hi,i got my horse about 2 weeks ago,and im renting a stable/field off a woman a few miles from mine and she keeps interfering,like feeding her my hay when ive already given her plenty,and she took my haynet down and left the hay on the floor,putting her rug on when she doesnt really need it,and doesnt tell or ask me first,and she put her straw down cause she reckoned there wasnt enough in the stable(there was plenty)then left a note saying i owe her a bale of straw.The other day i gave my horse haylage cause wasnt able to get hay as the guy i get it from was away,and she asked if i was going to get hay because 'she's lost weight'.from having haylage for 2 days,she hasnt lost weight atall so this really ennoyed me and ive found somewhere alse to take her which is closer to home,but dont know how to tell her im leaving and wether to give her a bit of notice,but dont really want to leave my mare up there if she falls out with me about it.Im just going to say ive found somewhere closer etc.She did tell me someone else was there before and left abruptly because she accused her of interfering.Im not very good at confrontation,im dreading telling her.

Just give her your written notice and say you have found somewhere closer to home or something if you dont feel comfortable confronting her with the issues.

I rent fields for mine and the land owners keep an eye on my horses and sometimes go over and feed them carrots and stuff, but they NEVER interfere with my feeding of them, I wouldnt be tolerating that. Almost sounds to me like she is trying to get more money out of you for hay and straw.

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Thanks for the reply,it is so frustrating,and that i havent got the balls to say something.i think il tell her sunday afternoon and take her monday.

I hate confrontations too.
If it was me I would wait until you leave because Id be scared it would cause any upset/fallout.
Then just leave a note and say you left because she is your horse and you dont like people doing things for her without asking first.

I hope the new place is better

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thanks poisongirl,glad its not just me.Im taking her tuesday so going to tell her this morning,hopefully.I went up there last night and she had brown stuff around her mouth,i wondered what it was and realised she's been giving her horses a mineral/salt lick and she must of let mine have some too...

Do you mean you are moving your mare this Tuesday, tomorrow?

I think its really good to tell the lady when you can take your mare somewhere else there and then if need be, don't want to leave your horse on someone's land if there is any iffyness. Sometimes with situations like this I feel inclined to get the horse elsewhere and pay the last week or two of rent even though the horse isn't there just to get it away..!

Hope your new place is more suited to what you are after

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Yeh tomorrow morning,i did tell her,i wasnt sure what to do.She wasnt too happy,but didnt hit the roof or anything,i did plan to take her the same day as i told her but couldnt do it.The place im moving her to is lovely,bigger stable,more land,and other horses to ride with(she doesnt ride hers).the people im going to are really nice too.just want to get her there.A friend was going to bring her trailer but cant till late in the afternoon,so im leading her there,only a few miles,wont have time to tack her up.

Glad you have sorted your horse out - as people shouldn't interfere with your feeding regime without asking.

Having said that - be careful about changing from hay to haylage overnight as can cause colic. If changing it should be done gradually over at least a week.

Hope the new place is more to your liking. Good luck
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ok,thankyou for that,didnt realise.x

Hope the move went okay and your horse in settling in okay. x

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My family :
Sox 31 year old pony
Zara 15 year old horse
Chloe 12 year old black Lab
Sasha 9 year old black Lab
Francis (allegedly) 14 years Rescue Dog
Tosh 17 year old rescue dog - RSPCA prosecuting owner - sadly pts 28.07.11
Saffron 18 month old tortoiseshell cat
Spike, Prozac, Ginger and Snap, and now Ritz & Ryvita the Guinea Pigs

R.I.P Gabby Guinea Pig - passed away 26.01.11