Hello everyone! I am here to seek some much needed advice on training and possible implications on your relationship with your significant other. I have been dating a wonderful man for a year and a half. He is the owner of a very cute, very sweet, 4 year old Beagle Lab mix. The longer we are together and the more I grow to love this man, the more of a future I see with him. There has been conversation about moving in together eventually (not in the very near future), but I do have some concerns about his dog, my tolerance for certain behaviors, and I want to have a productive conversation about it. My boyfriend is very attached to his dog - she runs his house and has access to anything and everything. It’s his house, his dog, and his expectations, I understand. But if we were to share a home, I would want there to be more boundaries. I am scared to have this conversation with him because after we had been dating a while, I decided I could no longer tolerate sleeping at his place with the dog in the bed. I could not acclimate myself to it and was very uncomfortable. I very gingerly brought the topic up to him and asked if he would consider having her sleep elsewhere (literally anywhere except in the bed) whenever I stayed over, which was/is only one night a week. He became very emotional, cried, got upset and defensive. The next day he was a bit more reasonable, and now, ever since the conversation, she now sleeps in a chair beside the bed whenever I stay the night. He said that he understood why I felt the way I did and was sorry for his reaction, but as you may understand, that incident has made me nervous about any future conversations about the dog. I want to outline some of the behaviors and situations that are worrisome for me and it is my hope that you all can give me some pointers on how to remedy them so that when I approach my boyfriend, it is not a negative conversation where I am complaining about the dog, but more that I have some suggestions to propose so it is a more constructive conversation. I also want us to both be consistent with her, using the same language, and get him on board with trying things even when I am not around, again, for consistency. Jumping - this is one of my pet peeves. His dog is a jumper. She jumps on me (and anyone) when they come in the door, which is problematic as she scratches skin, dirties clothes, knocks things out of my hands, etc. Even once I am inside the house, if I have something in my hands she wants, she will jump on me. Out in public, she jumps on others and has even attempted to jump on waitstaff at restaurants. He allows her to jump on him, and when giving her treats for commands like sitting, he holds it at his level and allows her to jump up to get it, which I feel like probably reinforces this behavior.. She has torn up my legs and arms multiple times by jumping on me. I tell her “OFF!” like he does, but it’s usually too late because the damage is already done. He has seen the scratches and apologizes to me and tells me he knows that it bothers me, but I am not sure what to do to make the jumping stop. Food - his dog is entitled to any and all food. He frequently feeds her when cooking in the kitchen, and when he is done eating his meals, he puts his plate and silverware on the floor for her to lick. I find this to be an issue not only because I personally think allowing dogs to lick people plates is gross, but even more so, it causes her to beg and even lunge at plates while we are eating from them - even at the table! She is under the impression that it belongs to her, and she knows she will be given the food eventually, so why wait? If eating on the couch, he will allow her to sit on the couch beside him/us, or worse, she will climb the back of the couch and lean over top of you while you are eating. Separation anxiety - my boyfriend brings his dog with him everywhere. He is on the road a lot for his job, and she often rides with him, so she is not used to being alone. This means when we are preparing to go somewhere she can’t go, she becomes visibly anxious. He coddles her before we go, which I think confuses her and makes it even worse. Even if we are in the house just hanging out, she has to be in the same room as him all the time. We can’t even go into the bedroom and shut the door for intimate time without her pawing, clawing, and banging her body against the door. This is a huge reason I still have not allowed him to bring her over to my place, which does not allow pets, because I have heard that once while on vacation he left her alone in a beach house where she tore apart all the blinds. He will eventually cave to her demands to be let inside the room, which I feel like reinforces that behavior. Sleep - as I mentioned previously, my boyfriend compromised and has her sleep on a chair and not in the bed while I am staying the night. It still causes sleep problems for me, but I feel like I won such a huge battle that I am reluctant to bring this up. She is used to being on the bed the other 6 nights/week I am not there, so it takes several rounds of her jumping on the bed and him telling her “off” and then trying again before she finally settles in her sleep spot. For the remainder of the night, I have difficulty sleeping listening to her lick, bite, chew, scratch, etc. as she is literally right beside the bed. In the mornings when she wakes up, she will jump on the bed and it wakes us up, or she will bang her body against the blinds on his back bedroom door so they rattle and wake us up. He will appease (reward) her by letting her out and or feeding her, and fifteen minutes later she is jumping on us on the bed again. Sometimes, she bangs on the blinds when she doesn’t even want to go out or be fed, she just wants attention. I would prefer for her not to sleep in the bedroom at all, but as mentioned above, if we shut the bedroom door, she will relentlessly scratch and bang her body against the door. Furniture - again, I won a huge battle with the bed, and it is his home and his preferences…. But if we ever share a home, I prefer that dogs are not on any of the furniture, couches included. She is a huge shedder and sometimes I want to be able to watch TV and eat a snack on the couch without being covered in hair, saliva, and getting scratched in the face as she attempts to jump behind me on the couch to get my food. Scolding - I am not sure how this could be handled, but whenever she does something she shouldn't, my boyfriend usually just laughs it off. For example, she often gets into things she shouldn't. She once managed to get inside my bag while we were out of the house, where she pulled out my dirty gym clothes, isolated my underwear, and licked them to the point of saturation with saliva. We found her in the act on the couch when we got home, but rather than scolding her for having gone through my things and pulled them out, he just laughed and thought it was funny. On that note, she also has this awkward obsession with sexual fluids that I don't know how to address - she has eaten used condoms out of the trash, she will lick our underwear she finds, and after sex, she is always in his bed, licking the sheets... it's so uncomfortable to watch and he usually just ignores it or laughs it off. He would argue that she is well trained, when in reality she knows some basic commands and tricks (sit, lie down, roll over, wait, speak). I would prefer that there are more boundaries in the home and that she is more well mannered for company and being out in public. Any tips on how to target any of these behaviors or how to approach the conversation? Thank you!