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2cats or not 2cats, that is the question

Discussion in 'Cat Training and Behaviour' started by ptolemy, Feb 11, 2019.

  1. ptolemy

    ptolemy PetForums Newbie

    Feb 11, 2019
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    I've a 23 month old female cat which someone found on a industrial car park late one night in December 2017. She's very loveable. However, there's a major problem: I work from home in I.T support. The work is hectic and demanding. The cat thinks I'm there simply to play with her. If I don't respond to her demands NOW she starts whining and it's like water-torture until I give in. I've tried shutting the door but she resorts to clawing the carpet, not to come in but just to know that I'm at her beck-and-call. She's got lots of toys and can go out at will. I dread going out dancing at night because I know that if I get home at 2 or often later in the morning she's going to be wide awake and ready to play whereas I just want to sleep. This never happens as she attacks my toes as soon as I get into bed. My fault at 64 I suppose for enjoying myself until the early hours. Someone has suggested that I get another cat of a similar age to keep her company. However, someone else said that cats are solitary animals. I had a kitten before but he came with his mother who kept him company (and in check), so he wasn't a problem in this way. Suggestions as what to do would be very much appreciated and thank you for taking the time to read all of this.
  2. chillminx

    chillminx PetForums VIP

    Nov 22, 2010
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    hello @ptolemy (great user name!) and welcome :)

    Getting another cat sounds like a good idea, if you have room for two and can afford the additional food bills and veterinary bills.

    But you will need to make sure you choose a cat that is likely to get on with your female, not a super confident cat who will move in and take over! Also, go for a cat who is independent and gets on well with other cats (a Rescue can advise you - they know their cats). Avoid a cat who is 'all over' you as soon as they meet you.

    Also, you will need to have the time available to introduce the 2 cats to each other properly. You can't just put them together and hope they get on! I mean they may do -----just possibly -- but it is not a risk worth taking. So best to go about it the correct way with slow and gradual introductions using the safe mesh screen door method.

    However even if they do get along, you can't guarantee the cats will play together. For playtime they will need you. But I am concerned whether you will have the time to keep 2 cats entertained?

    When you are at home you do need to set aside some periods of time for your cat every day (say 30 minutes a time for 3 or 4 periods a day) to devote to playing interactively with her e.g. with rod toys such as the Purrsuit, or throwing ping pong balls for her to chase etc. These should be times when you concentrate solely on your cat, not have your mind on something else such as work or the TV etc. Cats are not daft, they know when they don't have your full attention!


    (only use this toy with her when you are there to supervise).

    Cats also like play tunnels - buy 3 and tie them together. Then play hide-and-peek with her, so she can jump out of the tunnel and pounce on you.


    Scheduled periods of daytime play are even more essential on days when you're going to be out socialising all evening, and not back until the early hours. Cats are sociable creatures, they like to interact with their humans. Being ignored all day and then left alone all evening is bound to make a cat feel lonely, bored and miserable. So there needs to be compromise, i.e. on days when you plan to be out all evening, work less in the daytime and set aside plenty of time in the day to giving your cat the attention she needs and deserves.

    Also if your cat never goes outdoors then you need to 'catfiy' your home to make a cat adventure playground. This will prevent her being bored and will give her daily opportunities to exhibit normal cat behaviour. Use the space above your head, not just the floor space. Provide plenty of things for her to climb safely and places to sit up high as cats like to do. e.g tall cat trees, shelves on the wall like a staircase up to the top of cupboard (the slope made by the shelves should be no more than 45 degrees)

    Here are some ideas for you to copy, and with a few basic DIY skills you could make some of these things easily :


    Also make sure she has a window to sit at and watch the birds and squirrels. And download some cat videos on your phone for her to watch. I am sure you can think of other things to entertain her. But the main thing she needs is regular periods of interaction with you. She is much too young to sleep her life away. If you want a cat who sleeps most of the time and leaves you alone then you need an older cat, say 10 yrs old.
    #2 chillminx, Feb 11, 2019
    Last edited: Feb 11, 2019
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