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My little baby Holly is entitled to 10 hours free at a nursery from january but I realy don't know if I should let her go. My worries are because she is so young what if something happens to her and she is too little to stop it or too young to understand its wrong!
I love her soooooo much and as I'm sure everyone on here with kids feels the same as me about them I need some much needed advice and/or reasurance.
Am I being too overprotective? I know I'm right in the way I feel as it does and has happend.
The world can be such an evil place and I'm not sure if I'm ready to throw it onto my beautiful innocent little girl. Plus I don't fancy doing 10 to 15 if someone does hurt her lol
Seriously though I realy don't know what to do everyone I know thinks I should send her. Maybe its me not wanting to part from her yet :(
 

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Personally for me 2 is too young, but I'm sure others will feel differently and I've seen working parents drop off small babies at nursery, something I couldn't do either. If you don't feel ready yet then don't, she is your baby.
 

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Personally for me 2 is too young, but I'm sure others will feel differently and I've seen working parents drop off small babies at nursery, something I couldn't do either. If you don't feel ready yet then don't, she is your baby.
I agree she's too young! What if she needed me and I wasn't there? I'd never forgive myself
 

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It's actually something I was thinking about today, even though I've not had kids.

Why do people rush to get their kids into education and a stressful situation. Surely 4-5 is young enough for that? :confused:

Social situations WITH mum/dad should be adequate until then!
 

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It's actually something I was thinking about today, even though I've not had kids.

Why do people rush to get their kids into education and a stressful situation. Surely 4-5 is young enough for that? :confused:

Social situations WITH mum/dad should be adequate until then!
Agree with you Rona. They aren't allowed to be babys anymore, rush this ,rush that, got to be this ,got to be that.
 

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I think it depends on the child, the parent and the nursery.

Personally mine didn't start nursery until they were 3 1/2 - however I was lucky enough to be an at home mum until my youngest was 7, my friend however worked and her litle girl loved nursery and had a great time and it really prepared her for school :)
 

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Well that's enough for me lol I know she's too young, not mentaly as with all little girls she's 2 going on 21! But she's my baby and I want her to stay a baby as long as possible.
I do understand that it can prepare a child for school and she is shy until she gets to know people but I'm her protecter, her mum and she feels safe with me and if she crys a bit when she starts proper nursery I'll deal with it when I have to. Till then she's mine lol
Plus she realy is sooooooooo pretty :001_wub:
 

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My little baby Holly is entitled to 10 hours free at a nursery from january but I realy don't know if I should let her go. My worries are because she is so young what if something happens to her and she is too little to stop it or too young to understand its wrong!
I love her soooooo much and as I'm sure everyone on here with kids feels the same as me about them I need some much needed advice and/or reasurance.
Am I being too overprotective? I know I'm right in the way I feel as it does and has happend.
The world can be such an evil place and I'm not sure if I'm ready to throw it onto my beautiful innocent little girl. Plus I don't fancy doing 10 to 15 if someone does hurt her lol
Seriously though I realy don't know what to do everyone I know thinks I should send her. Maybe its me not wanting to part from her yet :(
It's such a hard decision to make, bless you. I understand completey where you are coming from, and this is same reason that I am working in Childcare, made me feel sad to think that my precious boy was spending a whole two and half hours of his life without me!

17 years later here I am, still workinhg with Children lol

Maybe you could go along and stay with her for just a few session initially and see the dymanics of the setting for yourself and to give time for you to get to know her carers until you can build up trust. Then maybe let her stay for an hour or so. Go from there. Remember to ask to see their policies, especially the settling in, child protection and behaviour management...

And when she is settled just think about all those skills and knowledge and confidence she will be gaining :D

After that I think you will be more prepared to make an informed decision rather than a biased one.

I don't think two is too young, not when you consider that children are expected to start school at 3 and a half in Wales and some parts of England.

In my room at Nursery I take care of 16 months to two and a half year old children. It's sometimes sad but parents unfortunately have to work.
 

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Ive only got the one (whos 23 now) As she was an only child I used to take her to mother and toddlers groups from very young to mix with other kids and play but you did stay with them. She did start going to nusery where you left them but by then she was 3 years old anyway and it was the Nusery attached to the Mum and Toddlers group so I knew them all anyway by then.

