My beloved cat of 16yrs was sadly put to sleep on Saturday. He had cat aids, blood poisining and had lost most of his body weight. He was a very fine large black cat who myself, husband and daughter adored. We brought him home and burried him in the garden. I am not coping very well with the loss and seeing my 21 year old daughter cry solidly all weekend has been heartbraking. She keeps thinking about him being cold & wet underground and cant take it all in thats he's not there and I keep saying hes in a better place now. I miss him terribly and cant seem to accept hes gone. He was a much loved and adored family member and find it frustrating when people dont understand. Can anybody offer any words of comfort to ease my pain - thankyou so much x

I am so very sorry for your loss, its absolutly heartbreaking for you all, its a terrible thing to go through. We lost our dog 4 weeks ago so i can relate to the awful pain you are going through, it rips your heart out, there isnt much i can say that will help, but my thoughts are with you, and send you lots of hugs. x

Thankyou Lorna for replying, does the pain gert any easier? Its with me constantly. He was a very special cat, he was more like a dog, he responded when called and came to bed at night and slept on our bed. He has left a massive void in our lives. Cant think of anything else feel like im sinking in to a state of depression. I have to get a grip of this I know but its so hard, such a sad, sad loss. Thanks sorry for rant im just so heartbroke. x

I felt just as you do now, we didnt get out of bed for 2 days when Roo was put to sleep, we cried for 3 days without stopping. The house was totally dead without her and still i feel gutted and so very sad most days, but it does begin to ease and the pain isnt so raw and intense, i didnt beleive people when they said it will get better, as i said i am on the 4th week without our dog and i am functioning better, but still miss her so much. We felt so guilty about making the choice to put her to sleep and i do still feel bad but now know it was the right decision for her .
Your grief is at its worst as it is so early stages, but take each day as it comes you do need to mourn and as painful as it is it has be done, i am not an expert only someone who is going through it. I agree i hate people who just dont get it that the emmotion and feelings are so intense when we lose our prts but it is, it makes me angry too.
I am thinking of you and there is alot of wonderful people on this forum who will gladly help you as they did me.
Thinking of you, get in touch anytime. Lorna x

I am so sorry to hear such sad news. All I can offer is this poem, it always helps me xx


Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.

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So sorry for your loss nothing I say can make you feel any better,my cat was put to sleep at 21 and all people could say was she was a great age but that did'nt help much, it's time that helps take care xx

THankyou again everybody, your words of comfort are a great deal of help to me at this sad time. It does feel like my heart is breaking in two and I know that in time this will stop. I think it makes us all a better person to feel such love for our pets and care for them so well in life. I loved every day of it. Cant stand any form of cruelty to defenseless animals it makes me so angry like I am sure you all feel the same. Only time will help and in time I may get another but for now I cant even think about that yet. Thankyou again for your kind words of comfort it means so so much to me, it really helps to know you understand how I feel because you have felt and are still feeling it to. I send hugs to you all you words mean so much x

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my cat suddenly 2 weeks ago - he was only 6 and I can't come to terms with it. I'm so heart broken and the pain just won't go away. He was also like my little dog, came to me when I called him, slept with me and always followed me around.

I do hope with time it eases and I do hope that for you too.
He was cremated today at Silvermere Haven. I just can't get over it.

That is so sad , its heartbreaking. Thinking of you. x

hi, so sorry for your loss.
all i can say really is that it will take time, loads of time. it's like losing a member of the family. we had our cat for a long, long time and when she passed, we were heart broken. we were unlike you and didn't see her suffer at all. my heart goes out to you and your family.



blessed are the dead that the rain rains on