Any suggestions please for anything that I haven't already tried ! My Missy has now been with me for the best part of three months; she's a 2 year old DSH tabby who was rescued shortly before her previous owners were about to abandon her as they were due to be evicted. She appears to have settled well into her new home with me despite having tummy problems shortly after arriving ( happy to say all sorted now ). BUT she is still very standoffish and most of the time just ignores me (although she goes into ecstasies of delight if a man happens to visit !) She won't let me pet or cuddle her, no furry headbutts,no tummy rubs and no purrs if she does allow me to get close enough to give her chin rubs. The only times I can get anywhere near are when she wants to play or when she wants to be fed. She does jump onto my bed at night and will settle by my feet - but that's it; otherwise she makes it very clear that any attention is unwelcome. I have tried leaving her alone and ignoring her; sitting in the same room and talking softly to her (result ? tail swishes and walks out of the room) and lots of interactive playtime but nothing is working and we're no further forward than we were when she arrived. As I know little of her back story, other than what I have put above, I am now wondering if she was originally 'feral' and wasn't socialised enough as a kitten. I've had cat companions for the best part of 70 years and have never met one that I haven't been able to bond with (usually within a few days). Sadly it's now getting to the stage where I'm beginning to actively dislike her but I don't want to give up on her.