That might be an option if you can find a Mum and Toddlers group instead until shes a bit older, that way she gets used to going there and can play and mix with other toddlers and learn social skills and you wont have any worries. Us Mums used to have a good natter and a coffee that way too.
 

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It's such a hard decision to make, bless you. I understand completey where you are coming from, and this is same reason that I am working in Childcare, made me feel sad to think that my precious boy was spending a whole two and half hours of his life without me!

17 years later here I am, still workinhg with Children lol

Maybe you could go along and stay with her for just a few session initially and see the dymanics of the setting for yourself and to give time for you to get to know her carers until you can build up trust. Then maybe let her stay for an hour or so. Go from there. Remember to ask to see their policies, especially the settling in, child protection and behaviour management...

And when she is settled just think about all those skills and knowledge and confidence she will be gaining :D

After that I think you will be more prepared to make an informed decision rather than a biased one.

I don't think two is too young, not when you consider that children are expected to start school at 3 and a half in Wales and some parts of England.

In my room at Nursery I take care of 16 months to two and a half year old children. It's sometimes sad but parents unfortunately have to work.
I know what your saying and I understand that it could be a good thing for her but as I said before.................she's mine, no childminder can have her and I'm not going to share lol
I'm just so scared of the bad things that could happen to her when in reality if the world was a perfect place I shouldn't have these worries cos no bad things would happen.
Not all people who work with children are as nice as you and that's what terrifies me and also some kids are blooming feral! And my little girl isn't a toughie like that but she doesn't need to be when she's got an older sister and 3 big brothers! :D
 

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I know what your saying and I understand that it could be a good thing for her but as I said before.................she's mine, no childminder can have her and I'm not going to share lol
I'm just so scared of the bad things that could happen to her when in reality if the world was a perfect place I shouldn't have these worries cos no bad things would happen.
Not all people who work with children are as nice as you and that's what terrifies me and also some kids are blooming feral! And my little girl isn't a toughie like that but she doesn't need to be when she's got an older sister and 3 big brothers! :D
You can take the time now to find somewhere good, as Shelley has stated, check out their policies. My youngest went to a nursery where some of the staff were also mums to his friends and that made me feel better. The staff there were excellent, the manager had trained to head teacher level and the children loved her. She and the nursery staff were a rock to us when the family were going through a hard time.
 

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I know what your saying and I understand that it could be a good thing for her but as I said before.................she's mine, no childminder can have her and I'm not going to share lol
I'm just so scared of the bad things that could happen to her when in reality if the world was a perfect place I shouldn't have these worries cos no bad things would happen.
Not all people who work with children are as nice as you and that's what terrifies me and also some kids are blooming feral! And my little girl isn't a toughie like that but she doesn't need to be when she's got an older sister and 3 big brothers! :D
Aw hon, it's a pickle to know what to do for the best and it's easy to sit here and say what we think, but you know your little girl and what is best for her. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.

I've come across lots of anxious Mummies and Daddies in my time, and half of my job is about building up a trust with them.

A few things I like to do in my room is have an 'open door' Policy and that means that parents can visit at any time, whenever they wish, and if they wish to stay and play, great. And on the childs first day ( And maybe for a while after ) I'll update the Parents with a courtesy phonecall, even if it's just to say yep, they're fine, and then at the end of the day make sure that Mummy and Daddy have lots of pictures of their little one having fun :D

It takes time and I just remember how anxious I used to feel, and treat them how I'd want to be treated :)
 

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Personally I'd keep her at home for as long as you can, preschool or nursery is no substitute for being at home with you. Make the most of the time you have with her before she starts school and is locked into education for years.
 

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Personally I'd keep her at home for as long as you can, preschool or nursery is no substitute for being at home with you. Make the most of the time you have with her before she starts school and is locked into education for years.
Couldnt have put it better myself! :) My three are now all at school full time and I wish they were at home with me! They grow up so fast, I don't want to miss any precious moment.
 

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Both mine started preschool at 2. I just thought it was the done thing to be honest.

My daughter is now 3 and loves pre school. She does 3 full days a week and can't wait to go and helps me pack her lunch.

I do volunteer 1 morning a week though and have a good relationship with the staff so I trust them all completely. However I really enjoy our days together when it's just the two of us.

They are expected to go to school at 4 now so two years in preschool to socialise and play is great for them.
 
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