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A Conundrum

Discussion in 'Cat Chat' started by MoggyBaby, Mar 28, 2011.

  1. MoggyBaby

    MoggyBaby PetForums VIP

    Mar 8, 2011
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    Morning All,

    Here's a question to get your brain back up to speed on a Monday morning.

    Absolutely everyone here agrees that kittens should not be removed from their mother until 12 weeks old.


    You're in the market for a kitten - not a pedigree, just a li'l 4-legged furball to fill your days with joy. You get the chance to have one BUT is it only 6 weeks old....

    WHAT DO YOU DO????

    Do you say 'No thank you, I don't want it because it is too young to leave its mother' even though you know there is a very high chance of it going to someone else who may not care or understand about cats the way that we do here


    Do you take the kitten, even though you know you shouldn't & it goes against what you believe in, but you aren't prepared to take the risk of it going to someone who would not understand & care for it correctly - especially being so young - and which may result in the kitten having a very poor quality or short life?

    I got Merson when he was only 6 weeks. I pointed out to the woman that I thought he was too young to leave but she was adamant that he was going & if I didn't have him, there were plenty of others who wanted him. He did end up being quite poorly as a kitten and, at one point, had to be fed for almost 2 weeks with a syringe because he wouldn't eat. I often wonder if fate put him in my path because it knew that he had a better chance of survival with me because I would do everything in my power to care for him when there was a chance he could have had a much shorter life because whoever else he ended up with would not have been either knowledgeable enough or caring enough to give him the extra care & attention he needed.

    10 years down the line, the little monster still has me completely wrapped around all four of his little fur paws and I can honestly say, I wouldn't change him or the situation for all the money on the planet!!! :D :D :D

    So, the conundrum is, when an owner is determined to get rid of a litter at the age of six weeks - what IS the right or wrong thing to do??? :confused: :confused:
  2. buffie

    buffie Mentored by Meeko

    May 31, 2010
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    I can fully understand that it is emotional blackmail when faced with that situation,but,there is the fact that by taking this kitten that the "breeder" is determined to part with at such a young age,will only encourage them to repeat this again and again,especially if money is involved.The only way to stop this happening is to make it as difficult as possible to sell underage kittens,taking one kitten because you "feel guilty" will only condemn future kittens to a similar fate.Not easy to walk away but if more people did BYB's would be put out of business.I speak from experience as I made this mistake and my kitten was 9 weeks and very poorly socialised.I now know better through this forum and would not make this mistake again.I have had a hell of a time with Meeko but,like you he has me wrapped firmly round his paw and I would never part with him.Having said that I would never repeat it.
    #2 buffie, Mar 28, 2011
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  3. Etienne

    Etienne Dad to Puss and Shadow

    Dec 8, 2010
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    It is a pity that it isn`t made compulsory for owners to keep kittens and other pets for safer minimum period to give these youngsters a better chance in life. Owners should be made more accountable if their pets get pregnant and should accept the consequencies. It is so easy for owners to allow their pets to get pregnant and sell youngsters off quickly to make a few quid. I apologise to all guinuine breeders who care for their youngsters as I am not referring to them.
  4. Dante

    Dante PetForums VIP

    Feb 21, 2011
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    Unfortunately I'd never seen this site when looking for cats and boy, how much I've learnt..

    I'd been told 8 weeks was acceptable for moggies, however we did end up getting both of ours at 6 :( and whilst I knew it wasn't ideal, I had no idea about the possible serious implications for the cats which I've now learnt and would never do again. If anything, I'd adopt a rescue or 10.

    We went along after the owner told us they were 8 weeks old and then when we got there she decided to tell us they were 6! Like yourself and I'm sure many others, we knew they'd go elsewhere if we didn't take them ourselves. As soon as we got them home, I had a huge sense of guilt because they were still so wobbly on their little legs. They were the last two out of a litter of six :mad: I dread to think how young the rest had been when they'd left.

    The mother herself looked no older than 1-2 years and this was supposedly her 3rd litter.. I now know we helped in funding the owners to carry on and it doesn't sit right with me. However, what's done is done and I wouldn't change my two for the world.

    I was raised with 2 cats at home and I can't speak for others but I *thought* this prepared me sufficiently for owning my own 2.. When the fact of the matter is I spent the first 3-4 months of their life (and still now at a year, after finding this place) trawling the internet for any information I could find which would help me out.

    I think children should be educated from a young age on pet management - we're taught how to cook and other home skills, but nothing on how to care for our furry friends which I'd say most households have at least one form of! Obviously for that to happen tighter legislation would need to be implemented to insist on when a kitten can or can't leave it's mother and indeed on numerous other topics regarding pets. Unfortunately, I don't see that happening very soon in this country..
  5. pinkfluffyballs

    pinkfluffyballs PetForums Member

    Sep 7, 2010
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    I also got Eric at 8 weeks after previously being told this was ok.

    I would always wait until 12 now having heard advice on the forum.

    However...Eric is perfect! Couldn't ask for a more healthy cat but he was quite a needy kitten.

    You also face the dilemma that the breeder WILL give that kitten away at 6/8weeks to someone else so maybe you are doing the right thing by taking it and giving it a better life than someone who isn't so caring.

    It is a tough one and I totally agree, there should be guidelines on this.
  6. Abster21

    Abster21 PetForums Junior

    Mar 28, 2011
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    As upsetting as it must be in that situation, if an irresponsible breeder sees that they are making money and "getting rid" of the kittens quickly, they will just be encouraged to do it time and time again.

    When initially looking for a kitten, I contacted various adverts of people who had let their cats have litters and thought nothing of it. Then we visited a couple of rescue centres, and I can honestly say I could not buy a kitten from a private seller now (unless I particularly wanted a pegigree), after seeing all the poor kitties needing loving homes at Cats Protection and other centres.

    We found Spider and Seven at a rescue charity in Cardiff. They had been abandoned with their mother and brother, luckily all 4 were healthy and didn't seem to have been mistreated. I was much happier giving a donation to keep the charity running, as well as buying things like cat carriers from them, then giving money to a private seller who just couldn't be bothered to neuter their cat.
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