so sorry bout scamp hope life treats you better soon

karen

Thank you all so much for your comforting words. I know I shouldnt think this way, but I keep thinking about how I will feel again if I lose them and im not sure I can handle the grief process again. I havent buried Scamps ashes either yet, I want him close to me. I might go and have a look at some dogs and just see how I feel. Thank you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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[/SIGPIC]RIP my little fella - you will always be in our hearts. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello, Firstly let me say how very sorry I am for your loss.

I lost my beloved Caesar 14 weeks ago to a road traffic accident and it is only in recent weeks that I am beginning to feel a little stronger and can make it through the day without crying. He was with us for 7 years and slept on our bed every night and I will miss him always.

I fully understand and empathise on your feelings about getting another dog. I, too, feel so very burned that despite my heart saying 'do' my head tells me that the pain and sadness is just too much. Of course you have much more control with a dog than a cat (especially if they go outside as ours do) but the heartbreak and loneliness is so consuming when they are gone.

Yet always remember that they could never have been more loved in their liftime amongst us and when the bitter cold tears begin to lighten you will smile at the memories and the greatness of love and affection you were able to give and get from your beloved pet.

God Bless you.

Thank you so much for your replies. It must have been awful to lose your pet under those circumstances. My heart goes out to you. I still dont knw what to do, I'm so torn. One moment I think I can cope with another dog and the next I can't. I miss my little fella so much. He was my baby.

RIP my gorgous little boy. You will always be in my thoughts and my heartxxxxxx

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It's natural to want to love and nurture another dog plus the renewed focus of having another animal that helps to detract from the overwhelming pain of the loss. At the minute you feel consumed and overwhelmed by pain and loss and that I fully understand.


But .....my best advice is to please wait until you feel more definite about getting another dog. Give yourself time to grieve however painful and once the heartbreak has distanced the grey/blackness will begin to disperse a little and you will have a clearer perspective.

Thank you so much Jane, what you said really makes sense. I think I will wait a bit longer. My mind is all over the place at the moment. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Of course you will be and I am glad my words of 'wisdom' are proving prudent. Everybody copes differently and so many people choose to get another pet very soon and that is their perogative as it does provide a focus and brings the house to life again in many ways.

I know that losing my beautiful Caesar so unexpectedly has burned me and the difference with cats and dogs is that dog owners do have more control whereas with cats, if they are going to be let out, we must always prepare ourselves for that phone call or knock at the door.

Everybody's loss is their own and there is no time limit to grief for you loved him greatly and deeply and his absence magnifies the void of loss.

Be kind to yourself and take the day and week(s) as they come. I promise you that stabbing pain will lighten...with time. XXXXXXXXXX

yes scamp was gorgeous. such a cute little chap. your post has made me choke up. I feel your pain but try and get a little comfort knowing he isnt in any pain or discomfort any more and is happy at rainbow bridge watching over you.
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Thank you so much for your comments. He really was a cheeky little fella. I am going to try and be positive and I am not going to think about getting another dog yet - im not ready.

This forum is absolutely wonderful and everyone who has sent me messages has been so kind. I want to thank all of you for helping get me through the loss of my gorgeous little fella. THANK YOU VERY MUCH xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Sorry for your loss i have little westie my first westie