my own. I reserched breeds, knew exactly what I wanted. I did masses of training with him, so much socialisation, and then when he hit adulthood I ended up with a problem dog. All the things I wanted to do with him, which are appropriate to his breed, I can't do. I don't even have a dog I can take everywhere with me any more. Yes I am working to try and resolve this but I also know he may never do what I would have loved him to do.

    And on the other hand, staying at home and being a house dog doesn't suit him either, he needs a lot more than that but his issues prevent it. I have gone from owning the perfect dog, to one that I can hardly take out of the house any more. I have put heart body and soul into him for the last 4 years and yes, I do still feel inadequate. It doesn't help when he kicks off and passers by tell me to give him a good wallop or call in Cesar Millan! :mad:
     
  17. SpringerHusky

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    I could not get maya to do any sport if I tried :lol:

    Rusty is a very active boy and needs to do something, it's the way he is.
     
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    No as long as you and your dogs are healthy and happy then why should you feel in adequate because you don't do agility/obedience whatever. I'm sure even the people with the top agility dogs in the world feel inadequate because someone else is better at another sport or knows more.
     
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    I have a working type English Springer Spaniel who has the most awesome instinct to be a working dog (he was bron to a working kennel). I have been told i am cruel for not working him (not on here) i think it was below the belt! He is a rescue by the way.

    On here, i do sometimes because he is just a pet and my best friend!

    Our lives consist of plenty daily walks, training both basic and tricks, playtimes, ''natural agility'' (basically jumping random poles/logs etc) cuddling (lots of!!) being together, and i do use his natural instinct. I ''work'' him on walks, i throw things into massive wild bush etc etc (i even bury his ball and he finds it and digs it out!) and he goes and retrieves it on my say so. So i AM using his instinct its just not the in the ''normal'' gundog way! We do lots and lots of mental and physical exercise so he is a very very happy pet and companion! Nothing more nothing less!

    I feed him very well as my dad says better than myself :rolleyes: :lol:

    So while i do sometimes i really should never feel in the slight bit inadequate!!
     
  20. lucysnewmum

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    merlinsmum....you are far from being an inadequate owner....i have read lots of your posts and i know you are trying your damndest to sort him out. did you get a behaviourist in? how's it all going? is he improving or getting worse?
     
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